The way you engage in conversations annoys many people, some even stopped replying to you, you should lower the amount of counter questions in your replies and write your thought directly.

Now to the answer: Why should I differentiate between men and women?

Why do you think any of these things are attacked by transgender people? What would be an instance where the interests of feminists and transgender rights activists collided?

I most often hear about the sports issue at present, but as you wish:

The concern from where most feminists that I'm aligned with are coming from when it comes to bathroom access isn't so much worry about men who legitimately believe they are female using women's restrooms as it is concern that opportunists without this confusion will for purely voyeuristic purposes at best if we, as transgender movement activists suggest we should, collectively allow literally anyone who claims to be female to use women's restrooms.

Here's a concrete illustration of what I mean:

Last month, two groups of American high school students in Nebraska walked out of classes at around 10:30 AM local time: a group of about 20 girls saying they felt violated by the presence of a boy in the girl's restroom and a separate counter-protest consisting of about 40 of their classmates (both female and, notably, also male) supporting the boy's ostensible right to be there. The boy has recently started claiming to be female, which both state law and federal guidance now obliges Abraham Lincoln High School to admit him to the girl's restrooms. There appears to be no evidence that the boy is doing anything to transition beyond claiming to be a girl, and hence even some girls who support the transgender movement are skeptical of his claim to be female.

The main reason why girls and women need separate bathrooms and locker rooms and shelters and such is safety. Physical safety. You are exposed and at your most vulnerable in spaces like these. The fear of rape specifically is the main thing that makes girls uncomfortable with the presence of a boy in the girl's restroom. That's what these girls are experiencing. I think that's serious anyway and that they shouldn't have to experience that fear daily at a taxpayer-funded high school.

The other side argues that the boy legitimately struggles with dysphoria and feels most comfortable in the girl's restroom and that that's the issue. Okay, well at least 20 girls feel uncomfortable with him being there: where is the concern of the law for their comfort? Why does the ostensible discomfort of one boy outweigh that of 20 girls in importance?

There is no functional difference in ability to commit crimes between a bathroom which allows transgendered individuals to use and a bathroom that does not.

As for your example, it may sound harsh, but I don't particularly care about someone's worries if they are misguided. These same issues were largely brought up during the civil rights movement. Allowing black people into white bathrooms made individuals feel uncomfortable and frightened for their safety. They were afraid that they would be sexually assaulted or raped. These argument should not be entertained because they are not legitimate. They are based in racism and we should not stand besides injustices in order to validate bigotry.

You speak about a theoretical harm that could come to these kids, but then turn around and completely ignore the very real harm that is being inflicted on transgendered individuals. Violence, be it sexual or physical, is all too common against transgendered individuals, and often, bathrooms matching their assigned sex are very dangerous places for these individuals to be.

There is no functional difference, you say? Well consider these points:

-Only so many girls and women are lesbians.
-Girls and women are exponentially more likely to be sexually attacked by a man than by a lesbian.
-The average male has both a physical height (as in speed) and substantial strength advantage over the average female.

I would consider all those things meaningful distinctions; distinctions infinitely more meaningful than those between being black and being white. The fact is that girls and women statistically tend to feel safer in single-sex environments. I think that when one has their pants down is precisely the time when they're the most in need of feeling safe.

If unconventional men aren't safe in the men's restroom, that's not the fault of women. That says that men need to change. Women don't need to be penalized for male violence.

Is there some sort of laser enforced barrier at the door of a bathroom which detects an individual's chromosomal makeup to prevent MEN from entering? Typically no. If you have a bathroom that is deserted enough to allow someone to rape someone without getting caught, a dress on the door isn't going to help...

No system of doing anything is perfect, obviously, but having it set out as a policy that people should use those facilities that correspond to their biological sex both lessens the odds of girls and women facing sexual assault and accordingly causes girls and women to feel safer in these most intimate of spaces. I don't see what's difficult to understand about that.

That's such a broad question that it would be easier for me to just provide you with a video outlining some perspectives I agree with on this subject. Is it okay if I do that?

