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D_Boy on 06 July 2009

^^ Waron...he already bought her a DSi...didn't work...why? Cos she is a bitch and appreciates nothing...expect a good pounding from behind.



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Dgc1808 on 06 July 2009

Let her go. Tell him to find another.



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bardicverse on 06 July 2009
Hawk said:
bardicverse said:
In a barely related topic, my gf encouraged me to keep playing COD:WaW last night because she liked watching me get pissed off and cursing at the TV

Hehe.  I have the same problem as ShadowSoldier's brother in all actuallity.  My wife asks me to spend less time playing video games.  And I give in.  I know, I know.  I'm whipped.  But she does have a better reason than ShadowSoldier's brother.  It's so that she can take over the TV and play herself.

LOL it sounds like you need 2 rigs, one for the main room and one for the den or bedroom, a 2nd room, so you can be "separate but equal", a key often vital in a relationship. If my gf is busy playing Sims 3 for 4 hours, I can play COD for 4 hours =)



madskillz on 06 July 2009
Hawk said:
bardicverse said:
In a barely related topic, my gf encouraged me to keep playing COD:WaW last night because she liked watching me get pissed off and cursing at the TV

Hehe.  I have the same problem as ShadowSoldier's brother in all actuallity.  My wife asks me to spend less time playing video games.  And I give in.  I know, I know.  I'm whipped.  But she does have a better reason than ShadowSoldier's brother.  It's so that she can take over the TV and play herself.

Nah, you aren't whipped - you are just bowing to her desire. My wife was complaining because I was on the system while she was trying to sleep. Valid point. So I moved the consoles downstairs - away from her - so she could sleep. Then, she moved to the couch and said she was trying to sleep. I had to nip that in the bud. I told her I moved it for her once - and the  bed was free.

In the end, I realized she wanted to be close to me, so I hold off playing games mostly unless it's a pressing review I have to do.

 



madskillz on 06 July 2009
scottie said:
madskillz said:
scottie said:
Wow madskillz. Way to not read anything except the tread title.

there is nothing wrong with discussing relationship issues with your brother.
There is also nothing wrong with asking on the internet for advice, especially for this sort of problem

The OP already stated that the issue is not that video games are taking so much time that he can't see his girlfriend enough, please ead before writing

As for 'If you care enough for a woman, you'll change' That's the biggest crock ever. If your wife said to you "You should not play video games ever again" and the only reason she gave was that she believes them to be a waste of time, would you do it?

Dude, did you not read what he said in the thread? Do you just phail at reading comprehension?

Your biz is your biz, not between your bro and the like. If you are having girl probs over something this trival, my heavens. I could see if they were serious, engaged or married, but comeon. If I just had to ask for advice, I'd seek wise counsel - folks who have a lot more experience in the area, not my peers. What about us - folks you have never met, people who can say anything - makes us a good group to seek advice from?

The OP's bro should ask some trusted older women what he should do.

Believe you me - I have never asked a dude about women. I talk to older women about women. They are real.

Any why snap at me? Are you his brother? Have you ever been in a long-term relationship? If you were, you'd understand that if you love your significant other, you'd change if it's not a selfish request.

Man, I'm rolling over this. You'll change so much between 19 and 30. Trust me.

 

So just because you would rather talk to an older female, that means everyone should? No, my brother is one of the people whose opinion I value the most highly, why is a guy not allowed to ask another guy for advice?

 

I've been in a long term relationship, yes. She happened to like some video games, and not others. There was compromise, yes. I bought games that we would both enjoy, often meaning I didn't buy the latest boob and violence filled game. However, even your significant other should not have complete control over what you do with your leisure time. If she had a valid reason then maybe it would be different, but this is just because she doesn't enjoy video games.

Here's the rub - what kind of info can another guy give you about your woman? Unless a) she's a close friend of his or a relative or b) he hit it. I learned a long time ago older women are the best at telling you about younger women. Why? They've been there. A guy, unless he's hella experienced, can't tell you as much as an older woman. And BTW, an older woman will tell you if you are being childish, while a guy will tend to say 'Man, she's wrong.' It's about perspective, and an older woman won't BS you or the like. They can see through the smoke to tell you more than likely what is on a woman's mind.

