Having a rough day? C'mon.....There was no part of that I didn't understand, and it's his second language.

Don't.

You made a mistake, it wasnt calculated, just move on, don't ever pass on your guilt by telling her, that would be selfish

From a biological perspective if people could get away with it no problem, almost everyone would "cheat", but that doesn't mean you don't love the one you're with

As you get older you'll understand that monogamy is BS, but deep love for a partner is the real deal, love for a child is the real deal, but romantic/sexualy love is transitory  

It's all fun and games until it happens to you. Then, you'll know what true pain really is and you'll feel like shit for doing it to other people. Believe me.

And you don't have to physically cheat. You can cheat with your heart. That's not as bad but don't act on it (*edit* what was I trying to say, here? Oh well...) I'd be just as hurt if the person I loved was in love with somebody else over the internet or something. Either way, she's not happy with me.

My advice, if you're not happy and you're not in love anymore, leave that other person alone. Don't waste their time and energy.

It’s pretty obvious it isn’t his first

Btw: It wasn’t how he wrote it that made me say it -it was what was being argued. He had bad points and used them to attempt to refute what I said. Where you come from doesn’t prevent you from making a good point or at the very least one that isn’t easy to dismiss.

1-2 are not excuses.

3. He does not feel bad. He just doesnt want to be caught.

4. Yes

5. These are discussed early on in most relationships, shouldnt be starting now

6. Anecdotal; no evidence to support your claim

7. Again, anecdotal. That’s useless information unless you’re dating him

8. Never claimed any of those things

9. None of this is substantial to argue anything

10. Maybe if you’re drunk 

I'm just going to take it one step at a time, if she finds out, she finds out, I'll tell her it didn't mean anything and I honestly wasn't in control of the situation but looking over my back every few minutes isn't going to help and would waste my life force (yes, this thing is kinda draining).

It'll be messy and she'll probably leave me since she is very conservative. But I'll try my best for her to not to get to know about this because I'm kinda into her and I don't want such a meaningless thing that lasted for mere minutes to be taken out of context, blown to bombastic proportions and result in the end of a pretty good connection.

Is that the kind of relationship you want though, one where you can't honest and upfront about things?

I cheated once, felt bad about it, and came clean pretty much immediately...
In retrospect, the only thing I regret was being in the relationship in the first place...
I lacked the maturity needed for a rewarding, fulfilling, intimate relationship and only agreed to be in it because I thought it would make sex more accessible...
It was with the first person with whom I had ever hooked up and I was still a teenager...
They were older than me and looking back, I'm glad I got out when I did because they engaged in a lot of seedy gaslighting behaviors and were very controlling; they would even let me know their last name...
I don't know what I was thinking...

Can you help me and say how long have you dated, if you have or haven´t talked about boundaries of your relationship and do you feel bad about that mistake?

And how would you feel if you were in her place? If someone kissed her and she didn´t tell you about it.