He's bi (I'm straight, not that that matters in this situation). He likes girls, but he has a boyfriend and he's not a cheater. I'd gladly get her off his back myself, but (realistically) I'm no James Bond, so it would be foolish to have that as the main plan (I love making elaborate plans , that particular option is Plan B).

Well then just say he's not interested, it's not like she's going to molest him if he doesn't like her? Does a guy have to like a girl if she likes him, no.

Unless she's hot...is she hot?

this thread is still going on? Where's Trashleg or Lolita when you need them?? and when they get here they better make me a sandwich!

I don't see what's wrong with saying "I'm sorry, I'm just not interested in you like that."

Really, how hard is it? It's the TRUTH!

Here are some other examples: "We go to different colleges, it would be too difficult for us to date and I'd rather not."

"I need to focus on my schooling and right now is not the best time for me to be dating anyone, sorry."

There are an infinite amount of ways to turn her down by saying "no" rather than saying "omfg i'm bi and I have a boyfriend!~!~!~!~!~!~!~!~!"

Don't personally know her, but he says the she is.

Well there's all kinds of situations when that won't be effective. Take this for example:

Salvatore: I'm just not interested in you like that.

Pam (let's call the girl Pam): Why not? Is there something wrong with me?

Salvatore: No It's just that...

Pam: Well are you seeing anybody else?

Salvatore: Um no, but...

Pam: So, if you're not seeing anyone why can't we at least give this a try?

Salvatore: Well um...

Pam: Come on Salvatore! Tell me, why can't you at least give this a try?

Salvatore: Screw it I have a boyfriend!

Pam: O_o

Salvatore: Oopsy...

(Flash forward to the next day when all his friends know he's bi, his mother is weeping and his homophobic father is chasing him with a crowbar)

This could happen, the girl from what he told me is ballsy and Salvatore (while he doesn't realise it) is naive and easy to break (the poor fool was intending to take her to a restaurant for their meeting, and she could've easily misinterpreted that as a date - thankfully I set him straight about that). Maybe I'm a little bit paranoid. but I like to be extra carefull when I do such things, and I think my paranoya is rubbing off on him too, but if it keeps him fron getting burned then so be it.

My bad, but it's also fixable. How's about something like:

Scenario 1- If he has a job for the year-

"Unfortunately, I just don't have the time for a relationship with you. Right now, I'm working to have some money for relaxing after finishing school, the rest will go toward my upcoming college costs. If I were to start taking some of the meager time I have now to see you, it would only grow less and less, especially once I go to school, and will need that much more time to study and do well there. Coupling this with my job next year, I'd not be able to give you the time you'd deserve, so it just won't work as things stand." (Technically truthful; as things are now, it wouldn't work and he doesn't have time- that time is with his BF. Whether or not he'll keep the job is really irrelevant, but it keeps the future look there.)

Scenario 2- No job, no nothing-

"Nope, not looking for a relationship, sorry. I'm planning on going off to college next year, where I'm going to be bogged down with other time constraints. And after that, it'll be entering the work force. This year I have now is possibly my last year to actually be able to be free and unbound. While you are a nice person, I really don't want to have any commitment for this year. And even if I had, it would be even more that could distract me from my ultimate goal of going to med school. Even if you think you could wait, it's really not a fair thing to do, as our needs are seperate." (Again, technically true; he's not looking for a relationship, he has one. And I don't know too many people who would call their relationship, especially in an early stage, "bound.")

If there's a scenario 3 that I need  to work out, lemme know, and I'll see what I can do for that. I don't mind doing this, even if I consider it my curse. (I seem to have a knack for helping people in or getting a relationship... except myself.)

It may be a bit of paranoia, but admittingly, someone who's not good with relationships and interpretations does need help; the worst part is that most of them don't know it. Since you clearly know about him, there will be times, especially in an area that seems to be rather... reserved, if you will, about homosexuality, that he needs to lean on. Unknowingly, he's leaning on you now for the guidance you're giving him. (This isn't a bad thing, my guess is that with his nativity, he just doesn't know it yet.) The absolute most important thing you can do is be there when he knows he needs someone to lean on... and it will probably happen if he gets burnt by actually stepping forward.

Thanks for actually taking this seriously. He plans on travelling this year, before he starts Uni next year (doesn't know how he'll get the money for it though. Anyways both your versions are good. I'll pass them along to him tomorrow (hope he doesn't mind, he doesn't know I posted this on here, but I'm just trying to help).

Hope other people post valid solutions. I think he's meeting her tomorrow, so there's still enough time to create an elaborate plan with back-up plans, and emergency escape measures (lol, I love doing stuff like this).

Yeah, he is naive. And he's only out to me and another person, so he doesn't have many people with whom he can talk about this. I'm doing my best to try and help him. Hope in the end I'm just being paranoid and it all ends well. Gay/bi people are treated pretty badly over here, and most of his "friends" will probably show their true colors if they find out he's bi. Don't want to get started on how his parents will react.