Today me and my girlfriend Kirsty broke up. 4 months ago we got together after a few weeks of seeing each other. We met at university in Lincoln (the UK) where we were both 3rd years. She lives in Manchester and I live in Nottingham (2 hours by car) and today I told her, despite a couple of weeks of us saying we would try a long distance relationship, that we should break up. Our uni lives are over, and the real world of getting a job has begun and thats obviously a priority for both of us.

I really, really liked her, loved her even, and she was perfect to me in pretty much everyway, but on monday when i last saw her, she headed off to her home on a train with the plan that in a couple of weeks id see her at her house, then a few weeks after she would see me and so on. We worked out we would see each other about 8 days a month, which sounded bad at first, then got better, and then when she left just seems like not enough so i told her and here i am, single.

Has anyone ever done the long distance relationship? Has it worked, has it not worked? Did i make the right decision?

Thank you to anyone who replies

You shouldn't care about how our experiences went, if you love her you will make a long distance relationship work.

My answer is...dont do it, they rarely( I mean rarely ) work. To have good a relationship you have to be there physically for each other( and I dont mean just sex)

Why don't they work often? My girlfriend has spent months at her parents house in Portsmouth, which is as far away from Birmingham as you can really get in England. But we make it work when she's been away.

ah well, never mind, I guess I may be the exception that proves the rule if you get what I mean lol

I'm in a long distance relationship right now, and have been in one for a while (since my girlfriend and I go to different colleges). I can't tell you if you made the right or wrong decision, only you can decide that (actually I'm just too lazy to answer your question).

I tried one once, she lived in Detroit to my Chicago (5-6 hour drive, depending on traffic). we held out for almost 8 months before we gave up the fight and just downgraded to friends.

You did the right thing, long distance relationships are hard to maintain, and require a HUGE commitment to the other person. Find someone nearby, you will be glad you did,

I'm in Canada, he's in UK. We talked to each other for 2 years and then he decided to come here to visit... This June will be our second year being in a relationship... Oh and most people know, we're engaged.

I think it is hard but if you really love (not only lust or simply liking) someone, then you would go through it, till you can be with that said person.

Anyway I know I love him enough to be patient. Next month (if I get the Visa), I'm going there for 2 years! ^_^

Small Edit: Usually spent about 3 months not seeing him, then went there for a month... These past months were the hardest. I had to go through 6 months not seeing him... That really tests the relationship.

 6 months? Crikey. The thing is, we had a university relationship and saw each other day literally every day for 4 months and practically every day for the month before that. Its such a huge change.

If you love them, make it work. I mean, I am willing to marry you type love.

If it is anything else, end it.