True, your signifance other shouldn't have control of you, but who's running the show? She has needs to. And believe you me, if he's spending more time with a console than her, it's not likely to change. She'll eventually run into a dude who will be looking to unlock an achievement with her and it's game over.



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madskillz on 06 July 2009
hunter_alien said:
Dump her... dont get me wrong but I also believe that at the age of 19, 95% of the human population is not mature enough for a serious relationship :| And if a girl would ever ask me for something like this, or even to change in any major form, I would definatly show her the door ;)

And I ageree with madskillz until a certain part... yes you make compromises and give up part of your gaming time, but its your WIFE... not girlfriend... there is a bit of difference, and I doubt that the OPs brother will ever get that far with a girl like this ;)

LOL, Hunter. It's just a taste of things to come. If he doesn't have time for her now, when will he have time? I enjoy video games, and yeah, I'll have a few long days playing it, but in the end, doing something consistently for that long - especially when you have a relationship - is just wrong and could be a sign of an addiction.



madskillz on 06 July 2009
bardicverse said:
@Dodece - good points, but what if its not so much him procrastinating on stuff he wants to do, but stuff she wants him to do? What if she wants to go shopping at the mall, and he's putting it off? It's hard to say exactly how much give and take there is in the relationship. It is possible that she's crowding/smothering him, but there's not enough information about each of the two peoples' personalities here.

Here's the deal - there are more than enough guys out there who will gladly take her to the mall, do things she wants. All it takes is enough of them to put in applications. Then, the OP will create another thread about his console breaking and his GF broke up with him.



Hawk on 06 July 2009
bardicverse said:
Hawk said:
bardicverse said:
In a barely related topic, my gf encouraged me to keep playing COD:WaW last night because she liked watching me get pissed off and cursing at the TV

Hehe.  I have the same problem as ShadowSoldier's brother in all actuallity.  My wife asks me to spend less time playing video games.  And I give in.  I know, I know.  I'm whipped.  But she does have a better reason than ShadowSoldier's brother.  It's so that she can take over the TV and play herself.

LOL it sounds like you need 2 rigs, one for the main room and one for the den or bedroom, a 2nd room, so you can be "separate but equal", a key often vital in a relationship. If my gf is busy playing Sims 3 for 4 hours, I can play COD for 4 hours =)

::nod::  I don't have to give up that much gaming really.  We have the PC, we all have portable gaming systems, we can even play games side by side on the same TV as long as they are different systems, since we can have dual screen going.  But sometimes we compete over play time on the same game.  Right now it's Fallout 3.  Dead Rising was another one we competed for time on a lot.



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Kasz216 on 06 July 2009
ShadowSoldier said:

So Im on vacation and I got a Instant Message over MSN from my Brother. He has informed me that his girlfriend has told him that he either has to give up Video Games or she breaks up with him. Her reason for wanting to give up gaming is not because he doesn't spend enough time with her but it's because she says that it enables him to procrastinate. 

While I do think gaming can cause a bit of procrastination I know him and He only plays when he either A) is bored out his mind or B) She cant spend time with him. 

Now can anyone give me any advice on how to help him out? or is he DOOMED.

Neither A or B really goes against her contention.

Clearly videogames aren't the real problem she has with him but that he isn't as ambitious and self improving as she would like.  She probably feels the need or desire to push him to either increase his academics, search for a job, taking on more responsibilties in a job... or something similar.

If for some reason he wishes to stay in such a relationship the correct path would be to try and take steps foward to advance in whatever area it was that is causing the issue.

If there is no particular issue in reality or it is impossible to move foward in this regard, then their is simply nothing to be done.  He needs to figure out which is more important to him... and whether or not the relationship is going to work out for good.

 



richardhutnik on 06 July 2009
ShadowSoldier said:
killeryoshis said:
How old is he?


19

She apparently doesn't know what a "pastime" is.  It is meant to "pass time".  Leasure is simililar also.  It means it is time you get to choose how to spend.  If videogames are his hobby, she would need to understand that.  If she can't then it isn't a match.  I am curious what else she suggest he spend time on.