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Men choose to remain single and give up on women?

They do not want to becom... 7 9.86%
 
They do not want to change! 8 11.27%
 
They do not need a woman'... 1 1.41%
 
They do not want to conform to society! 3 4.23%
 
They have busy life and d... 6 8.45%
 
They are a man-child and ... 9 12.68%
 
They are regarded as a lo... 9 12.68%
 
Modern feminism double st... 11 15.49%
 
Other! 17 23.94%
 
Total:71
bubblegamer said:
It's called being gay.

Amen sis



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Dark_Lord_2008 said:

I have lived a life of loneliness, isolation and misery. I have never had the opportunities in life and endured endless bad luck. I have quit on many things and tried for a new start but it never seemed to work out because of endless bad luck. Life does not change by reading self help books, thinking positive or praying. I do not like failure or rejection so I do not bother trying. I do not accept failure, I take it all personally and I get upset. I never had the mental maturity to cope with dating mind games so I gave up at 16. I have no brothers and no friends to back me up in fights at a bar/club so I stay at home at play my video games and watch TV. One less guy in the dating game makes it easier for the competition and it is better to give up when you have no hope of success. It takes self-awareness to understand you have no hope at dating and your time and effort is better used doing other things.

I have spoke the truth on here and admitted I have no hope in regards to dating and accepted it was better to give up and focus on living out my life.  I have so much time to watch all the TV shows I want to watch, listen to music, read more  books, fitness and play all the video games I want to play.  When there is no pressure it is time to relax and enjoy life doing things I want to do. When you are single for life and you have more time to do what you want with your life. No responsibilities and no pressure of trying to make other people happy. I will pursue interests and hobbies that add value and make me feel happy. 

For real man, being single aint so bad. I get lonely at times, but at the end of the day I appreciate my solitude and the peace and freedom that comes with that. I could choose to spend a lot of time sulking and feeling down but I reached a point in my mid 20s where I mostly cut that out. I came to the revelation that there's no sense in compounding being alone with feeling like shit in addition. (Alcohol helps too lol, though I try to keep it in relative moderation).

And I think deep down, from where my life is at right now, I just don't really care to get into a relationship. Maybe this will change soon, and when it does, I'll be ready to buckle down and kick some ass. But the way I see it I need to spend a bit more time getting my affairs in order.

I've have a small core group of cool and supportive friends and family, and have had female friends that keep me from spiraling too far into loneliness, but even if you don't have much in that area, just being content within yourself and taking care of yourself, having fun, etc. That's all that matters at the end of the day. And it couldn't hurt to get out there and make some friends for starters - join a club, take a class, join a sporting group/team, etc. Hell even online communities are better than nothing.

I've certainly had my share of opportunities with a few women I was pretty sure were into me (which was mostly as a result of simply hanging out with my good friend and his friends), but I squandered the opportunities thanks to my shyness and/or nativity at the time. But I use that as a learning experience.

It also helps to put things in perspective. I walk through the streets of Chicago and see homeless people everywhere; I've heard of people who have lost very close loved ones and have had cases of cancer and other diseases. It can always be worse.



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Dark_Lord_2008 said:

I have lived a life of loneliness, isolation and misery. I have never had the opportunities in life and endured endless bad luck. I have quit on many things and tried for a new start but it never seemed to work out because of endless bad luck. Life does not change by reading self help books, thinking positive or praying. I do not like failure or rejection so I do not bother trying. I do not accept failure, I take it all personally and I get upset. I never had the mental maturity to cope with dating mind games so I gave up at 16. I have no brothers and no friends to back me up in fights at a bar/club so I stay at home at play my video games and watch TV. One less guy in the dating game makes it easier for the competition and it is better to give up when you have no hope of success. It takes self-awareness to understand you have no hope at dating and your time and effort is better used doing other things.

I have spoke the truth on here and admitted I have no hope in regards to dating and accepted it was better to give up and focus on living out my life.  I have so much time to watch all the TV shows I want to watch, listen to music, read more  books, fitness and play all the video games I want to play.  When there is no pressure it is time to relax and enjoy life doing things I want to do. When you are single for life and you have more time to do what you want with your life. No responsibilities and no pressure of trying to make other people happy. I will pursue interests and hobbies that add value and make me feel happy. 

You are not meant to have the mental maturity to date before you were 16. This is why you are classified as a child lol. At that age half the girls are so shy or scared of what their dads will say they will traumatically say no to dating. Those relationships never last anyway (well maybe like 5% do).

As for failure I already said all I can. No one likes failure, everyone gets upset, hell grown men cry when they loose a final in sport after all year trying to get to the top. The more you fail the easier it gets to cope with it.

Why do you need back up in a bar for fights? Why does fighting even cross your mind lol? Go there to have a few drinks and relax. talk to some blokes make friends.

You say you have all this spare time, including for fitness then get fit if that is what you want. cut your hair different, smile more that will instantly improve yourself image.

 

You talk about endless bad luck? Everyone has bad luck. Here is some of mine:


- Born 3 month premature, was just over the size of a coke can and needed a blood transfusion and was in one of those incubator things for  a few months.

- I was born legs out first and because it was premature they had no time for cesarean as they worried i was going to die and essentially pulled my leg out of my hip. was lucky they did not rip my leg off.

- I had eye surgery when I was young to remove something that was covering it, the doctor slipped and cut my eye leaving a scare where it impacted my vision.

- My brother through a huge rock in front of me when I was riding my bike down a dirt track in a forest. Went flying over the handle bars and smashed my  face into a tree.

