You are now the second to bring this up. I haven't heard this perspective before in my years of educational training and being an educator, so thank you for sharing!
Thank you for responding to this different perspective well! Many people would get defensive and hostile so good on ya for not getting like that at all. A suggestion I have is to not get offended on behalf of others for small things. If you feel that something is offensive to a certain group it's often best to see if people from said group are actually offended by it instead of speaking for them. If it's something genuinely hateful then speaking up regardless is fine but if it's something like this where it's something semantical or a joke the people it's directed at could be fine with it. Basically unless it's clear hateful stuff it's best not to assume how it'll be taken.
I try to not be defensive and angry in general, and I find it especially easy to not get that way when someone presents their perspective in a calm friendly way like you did.
In my experience in special education, I worked with middle and high school students primarily. When other students would call them that, or call others that have no disability that, they absolutely would mean it in an insulting way (like Reddit) and it would boil my blood. I suppose I've been conditioned to just assume when people use that before the word person that they are insulting people because I'm used to working with teenagers. I shouldn't assume the worst, it's hard not to do so though working where I worked.
Last edited by Dulfite - on 23 February 2021