scottie said:
madskillz said:
scottie said:
Wow madskillz. Way to not read anything except the tread title.
there is nothing wrong with discussing relationship issues with your brother.
There is also nothing wrong with asking on the internet for advice, especially for this sort of problem
The OP already stated that the issue is not that video games are taking so much time that he can't see his girlfriend enough, please ead before writing
As for 'If you care enough for a woman, you'll change' That's the biggest crock ever. If your wife said to you "You should not play video games ever again" and the only reason she gave was that she believes them to be a waste of time, would you do it? |
Dude, did you not read what he said in the thread? Do you just phail at reading comprehension?
Your biz is your biz, not between your bro and the like. If you are having girl probs over something this trival, my heavens. I could see if they were serious, engaged or married, but comeon. If I just had to ask for advice, I'd seek wise counsel - folks who have a lot more experience in the area, not my peers. What about us - folks you have never met, people who can say anything - makes us a good group to seek advice from?
The OP's bro should ask some trusted older women what he should do.
Believe you me - I have never asked a dude about women. I talk to older women about women. They are real.
Any why snap at me? Are you his brother? Have you ever been in a long-term relationship? If you were, you'd understand that if you love your significant other, you'd change if it's not a selfish request.
Man, I'm rolling over this. You'll change so much between 19 and 30. Trust me.
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So just because you would rather talk to an older female, that means everyone should? No, my brother is one of the people whose opinion I value the most highly, why is a guy not allowed to ask another guy for advice?
I've been in a long term relationship, yes. She happened to like some video games, and not others. There was compromise, yes. I bought games that we would both enjoy, often meaning I didn't buy the latest boob and violence filled game. However, even your significant other should not have complete control over what you do with your leisure time. If she had a valid reason then maybe it would be different, but this is just because she doesn't enjoy video games.
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Here's the rub - what kind of info can another guy give you about your woman? Unless a) she's a close friend of his or a relative or b) he hit it. I learned a long time ago older women are the best at telling you about younger women. Why? They've been there. A guy, unless he's hella experienced, can't tell you as much as an older woman. And BTW, an older woman will tell you if you are being childish, while a guy will tend to say 'Man, she's wrong.' It's about perspective, and an older woman won't BS you or the like. They can see through the smoke to tell you more than likely what is on a woman's mind.
True, your signifance other shouldn't have control of you, but who's running the show? She has needs to. And believe you me, if he's spending more time with a console than her, it's not likely to change. She'll eventually run into a dude who will be looking to unlock an achievement with her and it's game over.