- I had a gun pointed at my head by a Russian solider when I was 5 because he thought it was funny.

- I got hit by a car crossing a pedestrian crossing. road was wet so car slid to the wrong side.

- I was in two car accidents two days in a row, in two different cars.

- Injured my other eye and now it plays up all the time where I need antibiotics and steroids to heal it, then it goes away for a while and comes back when my body is warn out form lack of sleep.

- Back injury for 2 years where I could barely walk (6 months into a new job I just started). I was a prisoner in my own house looking at the same walls.

- I was told daily by my maths teacher i'd never been an engineer because i didn't take my classes seriously, yet here I am telling him fuck you.

- I lost a great job because someone from South Africa decided we needed to cut 60% of the workforce without seeing what value you added and instead create more management layers and hired all his mates to manage.

 

At the end of the day all that shit impacted me mentally but we all get hit hard and it is how much you get get back up from those hits that will make you strong. It would have been easy to dwell for me on the above and say fuck i am unlucky. Don't get me wrong I did but eventually I moved on, as you have to at some point to move forward.



 

 

Dark_Lord_2008 said:

I have lived a life of loneliness, isolation and misery. I have never had the opportunities in life and endured endless bad luck. I have quit on many things and tried for a new start but it never seemed to work out because of endless bad luck. Life does not change by reading self help books, thinking positive or praying. I do not like failure or rejection so I do not bother trying. I do not accept failure, I take it all personally and I get upset. I never had the mental maturity to cope with dating mind games so I gave up at 16. I have no brothers and no friends to back me up in fights at a bar/club so I stay at home at play my video games and watch TV. One less guy in the dating game makes it easier for the competition and it is better to give up when you have no hope of success. It takes self-awareness to understand you have no hope at dating and your time and effort is better used doing other things.

I have spoke the truth on here and admitted I have no hope in regards to dating and accepted it was better to give up and focus on living out my life.  I have so much time to watch all the TV shows I want to watch, listen to music, read more  books, fitness and play all the video games I want to play.  When there is no pressure it is time to relax and enjoy life doing things I want to do. When you are single for life and you have more time to do what you want with your life. No responsibilities and no pressure of trying to make other people happy. I will pursue interests and hobbies that add value and make me feel happy. 

Maybe that's your problem. You either quit or don't try. That's not very attractive. You're not meant to just get things handed down to you, you're not meant to just wake up and suddenly have a girlfriend. Life is full of failure and rejections, you're meant to pick yourself back up and stop acting like a child. 

Some chick probably thinks you're attractive but won't go out with you because of your attitude. 



Dark_Lord_2008 said:

I have lived a life of loneliness, isolation and misery. I have never had the opportunities in life and endured endless bad luck. I have quit on many things and tried for a new start but it never seemed to work out because of endless bad luck. Life does not change by reading self help books, thinking positive or praying. I do not like failure or rejection so I do not bother trying. I do not accept failure, I take it all personally and I get upset. I never had the mental maturity to cope with dating mind games so I gave up at 16. I have no brothers and no friends to back me up in fights at a bar/club so I stay at home at play my video games and watch TV. One less guy in the dating game makes it easier for the competition and it is better to give up when you have no hope of success. It takes self-awareness to understand you have no hope at dating and your time and effort is better used doing other things.

I have spoke the truth on here and admitted I have no hope in regards to dating and accepted it was better to give up and focus on living out my life.  I have so much time to watch all the TV shows I want to watch, listen to music, read more  books, fitness and play all the video games I want to play.  When there is no pressure it is time to relax and enjoy life doing things I want to do. When you are single for life and you have more time to do what you want with your life. No responsibilities and no pressure of trying to make other people happy. I will pursue interests and hobbies that add value and make me feel happy. 

So....if you're good doing the single thing, why do you keep making these threads that suggest otherwise?



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There could be a whole world of reasons....

Some men just feel better living alone. Some donīt want a serious engagement. Aome simply donīt have time to dedicate to a family, Some are just unlucky with relationships or not romantic at all. Some will never find true love. Some have different goals in life, like travelling all around the world, engaging in missionary works, become religious leaders. Some had bad experiences and are just tired.

Different people, different lives.

Overwhelming anxiety, but that is just me. Wouldn't call it a choice



I have a friend in his 40's who is incapable of having a relationship of any significance because he does not have the ability to compromise. I personally don't think everyone is lucky enough to meet someone who has the ability to change and adapt as the circumstances in life change. Some can't forgive and look at all women having the same faults rather then just the person you are with. I have had only three very serious relationships about 5 non serious relationships, Today I have been with my partner for 18 years have a beautiful step daughter and gran daughter and am 47. My other serious relationships well one passed on from Cancer, she was my first love and first woman I was intimate with and the other I have no idea.

I think I would be to lonely without a relationship.

Been in a serious relationship for about a year. - And kinda' wished I wasn't.
Life was more relaxed and enjoyable in general when there wasn't any strings and I could bang whoever, I am not the kind of bloke who wants to do all the smoochy stuff anyway.

At the end of the day. we here are trying to help you. However seeing all your responses after each comment it shows that there is bigger concern beyond what we can say with words. I even went out of my way to dig up the past on things that I sometimes would rather forget. I don't normally do that but when I see what you are going through I had to give examples.

Honestly you should seek some professional help. Hell discuss this thread with them and some of the points raised. I think an in person interaction will help you get other some of these negative thoughts you have about yourself. They may even help you during the session on how to deal with these issues and provide you tools to deal with hem outside the sessions.