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Men choose to remain single and give up on women?

They do not want to becom... 9 7.69%
 
They do not want to change! 12 10.26%
 
They do not need a woman'... 3 2.56%
 
They do not want to conform to society! 5 4.27%
 
They have busy life and d... 9 7.69%
 
They are a man-child and never grew up! 17 14.53%
 
They are regarded as a lo... 15 12.82%
 
Modern feminism double st... 19 16.24%
 
Other! 27 23.08%
 
They choose sex workers instead! 1 0.85%
 
Total:117
Dark_Lord_2008 said:

Never had a chance to begin with and never even bothered because of my disability and mental health issues. People do not want to date anyone with disability because of the social stigma. Due to my disability I can not drive and undateable. Most advice here is useless and invalid because you are employable and can function as a normal human being.  I made it and everyone else can do it too advice does not apply to disabled people. Normal people without learning difficulties, normal social skills have a far better chance in regards to both employment and dating that rely upon interacting with others. I do not understand myself properly and I do not understand others because of my lack of empathy and low social/emotional intelligence. I am exactly like a Mr Bean, Forrest Gump, Sheldon Cooper or Rainman or some weird Autistic, socially awkward character.

But that is what I and others have been saying. You have basically used your disability as an excuse not to try. In your mind you have said why bother. Instead of what can I do to try.

I don't drive, I know Autistic people who do.I know autistic people that have jobs.If you struggle to communicate with people, why not be self employed? Learn to program, you seem to have a decent head on your shoulders (minus the self doubt in yourself). Do freelance work. Plenty of people/small businesses looking for web developers in Australia.

Also, empathy is something that most people with a high IQ need to learn, as common sense/logic, facts and numbers drive your decisions. The reason you need to learn empathy is because you need to be able to communicate with those that are overly emotional. Best way is to be quiet and smile and nod your head. Half the time I roll my eyes at what people find to be big issues. But I keep quiet and in my mind I go ok cool, i'll sit their, pretend to listen, nod my head and 5mins later they feel happy and I feel calm because I do not need to listen to it for more than 5 mins.

The characters you mentioned all found love lol.

 



 

 

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Honestly I think I'd be much happier if I could give up on women, but I never could, my sex drive and need for intimacy are just too strong for me to ever be able to live happily without these things. So it's unfortunately not something I can ever "choose".

Cobretti2 said:

 The way you write vs the autistic people I know in life, you are far more normal and articulate than them. People who doctors have classified with mild autism, but yet they cannot string a sentence together and they always ask to explain to them again what you mean.

Autism is a broad spectrum. I know hundreds of autistic people, ranging from non-verbal to highly articulate.



curl-6 said:

Honestly I think I'd be much happier if I could give up on women, but I never could, my sex drive and need for intimacy are just too strong for me to ever be able to live happily without these things. So it's unfortunately not something I can ever "choose".

Cobretti2 said:

 The way you write vs the autistic people I know in life, you are far more normal and articulate than them. People who doctors have classified with mild autism, but yet they cannot string a sentence together and they always ask to explain to them again what you mean.

Autism is a broad spectrum. I know hundreds of autistic people, ranging from non-verbal to highly articulate.

I know it is a broad spectrum but honestly he could get there if he tried.

Lets go visit him in WA lol. I bet he is more normal than you and me combined.



 

 

Perth is the worst city by far to be a single guy in Australia, there are no decent females the only single females are not worth pursuing. I will be 40 in 3 years time and well I tell myself I have not missed out on anything it helps me sleep at night. Perth is meth city, has a violent heavy drug taking and heavy drinking culture and is full of Bogans at pubs and night clubs. I do not need to bother trying pursuing women that are not worth the time of day and save myself from getting beating up by idiots at pubs or night clubs. When you are approaching 40, women below 30 are too young. I would not bother with women under 30 and the women over 30 usually have children and unpredictable exes in the background. When you unfortunate to have missed your shot it is best to admit and accept it instead of living a life of denial.

I see the world from a logical and rational perspective, devoid of emotion. I rarely show emotions when dealing with people. I rarely smile, just a blank expressionless face, I avoid eye contact and talk in a monotone voice. I do not see why emotions are so important. I do not believe empathy is needed to make logical and rational decisions in life. I get frustrated and annoyed dealing with people that are too emotional, unpredictable and indecisive. 

