The Romantic Advice Thread

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Mr Khan said:

I'm on top of basically all of that. It was pointed out to me a few years ago that i talk about myself too much, so since then i've been trying to avoid that (or if not avoid it, simply give whatever anecdote i wanted to give and append it with "what about you, have you ever _______ like that?")

Getting away from Uni stuff is the trickiest part, just because i have only a vague idea of her likes and dislikes. I know better than to come out swinging with the gaming, or even mention it at all if it's not very salient to the point i'm making, but it's hard to move off into unknown territory like that. Not that i'm especially daunted. Part of the reason why i got deferred today was that she wanted to attend this one panel of speakers about "Green Jobs", but me, her, and a few other folks showed up about half an hour early, ended up watching funny internet videos so i can at least take a stab at preferences from that angle.

Don't worry, not knowing what she likes is totally fine! She's not your GF, she's just this classmate that you think is nice. NOW that you're having coffee with her, it's your chance to get to know her a little. She probably doesn't know what you like either and she doesn't care one bit, she's just having coffee with you. Caring about what each other likes comes when there's a reason to care.

Don't worry about what to talk about, just go with the flow. One theme leads to another, then another... have a natural conversation, don't force it. And show her your positives without making it seem like you're showing off.

I know it's very easy to say that but not that easy to pull off.