Definitely should have used today to ask for her number. 

I'd definitely show up on time and just casually ask her tomorrow. I say that because showing up late can have a few negative implications. She could think you're always late, she could leave right on time thinking you stood her up or she could just get really impatient. Too many negative variables in my opinion. But Nikkom is more of an expert than I am. 

Mr Kahn is probably gonna show up 10 minutes too early... Which will presure her.. We have to remember its not a date.. its a casual coffee drink..  coming at 2:03~2:05 and saying: "sorry the dean hold me back a few minutes,I wanted to text you but then I realised I don't have your number" is perfectly fine.. and he gets the number.. or do you really think he has the balls to ask her directly for her number?

You and I just have different mentalities I suppose. I'd show up 10 minutes too early too but I'd wait to order and if the guy I was meeting with asked if I'd been there long, I'd just say "I just got here too."  

I'd like to think that since he seems to be gaining some confidence while she's around that he might feel better about it. Normally, I go about this the opposite way too, where I get a number first and if things start working out, I add them on facebook. 

You and I just have different mentalities I suppose. I'd show up 10 minutes too early too but I'd wait to order and if the guy I was meeting with asked if I'd been there long, I'd just say "I just got here too."  

I'd like to think that since he seems to be gaining some confidence while she's around that he might feel better about it. Normally, I go about this the opposite way too, where I get a number first and if things start working out, I add them on facebook. 

Mr. Khan, congrats on your progress. It's great you overcame your fears, even if it's taken you a long ass time, lol.

For the coffee thing, being a few minutes early or late is not a big deal, as long as you don't make it seem like one. And don't worry if she's late, most people are usually late.

Remember it's not a date! Have fun, make her laugh if you can, have interesting conversations. You're enjoying some good company over some damn good coffee.

Don't talk TOO much about yourself, also show interest, ask her a few questions and listen to her. But don't just ask questions either, lol.

Also, don't talk too much about uni related stuff only, make it more personal and tell her stories about your stay in Japan or whatever makes you stand out, as long as it's not too nerdy. You can show her a couple of pictures, they are good conversation starters (but don't overwhelm her like it's a slide show).

Don't complain! Women don't dig that, seriously. Be positive and confident.

And no awkward silences, that's a sure-fire way of making her lose interest.

Anyway, I think this is all common sense and that you know it, but just a reminder. IT'S NOT A DATE. Have fun, enjoy, be cool, and and the end of it all tell her "let's do it again" and when she says "sure" ask for her number.

I'm on top of basically all of that. It was pointed out to me a few years ago that i talk about myself too much, so since then i've been trying to avoid that (or if not avoid it, simply give whatever anecdote i wanted to give and append it with "what about you, have you ever _______ like that?")

Getting away from Uni stuff is the trickiest part, just because i have only a vague idea of her likes and dislikes. I know better than to come out swinging with the gaming, or even mention it at all if it's not very salient to the point i'm making, but it's hard to move off into unknown territory like that. Not that i'm especially daunted. Part of the reason why i got deferred today was that she wanted to attend this one panel of speakers about "Green Jobs", but me, her, and a few other folks showed up about half an hour early, ended up watching funny internet videos so i can at least take a stab at preferences from that angle.

Don't worry, not knowing what she likes is totally fine! She's not your GF, she's just this classmate that you think is nice. NOW that you're having coffee with her, it's your chance to get to know her a little. She probably doesn't know what you like either and she doesn't care one bit, she's just having coffee with you. Caring about what each other likes comes when there's a reason to care.

Don't worry about what to talk about, just go with the flow. One theme leads to another, then another... have a natural conversation, don't force it. And show her your positives without making it seem like you're showing off.

I know it's very easy to say that but not that easy to pull off.

But one question: if it's not a date, it's still cool if i treat her, right?