Well after catching up on the thread, am I the only one disturbed that they are using unicorns, gingerbread man cookies and graphs that look like boobs to discuss sexuality?
Well after catching up on the thread, am I the only one disturbed that they are using unicorns, gingerbread man cookies and graphs that look like boobs to discuss sexuality?
RolStoppable said:
That last sentence of my post was written badly, because it was coming off a statement that kids should get answers when they ask about something. I read that blog post you linked to, but the guy made no mention of his own children and how his approach affected them (likely because he is not a father). The quotes you picked out are scary and there's absolutely zero scientific evidence that the laid out method has benefits. The only observable thing that was pointed out is that acceptance and tolerance among teenagers rises upon education of the topic, so why act like it is an important matter to address such topics at a very early age? An insistence on that would make sense if the observation was that teenagers are a lost cause, but apparently that's not the case. Parents can lay the foundation when their child asks about a specific topic or is caught while committing acts of intolerance, just like how kids get called out for doing all kinds of things that they shouldn't do. The idea that a parent calls their kid out of the blue with the words "Come here, kid. Let's have a talk about homosexuality." because it has done by the age of 5, 8 or whatever is something so crazy that it can only come from people who are not parents themselves. |
As I've already stated, I disagree with this. I think it is ignorant to assume that these kids aren't picking this stuff up already at a young age and it is best for them to hear this responsibly.
And again, starting kids in age appropriate sexual education courses is not some radical suggestion. Every set of guidelines that I can find suggests beginning this teaching in primary school:
http://www.futureofsexed.org/documents/josh-fose-standards-web.pdf
https://siecus.org/wp-content/uploads/2018/07/Guidelines-CSE.pdf
Countries like the Netherlands already employ comprehensive sexuality education and they find outcomes are far more positive than what is typically seen in countries such as the United States which tends to shy away from Sexual Education:
https://www.pbs.org/newshour/health/spring-fever
"The Dutch approach to sex ed has garnered international attention, largely because the Netherlands boasts some of the best outcomes when it comes to teen sexual health. On average, teens in the Netherlands do not have sex at an earlier age than those in other European countries or in the United States. Researchers found that among 12 to 25 year olds in the Netherlands, most say they had “wanted and fun” first sexual experiences. By comparison, 66 percent of sexually active American teens surveyed said they wished that they had waited longer to have sex for the first time. When they do have sex, a Rutgers WPF study found that nine out of ten Dutch adolescents used contraceptives the first time, and World Health Organization data shows that Dutch teens are among the top users of the birth control pill. According to the World Bank, the teen pregnancy rate in the Netherlands is one of the lowest in the world, five times lower than the U.S. Rates of HIV infection and sexually transmitted diseases are also low."
That article also links several study which suggests that starting sexuality education in primary school widely improves health outcomes:
http://irh.org/wp-content/uploads/2014/05/Investing_in_VYAs_SRH_2014.pdf
https://unesdoc.unesco.org/ark:/48223/pf0000183281
sundin13 said:
"Words" are not the problem, especially if we teach kids that those words are not an insult. And while some (not all) of those sources mention "teens" I do not believe what is being mentioned is exclusive to that age group. As I've said before, it is important to address these topics before these kids become widely introduced to external biases. At the primary school level, the purpose is not specifically to address individuals who have already discovered their identity or sexuality (first of all, you say that this only begins at puberty but often times this isn't the case), it is to get in front of biases and give individuals the tools and information that they may need in the future. Because whether you like it or not, kids get introduced to these biases early. Insults like "gay" are used all of the time by kids in primary school. And you talk about the "bees and flowers", but conversations about orientation and identity do not have to be sexual. I agree that most often, they probably shouldn't be, however, they do not have to be. I think it is fundamentally ignorant to say that these things have no interest to kids so we shouldn't teach it to them. Kids are like sponges. They will pick up bits and pieces of everything they see and that includes biases and misinformation. It is much more difficult to address these topics once those biases and pieces of misinformation have already been established, and most kids will just say "oh, okay" and move on with their lives if you address these things before biases arise. "I advise parents that the age of 5 is a wonderful time to lay a foundation for what homosexuality is and to instill in your young child a sense of tolerance and acceptance for being lesbian or gay." "I think it is important to have a discussion about transgenderism by age 8. " "By starting our discussions about homosexuality and transgenderism early in our children's lives we increase the likelihood that they will grow into tolerant and respectful adolescents and adults. If we ensure that we have built a solid foundation for our children by age 10 on most matters that pertain to sexuality we stand a better chance that our children will behave and act in healthy ways as they become young women and men. "
These points were mentioned in the larger context of what has been discussed and I am not planning on starting a whole new conversation with you. Just to wrap up our previous conversation, we have largely found agreement on all of my main points (even though you seem to insist that we haven't). These ideas that you object so vehemently to are actually not very radical at all once you stop jumping to conclusions and purposefully misunderstanding everything someone says on this subject. |
"" We should not deny the identity of a trans individual on the basis of biology""
what exactly does this mean? are you implying that a man becomes a woman by simply stating he is one? i really would like clarification on this point
" These ideas that you object so vehemently to are actually not very radical at all"
and yet you can't answer a simple question that addresses the very core of your argument and as a a result you continue to show me that even you don't believe in this nonsense and yet expect me to do so
that is a really difficult issue and I believe is one of the reasons far right is getting popular among lgbt+ community in Europe at least... integration policies should help in these cases to respect the laws and fundamental rights assumed in each country. Keep religion away from public schools.
