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Forums - General - Is it possible to be a hetero but have a legit visual enjoyment of the male physique? (diagnose me)

 

My diagnosis

Jacked off once too many. 21 17.80%
 
Maybe it's something els... 14 11.86%
 
Might be a homo. 49 41.53%
 
You're fucked. 31 26.27%
 
Total:115
Proclus said:
Maybe you're just in a phase? Maybe you just want to change something about your body? Maybe you need some more physical contact with the ladies?

If you've felt warm, fuzzy and horny because of women all your life so far then I'd say its pretty unlikely that you're full blown gay mate.

I guess we'll know if you get arrested and pick up someone's soap when asked. :)

The wierd thing is that I have rarely felt warm and fuzzy about women, only in a few rare cases. I get another feeling for women, it's more like I'm leaping from inside.



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Well, Idk how old u are but I'm gay and tbh I didn't have any attraction for guys 'till a couple years ago... I'm 23 and I used to think the same, "I wish I was as hot as that guy" or feel uncomfortable w girls but at some point u are going to realize if u are attracted to men or not! The only thing I gotta say id if u are, go for it, cause u just start growing as a person! I used to be so shy and quiet and coming out not only helped me w my sexuality but also w my social life and my life goal! Now I do what I feel comfortable and that's when u start really growing!



Sounds like a typical case of a child being told too much by his religious parents that being gay was wrong to the point that his gayness has been dormant for many years but it has now awakened.
Sending leo-j your way to get a confirmation.



Omg your Indy avatar makes so much sense now. Harrison Ford is prime mancrush material. 



Sal.Paradise said:

Omg your Indy avatar makes so much sense now. Harrison Ford is prime mancrush material. 

And that's why I like you. You're smart.



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happydolphin said:

Okay guys, here's the scoop. I've been paying attention to my physical attractions, and this is what I've noticed about myself. I developed some kind of unexpected disinterest in women lately. I've always noticed that I enjoy the male physique, I like to see a good looking man, but find it completely repulsive to think of getting sexual with a man, bar certain punctual fantasies.

So, when I look at a dressed man of a proportionate figure, I feel fuzzy warm. I feel cold when I think of a beautiful woman. What is going on with me, and have any heteros here experienced something similar? Please don't judge.

I'm beginning to think that lust fucked everything up, have any of you experienced anything similar? Since I want to get that warm vibe with women again, I'm planning on chasing lust completely from my life, since I feel the warm fuzzier for men, yet I don't lust over them. What do you all think?

Do you feel or believe you're attractive to women? 

Are the attributes you find attractive in other men attributes you posses? 

What you're facing is the question of what is acceptable masculinity.  Modern perceptions of masculinity generally dictate that the more masculine features of men are what women should be attracted to.  So, men who don't posses those attributes often desire them.  How do you define masculine?  Is it a man that possesses the attributes you find attractive?  If so, then you may have a skewed definition of masculinity, you may not feel you can achieve those same attributes, or you don't know how to.  If you possess the attributes, and you definitely feel you're attractive to women, it may simply be that you're sexually attracted to guys. 

From the sounds of it, you're not getting attention from the ladies, you're looking at other guys trying to understand what they're attracted to, and in turn are desiring those traits yourself.

If what you really want is a relationship with a woman (girl) than develop strong friendships, work on being a friend and see if anything develops.  Depending on your age, you may also be in a period where women (girls) have the unrealistic belief that guys that possess the attributes you think they desire are they guys they go for.  Generally by 18 they start developing more realistic expectations and realize guys that are REALLY good looking know it and aren't generally the best guys in the world.  Where as the slightly less than perfect guys, are typically really good guys.





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happydolphin said:
Sal.Paradise said:

Omg your Indy avatar makes so much sense now. Harrison Ford is prime mancrush material. 

And that's why I like you. You're smart.

OT I think you can have the best of both worlds. I admire and recognize male beauty (and occasionally hold my own mancrushes) but girls are special and are always the final destination in the back of my mind. Hopefully that'll be the same for you because it makes things so simple and it feels good. 



Well I'm 100% hetero, but I'm secure enough in my masculinity to admit when I see a good looking man, such as Jon Hamm or Matt Bomer. But as much as I may admit they're good looking, I lust the hell out of women too so we aren't exactly on the same boat.

As long as it stops at thinking a dude is good looking, and never becomes a sexual fantasy, I don't think you're homosexual.



axumblade said:
Silly HappyD. Just because I'm irresistible doesn't mean you're gay. ;) Just stop stalking my facebook profile and we'll call it even. Ok? ;p

hehehe :) you're just too *deep sigh*, I can't resist :P

@adinnieken.

I'm not sure to be honest. I've never been a fan of the buff type, for example, yet many girls are about that. I'm also half middle-eastern, and in this region of Canada (Fredericton, New Brunswick), it is very hard to fit in the cool club looking middle-eastern, as sad as that is. I can have a great personality, be a really fun guy, but getting in the acceptance circle is pretty tough.

Personally I'll value more a physique like Harrison Ford in Raiders, for example. Well defined, but not too ripped, and a nice tan. Handsome like George Clooney, that kind of handsome. That is a physique I wish I had. These days getting even a good meal hasn't been too easy, food is pricy and salaries are low here.

So that's how I define masculine, and that's what I desire, yet the women around me collectively seek a different type of masculine. I'm definitely not getting attention from the ladies. At first I get some attention, but there's something I do that turns them away fairly soon, maybe I'm uninteresting, of all things Happyd is... Uninteresting. For some reason I feel fully emancipated on vgchartz, yet when comes the time to socialize in real life, I fail miserably. I fail at eye contact, I fail at body language, I fail at keeping a conversation alive... I fail at all those things that seem to be where others make things work. My 50 year old friend is better with the ladies than I am, and he doesn't have a better physique than I do.

For some funny reason, I find girls terribly uninteresting... :( Is my perception of the opposite sex flawed and how bad is it?