Just want to know what's your opinion on cheating?

Would you ever excuse it?

What do you consider cheating? 

I'm in a bit of a mess soooo just want to know...

Edit: For those who want to know, I kinda cheated on my girlfriend. I made out with a girl in a party but I stopped it from going any further and thankfully we didn't have sex and thankfully my friends stayed quiet about the situation, I was drunk out of my mind and did some stupid drug and she kinda dragged me to kiss her, I know it sounds like an excuse but it's true. I didn't tell my girlfriend and I told my friends to be quiet and I swept it under the rug. Never went to parties since, not my kind of thing, don't want to get crazy and I like spending time in a more intimate and small space with small groups of friends rather than a crazy, epileptic puke smelling place. 

So a few months later, I see the girl in my school for some project and wow is it killing me inside when I'm right in front of her with my girlfriend because now there's risk of it being dug up again and I don't want her to find out any other way but from me. She doesn't have a lot of friends besides me thankfully but the occasional girl gossip can reach her and I don't want that. 

Is that cheating? Come on, that can't be cheating, right?

It’s pretty obvious it isn’t his first

Btw: It wasn’t how he wrote it that made me say it -it was what was being argued. He had bad points and used them to attempt to refute what I said. Where you come from doesn’t prevent you from making a good point or at the very least one that isn’t easy to dismiss.

Is that the kind of relationship you want though, one where you can't honest and upfront about things?

All you are doing is passing on the guilt and hurt onto someone your supposed to love so you feel a bit better, it's a selfish act, what they dont know wont hurt them, leave them in peace  

But he will know it and it will in either case affect their relationship. Also it can hurt a lot more if she founds about it from someone else. If she says that she wouldn´t want to know if he cheated on her or something like that, then it would be okay, but otherwise I would assume that she would want to know.

Living in a lie doesn´t sound that nice :/

All you are doing is passing on the guilt and hurt onto someone your supposed to love so you feel a bit better, it's a selfish act, what they dont know wont hurt them, leave them in peace  

It's selfish to damage people's perception of you in order to be honest to your significant other?

Seriously try being totally honest to everyone you care about and see how far that takes you

Humans long ago developed lying as a way to improve our social cohesion, it's biology  

Now you just shifted the topic, I asked how being honest was selfish now you're seemingly trying to make it about something else.

It's totally related

As I have already explained alleviating your guilt by confessing is putting the burden squarely on your loved one's shoulders who now has to deal with this terrible news, it's a selfish act to alleviate your own guilty conscience , leave your loved one in peacefully ignorance and spare them the suffering, and learn to carry your own guilt, sparing others pain