o_O.Q said: "" We should not deny the identity of a trans individual on the basis of biology"" what exactly does this mean? are you implying that a man becomes a woman by simply stating he is one? i really would like clarification on this point |
It means that we don't know all of the complicated factors that contribute to an individual's biology by simply looking at their genitalia at birth. As previously stated, many transgendered individuals are biologically more similar to those of their identified gender than typical of those of their assigned sex. There is evidence that gender identity is at least in part biological. Twin studies have shown that identical twins are more likely to both be transgendered than fraternal twins which implies a genetic component to transgender identity (which is further supported by studies showing certain genetic differences between transgendered and cisgendered individuals). Some studies have shown that brain structures in transgendered individuals (pre-transition) tend to more closely resemble those of their identified gender than their assigned sex.
This all indicates the "but you are going against biology" argument is fundamentally misguided, as at its core, biology is a core component of transgender identity. Individuals are often not "going against" biology but instead being led by it.
sundin13 said:
It means that we don't know all of the complicated factors that contribute to an individual's biology by simply looking at their genitalia at birth. As previously stated, many transgendered individuals are biologically more similar to those of their identified gender than typical of those of their assigned sex. There is evidence that gender identity is at least in part biological. Twin studies have shown that identical twins are more likely both be transgendered than fraternal twins which implies a genetic component to transgender identity. Some studies have shown that brain structures in transgendered individuals (pre-transition) tend to more closely resemble those of their identified gender than their assigned sex. This all indicates the "but you are going against biology" argument is fundamentally misguided, as at its core, biology is a core component of transgender identity. Individuals are often not "going against" biology but instead being led by it. |
"many transgendered individuals are biologically more similar to those of their identified gender than typical of those of their assigned"
and yet they feel dysphoria over not having a particular body type and have to transition and this somehow is consistent to you
"Twin studies have shown that identical twins are more likely both be transgendered than fraternal twins which implies a genetic component to transgender identity. Some studies have shown that brain structures in transgendered individuals (pre-transition) tend to more closely resemble those of their identified gender than their assigned sex."
other research either shows the opposite or points out that the brains children are very plastic and can adopt to certain stimuli such as a parent affirming a gender identity that was just a phase
regardless this presents problems as shown below
https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/posteverything/wp/2018/06/27/feature/seeking-a-scientific-explanation-for-trans-identity-could-do-more-harm-than-good/?noredirect=on&utm_term=.1c43fd111fd7
https://thinkprogress.org/transgender-brain-scan-study-68f9ba4b1c43/
"This all indicates the "but you are going against biology" argument is fundamentally misguided, as at its core, biology is a core component of transgender identity."
ok, whatever, you haven't made a biology argument here anyway, so can you please stop dodging and actually answer the question?
"" We should not deny the identity of a trans individual on the basis of biology""
what exactly does this mean? are you implying that a man becomes a woman by simply stating he is one? i really would like clarification on this point""
isn't it interesting that after about 10 times now you still can't answer despite being in support of this idea?
sundin13 said:
It means that we don't know all of the complicated factors that contribute to an individual's biology by simply looking at their genitalia at birth. As previously stated, many transgendered individuals are biologically more similar to those of their identified gender than typical of those of their assigned sex. There is evidence that gender identity is at least in part biological. Twin studies have shown that identical twins are more likely to both be transgendered than fraternal twins which implies a genetic component to transgender identity (which is further supported by studies showing certain genetic differences between transgendered and cisgendered individuals). Some studies have shown that brain structures in transgendered individuals (pre-transition) tend to more closely resemble those of their identified gender than their assigned sex. This all indicates the "but you are going against biology" argument is fundamentally misguided, as at its core, biology is a core component of transgender identity. Individuals are often not "going against" biology but instead being led by it. |
I feel that you are overcomplicating the simple here.
