Cheating in relationships

[VGPolyglot]

Rab said:

VGPolyglot said:

Now you just shifted the topic, I asked how being honest was selfish now you're seemingly trying to make it about something else.

It's totally related

As I have already explained alleviating your guilt by confessing is putting the burden squarely on your loved one's shoulders who now has to deal with this terrible news, it's a selfish act to alleviate your own guilty conscience , leave your loved one in peacefully ignorance and spare them the suffering, and learn to carry your own guilt, sparing others pain 

But that's ignoring the possibility that they find out via other means.