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Dark_Lord_2008 said:

Perth is the worst city by far to be a single guy in Australia, there are no decent females the only single females are not worth pursuing. I will be 40 in 3 years time and well I tell myself I have not missed out on anything it helps me sleep at night. Perth is meth city, has a violent heavy drug taking and heavy drinking culture and is full of Bogans at pubs and night clubs. I do not need to bother trying pursuing women that are not worth the time of day and save myself from getting beating up by idiots at pubs or night clubs. When you are approaching 40, women below 30 are too young. I would not bother with women under 30 and the women over 30 usually have children and unpredictable exes in the background. When you unfortunate to have missed your shot it is best to admit and accept it instead of living a life of denial.

I see the world from a logical and rational perspective, devoid of emotion. I rarely show emotions when dealing with people. I rarely smile, just a blank expressionless face, I avoid eye contact and talk in a monotone voice. I do not see why emotions are so important. I do not believe empathy is needed to make logical and rational decisions in life. I get frustrated and annoyed dealing with people that are too emotional, unpredictable and indecisive. 

If Perth is that bad than move lol.

You say there are women not worth your time. How do you know? You have judged them already and you say they all judge you. Well beggars can't be choosers. 



 

 

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The older people get the less chances they have in regards to finding partners, because fewer available options = fewer options available and more difficult as the options disappear. It is easer to just give up and accept living a life of solitude. More time doing things that I want to do in my life without anything holding me back. I believe a guy must wait to be asked out by a woman and if the universe delivers it will happen. Me Too movement has changed the world and many young guys now believe it is a crime to ask woman out because of sexual harassment. Online dating is not an option for me, it is full of scammers, fraudsters, cat fish, attention seekers, websites notoriously block/delete members shortly after they upgrade their memberships.

I am stuck in Perth and I can not afford to move to another State. I have family support  in Perth and I have an easy lifestyle here without any complications. I do not need drama or complications in my life. It is not all that bad not having any responsibilities in life. 

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Dark_Lord_2008 said:

The older people get the less chances they have in regards to finding partners, because fewer available options = fewer options available and more difficult as the options disappear. It is easer to just give up and accept living a life of solitude. More time doing things that I want to do in my life without anything holding me back. I believe a guy must wait to be asked out by a woman and if the universe delivers it will happen. Me Too movement has changed the world and many young guys now believe it is a crime to ask woman out because of sexual harassment. Online dating is not an option for me, it is full of scammers, fraudsters, cat fish, attention seekers, websites notoriously block/delete members shortly after they upgrade their memberships.

I am stuck in Perth and I can not afford to move to another State. I have family support  in Perth and I have an easy lifestyle here without any complications. I do not need drama or complications in my life. It is not all that bad not having any responsibilities in life. 

Have you accepted it and can you find inner peace living a life like that?



Cobretti2 said:
curl-6 said:

Honestly I think I'd be much happier if I could give up on women, but I never could, my sex drive and need for intimacy are just too strong for me to ever be able to live happily without these things. So it's unfortunately not something I can ever "choose".

Autism is a broad spectrum. I know hundreds of autistic people, ranging from non-verbal to highly articulate.

I know it is a broad spectrum but honestly he could get there if he tried.

Lets go visit him in WA lol. I bet he is more normal than you and me combined.

The thing is that a lot strive for conformity while they should just focus on personal happiness, we are so much blinded by standards of others that we forget what we truly want.



CuCabeludo said:

Finance. Today it is much more expensive to get married and raise children, it is not hard to see more and more people are choosing to be single when you have to work more and get paid in a fiat currencies that ALWAYS lose value/purchasing power as time passes.

It is only more expensive if you try to be one of those sial media whores who tries to out o their friends.

My wedding was well below the Australia national average cost lol. Like a 10th id say lol.

Stil had plenty of guest, even flew to a different location for the wedding. 



 

 

Immersiveunreality said:
Cobretti2 said:

I know it is a broad spectrum but honestly he could get there if he tried.

Lets go visit him in WA lol. I bet he is more normal than you and me combined.

The thing is that a lot strive for conformity while they should just focus on personal happiness, we are so much blinded by standards of others that we forget what we truly want.

Yer but he is talking about the fantasy world of expensive cars, good looks and big houses. That is celebrity/rich people life styles lol.

90% of the population is no where near that bench mark he set. Reading his other posts he does not want to compromise anything and has set a bar of what he wants from a woman. Even expect them to ask him out. 

Essentially he says he is judged but seem to judge women more than they probably judge him as he walks by them on the street.

He said he has given up on dating and doesn't want a woman, but if he has was truly at peace, this thread would not exist. So the only logical conclusion is he has to be willing to accept to change.