This is how I see things:
People are naturally assigned their sex via their chromosomes by nature so that they may procreate and mix genetic information (in order to try and get the best qualities of each parent via natural selection). Trans people have something abnormal occurring in their brains/hormones/etc. that prevents them from accepting this natural assignment (causing them to reject their naturally assigned sex). That abnormality is the (by definition) not the norm and trying to blur the lines due to how nuanced this abnormality is (the same way that genetic mutation may be nuanced in cause/manifestation).
Yes, we get that there is a stigma and persecution here and that people need to be more sympathetic to those who suffer from abnormalities. But I believe the stigma people need to remove is the stigma against abnormality. In fact, it is far more common for one form of abnormality to exist in all of us either psychological or physical, and we should embrace this abnormality, not deny it even exists.
o_O.Q said: 1) "many transgendered individuals are biologically more similar to those of their identified gender than typical of those of their assigned" and yet they feel dysphoria over not having a particular body type and have to transition and this somehow is consistent to you 2) "Twin studies have shown that identical twins are more likely both be transgendered than fraternal twins which implies a genetic component to transgender identity. Some studies have shown that brain structures in transgendered individuals (pre-transition) tend to more closely resemble those of their identified gender than their assigned sex." other research either shows the opposite or points out that the brains children are very plastic and can adopt to certain stimuli such as a parent affirming a gender identity that was just a phase 3) regardless this presents problems as shown below https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/posteverything/wp/2018/06/27/feature/seeking-a-scientific-explanation-for-trans-identity-could-do-more-harm-than-good/?noredirect=on&utm_term=.1c43fd111fd7 https://thinkprogress.org/transgender-brain-scan-study-68f9ba4b1c43/ 4) "This all indicates the "but you are going against biology" argument is fundamentally misguided, as at its core, biology is a core component of transgender identity." ok, whatever, you haven't made a biology argument here anyway, so can you please stop dodging and actually answer the question? 5) "" We should not deny the identity of a trans individual on the basis of biology"" what exactly does this mean? are you implying that a man becomes a woman by simply stating he is one? i really would like clarification on this point"" isn't it interesting that after about 10 times now you still can't answer despite being in support of this idea? |
1) I'm not sure what you are asking/implying here
2) Twin studies are important in distinguishing between environmental or genetic factors, because the environment for fraternal and identical twins tends to be very similar, so if there is a significant difference between outcomes between the two groups, it implies that there is a genetic component at play, which has been demonstrated through twin studies.
3) I don't believe you actually read either of those articles because they do not really argue against any of my points, especially in the context my points were used. Again, my argument here is in relation to "biology based transphobia", that is to say, the idea that a transgender identity is "against biology". This is simply not the case. These articles state that some people may misuse this information in ways which far more closely mimics arguments that you've made than arguments I have made. You have not posted a valid counterargument to this idea throughout this post or throughout any others.
4) I'm not really sure what you are trying to say here.
5) You asked me to clarify what I said. I did. Now you are complaining that I wasn't implying what you thought I was implying so you are mad that I didn't say that I was. Come the fuck on, man. If you want me so badly to answer your question, my answer is "no". Happy now? I am not implying what you think I am implying. Now fucking move past that terrible question. The reason I haven't answered it is because it is a stupid question and it only gets stupider every time you shove those words into my mouth.
I find it quite ironic that these muslims protest against the "No Outsiders" program because the very same program also gives muslims a representation in children's school books. This shows that some groups are only interested in minority right as long as they benefit them.
I also think that the left political sphere ignored, out of a hyper tolerance, problems like these and in doing so they basically betrayed the progressive voices within the muslim community.
the saying "The enemy of my enemy is my friend" is a bad advice. If we really think that muslims are a part of our western societies we have to hold them by the same standards as everyone else, for a lefty this means criticising the archaic beliefs, practices and hierarchies within Islam without fear of being called islamophobic.
RolStoppable said: That was an interesting article about the Netherlands. Went in-depth about what is done when. But if we are totally honest, this boils down to the usual "people in Europe do *insert subject* so much better than people in the USA" argument. And if we stay honest, it's absolutely true that Europe is better. This discussion started on the wrong foot, I must say. The article about the Netherlands is credible, but the starting point with the omnisexual gender unicorn was something that made the whole idea look atrocious at its core. That kind of image shouldn't be used. |
We already clarified that that was a misunderstanding on your part about what that image meant. I thought were were past that...