Simply, if you brother really loves games then to be honest he shouldn't be giving them up for a girl and if his girl really loves him she shouldn't be asking him to give up something that he loves.

I don't think a relationship that necessitates you to change part of who you are or what you love doing is a healthy one. My advice is that he should discuss this with her and explain his position and perhaps they can at least come to some sort of compromise, for example less games or no game playing when she's around or something.

If she won't budge and insists that he gives up games it begs the questions, what is she going to ask him to change or give up next and what compromises is she making for the sake of the relationship?

Failing a jolly happy compromise, what Twesterm said.

Dude, did you not read what he said in the thread? Do you just phail at reading comprehension?

Your biz is your biz, not between your bro and the like. If you are having girl probs over something this trival, my heavens. I could see if they were serious, engaged or married, but comeon. If I just had to ask for advice, I'd seek wise counsel - folks who have a lot more experience in the area, not my peers. What about us - folks you have never met, people who can say anything - makes us a good group to seek advice from?

The OP's bro should ask some trusted older women what he should do.

Believe you me - I have never asked a dude about women. I talk to older women about women. They are real.

Any why snap at me? Are you his brother? Have you ever been in a long-term relationship? If you were, you'd understand that if you love your significant other, you'd change if it's not a selfish request.

Man, I'm rolling over this. You'll change so much between 19 and 30. Trust me.

Dump her, that's it. It's not like there are not gonna be any good ones beside her...

I've been with my GF for a year and 4 months, not a peep or complaint about VG's... even though she isn't into them, unfortunately...

All i know is, after hours of having fun, your controller wont want to cuddle and ask you what you're thinking about.

So just because you would rather talk to an older female, that means everyone should? No, my brother is one of the people whose opinion I value the most highly, why is a guy not allowed to ask another guy for advice?

I've been in a long term relationship, yes. She happened to like some video games, and not others. There was compromise, yes. I bought games that we would both enjoy, often meaning I didn't buy the latest boob and violence filled game. However, even your significant other should not have complete control over what you do with your leisure time. If she had a valid reason then maybe it would be different, but this is just because she doesn't enjoy video games.

If he buys her a Chia Pet everything will work out. She'll be cutting the grass on its head and he can play games. It saved my relationship with some hooker I met. She said we were never dating and was in it for the money and did not know I played videogames but I knew otherwise. She stabbed me and won't come back anymore but I'll wait forever for her.

Thats terrible, if she can't accept video games then leave her.

I don't think now is the time for tennis.

Actually, it might be a good time for Tennis; Tiger Woods or Virtua Tennis, to be precise. But let me be serious here.

Relationships involve some give and take. If video games are actually causing as much procrastination as she is claiming, then what is it that needs to be done? If it is something major, then I could see a cutback on gaming time, with the other time going toward actually finishing what it is that needs to be done. From my understanding of what you have posted, it's not a case of your brother being a lazy bum (he has a job), nor is it a case of neglect (he spends a fair amount of time with her).

As much as I hate to say it, if it's not truely something major, then it's a sign that the relationship is only going to get rockier as things go on, and he should bail out now. If it's for a nitpick, she's going to be one of those "me, me, me" people, and try to make your life revolve around her. If there's nothing at all, then she's going for power, which, to me, means there is no relationship at all. Nobody should have dominant power in any relationship unless both sides agree and understand the risks. (I'm going out on a limb and guess that your brother does not consent to this type.) In this latter case, she will bleed him dry of free action.

If he seems insistant on staying together, then negotiation is a must. If things are meant to be, a mutual agreement that both sides can agree to will be met. (Again, going to the give and take method. It may require less gaming time, but her expecting him to change with him doing so is only going to cause him resentment.) If she will not budge, then he's going to have to learn the hard way. It's a sucky way to learn, but some learn best through it.

I wish him luck, as I have helped several other people with relationship issues before. I don't know her age, but with his being 19, I'm going to lean on a 60/40 split of things not working out.

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