| happydolphin said: Okay guys, here's the scoop. I've been paying attention to my physical attractions, and this is what I've noticed about myself. I developed some kind of unexpected disinterest in women lately. I've always noticed that I enjoy the male physique, I like to see a good looking man, but find it completely repulsive to think of getting sexual with a man, bar certain punctual fantasies. So, when I look at a dressed man of a proportionate figure, I feel fuzzy warm. I feel cold when I think of a beautiful woman. What is going on with me, and have any heteros here experienced something similar? Please don't judge. I'm beginning to think that lust fucked everything up, have any of you experienced anything similar? Since I want to get that warm vibe with women again, I'm planning on chasing lust completely from my life, since I feel the warm fuzzier for men, yet I don't lust over them. What do you all think? |
Do you feel or believe you're attractive to women?
Are the attributes you find attractive in other men attributes you posses?
What you're facing is the question of what is acceptable masculinity. Modern perceptions of masculinity generally dictate that the more masculine features of men are what women should be attracted to. So, men who don't posses those attributes often desire them. How do you define masculine? Is it a man that possesses the attributes you find attractive? If so, then you may have a skewed definition of masculinity, you may not feel you can achieve those same attributes, or you don't know how to. If you possess the attributes, and you definitely feel you're attractive to women, it may simply be that you're sexually attracted to guys.
From the sounds of it, you're not getting attention from the ladies, you're looking at other guys trying to understand what they're attracted to, and in turn are desiring those traits yourself.
If what you really want is a relationship with a woman (girl) than develop strong friendships, work on being a friend and see if anything develops. Depending on your age, you may also be in a period where women (girls) have the unrealistic belief that guys that possess the attributes you think they desire are they guys they go for. Generally by 18 they start developing more realistic expectations and realize guys that are REALLY good looking know it and aren't generally the best guys in the world. Where as the slightly less than perfect guys, are typically really good guys.
