(Note: English is not my primary language)
This thread is stuck in manniqueism, black or white... the title itself guides to it... but I will try to paint it with a litle bit of grey.
I don't know how can I show my thoughts properly, so I will start with facts.
FACTS
1) Abortion it's a traumatic experience to the woman. The great majority of them would suffer for it for a long time.
2) The fetus doesn't have cerebral activity in the very first months, so it has no life.
3) We don't live in an ideal world. Shit happens.
These 3 facts are that, facts, noone can deny them. Given these facts, I will start with my dissertation.
Because of the fact 1, it is clear that abortion is not the first way to solve problems. In fact, in an ideal society, it should be taken only in extreme cases, such as raping or risk of deadh for the woman for example. Of course, only if the woman decides to discontinue the pregnancy. If the pregnancy is the result of an irresponsability, I think the woman should have the baby, and then, put it into adoption. If we lived in an ideal society, the mother could have the necesary resources to have a good pregnancy (for example, she would need money if she has to left her job). It is demonstrated that the feelings of the mother afect the fetus, so it is compulsory to have a "happy mother".
But, this is where it enters our society, far far from being ideal. Shit happens, as do the irresponsabilities. In the real world, and I can talk about this by personal experience of woman a know, pregnant women get 0 help from the state, and it is not as easy as most of you think to get the child into adoption. The woman I talk about, decided to have the baby knowing there would be no father to help her. She had no money to raise another child either (she has another one). Finally, she had the baby, but the government didn't accept at first to put the baby into adoption, as she was an inmigrant. She had to raise the baby for 7 months in very bad conditions, as she worked 12 hours a day to get the money to live. The goverment got the child in the end, giving him a family, but 2 years after, this child was given to another family, and then to another family... If only she knew what would happen, she would have aborted. The child know is very problematic and it's all but a happy person, and the mother suffers for it everyday.
This situation could have been cut up with a proper abortion. She could have aborted in the 12th week, and nothing of this would have happened. The fetus would have not been alive by then, so she wouldn't have killed anybody. Sure, she will suffer from the experience, but thats the price to pay for an irresponsability.
So, to sum up, what I try to say is.
¿Abortion should be legal? Yes. But we should try the woman doesn't see it as THE alternative, but as a last resort, and it shpuld be STRICTLY regulated.
¿There should be MUCH more help to pregnant mothers? Absolutely. The idea is to help the mother to have the baby, and then put it into adoption. Much things should change tough.
¿Should we be more tolerant? Yes. If you are "pro life" (this term is very funny for me, but anyway), you can have the baby, there is no problem in it. If the women wishes to abort, and her pregnancy is in an early state, no crime is commited, she has to know she will suffer for the experience probably her whole life.
I think abortion is a last resort, and it must be used very carefully and estrictly regulated, but we should try to understand the different cultures and beliefs and accept that others can do thing you don't approve, but such is the real world. If the pregnancy is in an early state, no crime is commited. So, even I don't like the idea of abortion, because I really don't like it and I wouldn't recommend it, I shouldn't decide or determine other people actions, as maybe if I were in their situation, my toughts would change a lot.
As a last note, I live because my fathers went to the abortion clinic and finally couldn't bear the feeling of "murdering" me, and bak home without doing it. So here I am, nearly 24 years later 
. Or at least that's what they told me... In my case, the decision worked out... but in the other case, I won't be here to blame them as I won't have noticed...
PS: To add a little bit of humour: "Pro-lifers", if "killing" a two month fetus is killing someone, I don't imagine the feeling you have when you make love, as 600million spermatozoids die in the way to heaven (I don't even talk about masturbation)... or the idea that every menstruation of a woman is a potencial human life (as a fetus) spent...
