Oh HappyD. Good luck working this out!

If he says again that she does have a nice vagina...

Yes, of course it is! Or at least that's what I keep telling myself.

What fantasy did I destroy of nikkom's?  LOL

OT HappyD, it sounds like you are attracted to women, but can't stand them.  Welcome to the life of many men.  I don't understand the warm and fuzzy thing when you look at dudes though.

Put it this way, they relax me :)

It sounds like you dig Harrison Ford.  There's nothing wrong with that.

Most boys after puberty sets in have a difficult time of developing any type of relationship with a girl, unless they developed them before puberty set in. Most boys learn to develop relationships because their sexual desires propel them in that direction. Your physical attributes can help generate interest by the opposite sex, but not everyone can be blessed that way. The rest of us have to double-down and learn how to cultivate relationships with the opposite sex.

Context is important here, how old are you? If you're 15-16, right now girls are looking for the most generic looking hot guy they can find. Be unique, because 15-16 year old girls will get bored with them soon enough. By 17, most girls are growing out of their girly phase and looking for something more substantial from a guy. This is where you need to fix a lot of your short-comings.

The next thing to work on is figuring out of your expectations of the opposite sex are realistic or not. If you keep searching for your physically ideal girlfriend out of the girls in your school, or surrounding area, you may not find her. Don't use physical attributes as the measure of worth for someone. If you don't, in the long-term, she won't. Make realistic expectations.

To start out with, what you seem to value the most is someone who is interesting. So, what do you feel is interesting about yourself? What do you do that is unique or do you value as a personal attribute?

Next, work on communication. If you want to be in a relationship with someone, anyone, you need to figure out how to communicate. Especially with women, talk. Guys speak in a shorthand language sometimes, but we generally don't with women. If anything we often say the very opposite of what we mean or feel and communicate something we don't want to say.

Next, women are far more complex and complicated than you may believe. They want to be a locked box, they want to be an enigma, they want to be the unsolvable riddle. They want those things because they want the man who can unlock them, to be the man of their dreams. If what you're hoping for is for them to make it easy, they won't. If what you're hoping to read from anyone is an easy solution, you won't find it.

Overcoming bad habits or developing new skills often requires taking baby steps. Social skills are one of the most difficult skills to acquire and one of the most easiest skills to lose. So it is painfully important to take your time and develop them, rather than trying to bully your way through them. Women are social creatures, men are typically less so. We can get on with one or two friends, women tend to have a social group of close friends, then a wider net of friends. If you're not a social person, you need to be social.

I generally recommend inviting someone to a movie in a social situation. It's a non-threatening approach and the least awkward to do. Always ask open-ended questions. Yes/no questions are only useful when you want to know an answer, but open-ended question is great for learning what someone thinks. Ask "What did you think of...?" instead of "Did you like...?" The latter may get you a quick and dirty answer, but it doesn't really demonstrate that you have any interest in that person. While you could follow it up with an open-ended question, you might have cut-off the conversation inadvertently.

Never put down her interests. Even if you think they are the most shallow, callous, or materialistic things you could possibly imagine. As the saying goes, "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all." That is especially true when you're trying to get to know someone as well as in relationships in general. If you ask, "What music do you like?" and she responds with "Justin Bieber", don't reel back in disgust and say "Oh my god! Why?" Say something like "Yeah, a lot of girls do. What do you like about his music?" And as difficult as it will be, follow up that conversation with thoughtful questions. Like, "Have you been to one of his gigs?" You can eventually start talking about your music interests, but don't start it with "I like...", instead start it with "Have you ever listened to...? and then "What did you think?"

If you go out on a group/social date like a movie as a group, follow it up with something like a lunch either alone or again as a group. Show interest, but don't necessarily take her out of her comfort zone. Social dates are often a lot easier simply because there are more people to interact with, and it's entirely possible that you may not hit it off with your initial interest, but may instead hit it off with one of her friends. Note it if it happens, but keep your interest going in her until she flat out says she's not interested.

Which is another thing. Don't just stop. Girls, enigmas, locked boxes, riddles. If you stop talking to her or socializing with her because you think she's not interested, then you may have just ended a budding relationship. If a girl isn't interested in you, she'll tell you.

Lastly, be interesting. Find something interesting about yourself, be interested in things, and be able to communicate your interest in things. By that, NO, your sole interesting thing should not be video games. It can be one thing, and it can be something you share, but it needs to be something tangible that her friends are going to appreciate as well. You can play guitar, you're really smart, you like reading books, you're really interested in art, history, or some scientific school of learning. Something. Anything. Figure out something interesting about yourself and if not, learn something that others will find interesting about you.

Nothing you mentioned in your post suggested any reason why a girl wouldn't find you interesting. Being thin, being of middle eastern decent, or being less than rich doesn't change whether or not you're interesting. Whether or not you're interesting depends on whether or not you have any interests or skills that make you interesting.

Just compare your reaction to the male physique

to your reaction to the female physique

Hope that helps!

You didn't read the not liking the buff part did you...

...or he could notice King Kong being in the picture