For actual advice, I've got none. Don't cheat. Especially not with way younger girls, they most likely are drawn to older men because they have serious issues (lack of a strong male figure in their childhood... meaning they were probably abused or their father left their mother early on... makes them seek more of a "father" figure later on)

And to not seem insensitive, thats more directed at all the other people on here who may be faced with that situation later on. Not you.

I told my fiance's dad that it wasn't what it looked like. If I were cheating, why would I do it at a church? I locked up (one of) my fling's abusive boyfriends a year ago, and I saw her on my way to pick up my daughter and she flagged me down. Sound believeable? I DID arrest her boyfriend. He used to beat her up really bad. I still have photos. She broke up with him and has since been in relationships with two more abusive guys. A little lie mixed with some truth.

My fiance's dad says he didn't see anything. He said that I don't need to talk to him, I need to talk to his daughter. I'm scared to even bring it up. Maybe in the morning........ All I can say is wow. Some force far greater than me put those events in motion. I got to change something about myself.

Hahahaha. Nice. See it's funny because you got what you deserve.

I do feel bad for your fiance and daughter though.

You should definitely take this opportunity to change your ways. I would still highly recommend you do what I said in my last post.

sad that I couldn't have seen this thread sooner, as my advice would have been to just ignore the thing, and forget about the 19 year old. If you were only talking to her at the church, that doesn't automatically mean you're cheating. Quite frankly, I'd say your own reaction to this whole thing is what is going to make that look far worse than it was.
Also, from your own words; "I took my secret love out for the last time. I figured, what's the point. She's 19. I'm 31. It could never be more than a fling. Yesterday morning, she calls me. Tells me she wants to spend the day with me. Without thinking, I say yes."
Right there, you've got a problem. You're going "Oh, i wasn't planning on doing anything, honest" sure, but you also weren't planning on having anything to do with her at all after that, yet your first reaction was "sure"

Hate to say it (I don't really, but I feel like I'm expected to) but that's just not going to hack it. You were on your way to pick up your daughter and you end up talking for an hour? What about your daughter? You need to go over your priorities: Family > other people is usually the way that needs to work, and that 19 year old needs to BE "other people"
Saying that you're going to quit isn't the same as quitting. You can't expect a cigarette to become flame resistant just cause you told it you weren't going to smoke anymore.

And don't think I'm just bashing on you here. I had basically declared my relationship with my ex dead, but was still sleeping with her when I was getting involved with the woman who is now my fiance. Thing is, I came clean to my fiance about the issue on my own, and made things clear to my ex that everything was over with her. It still took me a good couple months to get back in my fiance's good graces, and even longer to forgive myself.
But there's the thing, I wasn't going "Aw, damn, I got caught, how terrible!" I was going "Damn, how could I have done that to begin with? how terrible!"

If getting caught is the only thing stopping you, you're going to screw yourself over. There will ALWAYS be a point at which you say to yourself "Hmm... nobody'll find out this one time..." You've got to recognize that the act itself is where the problem is, not the "getting caught" part.

Sometimes, people on this site are a bunch of clowns. Sometimes, you guys impress the hell out of me. I thought making this thread was a mistake, after I made it. I was wrong. Lots of good advice from you guys. -way better than anything my smart ass "real world" friends had to say, that's for sure. Good night, guys. Thanks.

Times like these make it seem very appropriate that your avatar is Zap Brannigan.

How would you feel if you found out your fiance cheated on you?  Be honest.

That's actually a pretty good explanation.

Not saying I'm condoning it or anything.  Just pray that Karma doesn't bite you in the ass for that one as well.  You've already had enough trouble as it is.

I'm sure you've gotten this message throguh your head by now, but from now on, don't cheat.  Ok? It only leads to pain.  It ends up hurting everyone involved, especially your fiancee.