Assuming your answer is in the affirmative, here's the deal:

On March 15th, a panel discussion entitled Gender Hurts: The Feminist Fight Against Gender took place in New York City at a secret location divulged only to ticket-buyers but two hours in advance. The discussion was followed by a Declaration of Women's Sex-Based Rights, marking the formal beginning of a movement here in this country analogous to the increasingly powerful gender critical women's movement that we've seen emerge in the UK in the recent years. The whole event had an almost clandestine feel to it despite the fact that none of the activities were illegal in any way. The organizers felt that, due to harassment and threats from the transgender movement, these steps were necessary to assure the safety of the participants and attendees...a fact which by itself shows you the importance of having such events as these! It shows you the extent to which one narrative about the concept of gender identity and of gender itself has come to dominate our political landscape, and hence the merits of dissenting opinions being shared. I submit for one as a casual observation that comparable harassment and threats from feminists do not, by contrast, accompany events organized by transgender activists.

The panel talk was organized by the Women's Liberation Front (WoLF for short) and hosted by its noted representative Natasha Chart and features my personal favorite feminist speaker and thought leader: long-time lesbian feminist activist, scholar, and author Dr. Sheila Jeffreys, who is known for her unorthodox, controversial, and intellectually challenging positions on a wide range of topics. At present, Jeffreys' body of work is especially influential in South Korea's burgeoning Escape the Corset movement and among Western gender abolitionists. Here she chronicles the historical backdrop against which these gender identity events are taking place. The talk also features three detransitioned and desisted women (Chiara, Jesse, and Helena) from a group called the Pique Resilience Project who share fascinating first-hand insights about the specific dangers that today's young women and lesbians in particular face from the gender identity movement, as well as a forwarded statement by Lierre Keith of the environmental activist group Deep Green Resistance and a question-and-answer session.

I'd characterize Gender Hurts as the single best and most interesting talk that I've seen to date on the topic of gender identity. Some of the most salient points that one comes away with include the point that transgender politics are a new phenomenon, NOT something that have just always been with us historically (a powerful reality check that Jeffreys brings out at length), and the fact that the females of the transgender movement ("trans men") face significant discrimination from, and social disadvantage relative to, the males ("trans women"). Helena reveals that the latter discovery marked the beginning of her move toward detransitioning, as it turns out that male privilege doesn't care how you identify yourself. (Indeed one casually observes the curious absence of "trans male" CEOs and politicians and thought leaders and media representation in general. It's as if being biologically male gives you some sort of social advantage that women don't enjoy!)

Below you will find a video recording of the full discussion and Q&A session. Care was taken to avoid showing footage of the ordinary attendees themselves, likely out of safety concerns. (Only the panelists are shown, though one still hears the audience's questions, some of which reveal a bit of their demography.) It contains much useful information about the gender critical movement, including resources you can check out. It's 2 hours, so I recommend viewing it when you have some time on your hands:

I most often hear about the sports issue at present, but as you wish:

The concern from where most feminists that I'm aligned with are coming from when it comes to bathroom access isn't so much worry about men who legitimately believe they are female using women's restrooms as it is concern that opportunists without this confusion will for purely voyeuristic purposes at best if we, as transgender movement activists suggest we should, collectively allow literally anyone who claims to be female to use women's restrooms.

Here's a concrete illustration of what I mean:

Last month, two groups of American high school students in Nebraska walked out of classes at around 10:30 AM local time: a group of about 20 girls saying they felt violated by the presence of a boy in the girl's restroom and a separate counter-protest consisting of about 40 of their classmates (both female and, notably, also male) supporting the boy's ostensible right to be there. The boy has recently started claiming to be female, which both state law and federal guidance now obliges Abraham Lincoln High School to admit him to the girl's restrooms. There appears to be no evidence that the boy is doing anything to transition beyond claiming to be a girl, and hence even some girls who support the transgender movement are skeptical of his claim to be female.

The main reason why girls and women need separate bathrooms and locker rooms and shelters and such is safety. Physical safety. You are exposed and at your most vulnerable in spaces like these. The fear of rape specifically is the main thing that makes girls uncomfortable with the presence of a boy in the girl's restroom. That's what these girls are experiencing. I think that's serious anyway and that they shouldn't have to experience that fear daily at a taxpayer-funded high school.

The other side argues that the boy legitimately struggles with dysphoria and feels most comfortable in the girl's restroom and that that's the issue. Okay, well at least 20 girls feel uncomfortable with him being there: where is the concern of the law for their comfort? Why does the ostensible discomfort of one boy outweigh that of 20 girls in importance?

A point well made, Eric.

Granted, your analogy covers most of the concerns, but it doesn't account for voyeurism. As a human being, I find it concerning that you would allow a male to enter the women's bathroom based on nothing more than a gender claim. But as a man, I approve.