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VGPolyglot said:
bananaking21 said:

Are you saying that having sex with a woman is a "hassle?"

In my current situation, yes. In any case that's not a priority for me, I'd much rather befriend people at the moment instead of trying to get into sexual relationships.

Alright. I'm going to be real with you and not respond with another joke post so you dont think i am mocking you personally. 

 

Of course this is just an assumption based on what you wrote and your wording of things. I could be totally wrong, or I could be spot on. 

 

It seems your using the "hassle" of entering a relationship as an excuse. Either

1- you are afraid of rejection and scared to try or

2- you are trying but can't seem to get into a relationship. 

 

Thus you created the excuse of the hassle in order to justify your decision to not pursue a relationship. 

 

The other thing that reaffirms this to me is that you said you'd rather befriend people than enter relationships. A relationship is also a friendship and it seems a bit nonsensical to not want to get close to a woman you enjoy being with and hanging around with. Of course there are women who you want to just be friends with and don't want to date. But putting that label on everyone by default is what makes it seem like there is a confidence problem. Because if you were in the situation to have a FWB I doubt you would have made this thread. 

 

This isn't a personal attack or trying to make you look bad. This is just an attempt (based on just two comments and my mind boggling perception) to identify the true problem here. You basically made a thread asking people what to beat your meat too, that doesn't seem like a great question to ask and one that shows that there is an underlying problem. 



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bananaking21 said:
VGPolyglot said:

In my current situation, yes. In any case that's not a priority for me, I'd much rather befriend people at the moment instead of trying to get into sexual relationships.

Alright. I'm going to be real with you and not respond with another joke post so you dont think i am mocking you personally. 

 

Of course this is just an assumption based on what you wrote and your wording of things. I could be totally wrong, or I could be spot on. 

 

It seems your using the "hassle" of entering a relationship as an excuse. Either

1- you are afraid of rejection and scared to try or

2- you are trying but can't seem to get into a relationship. 

 

Thus you created the excuse of the hassle in order to justify your decision to not pursue a relationship. 

 

The other thing that reaffirms this to me is that you said you'd rather befriend people than enter relationships. A relationship is also a friendship and it seems a bit nonsensical to not want to get close to a woman you enjoy being with and hanging around with. Of course there are women who you want to just be friends with and don't want to date. But putting that label on everyone by default is what makes it seem like there is a confidence problem. Because if you were in the situation to have a FWB I doubt you would have made this thread. 

 

This isn't a personal attack or trying to make you look bad. This is just an attempt (based on just two comments and my mind boggling perception) to identify the true problem here. You basically made a thread asking people what to beat your meat too, that doesn't seem like a great question to ask and one that shows that there is an underlying problem. 

I've never tried to get into a relationship myself personally, yeah there were times when I did desire someone but the thing is that I am a very anxious person and very particular with my time, and getting into a relationship is a huge commitment, and it's just not something that I'm willing or able to commit to at the moment. What I said by friendship was that I don't even have any friends at the moment, so I think that having friends is kind of an important jump-start before trying to get a girlfriend, because otherwise I'd be way too dependant on her which could be potentially catastrophic.



John2290 said:
d21lewis said:
Jerk off to whatever you like. It's your time and your penis.

Just know that it's not real. Also know that some women LOVE being treated...dirty. You have to get to know them first, though.

I'd say the vast majority of women if not every woman and I'd use the word, eh.. vulnerable. If there is one thing every man will learn in his life it's this fact. Befriending women and whiteknighting is a mistake too many young lads are making these days, it's like they don't have male groups to tell them to stop that shit. I'd reckon it's causing many problems in society too, both apparent and not so apparent.

I've had so many women tell me I was "too nice". If only I knew then what I know now. I'm married now, though. 



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John2290 said:
VGPolyglot said:

Well, I don't just view women as games in which I'll eventually have sex with them though, there  are many things that are more important to me than having sex, I'm not a party person and I don't drink anyway though.

Well arent you the right saint. Regardless, if that is your attitude I hope you can wheather the misery it'll bring to you and those around you. You can't do anything good for people or the world around you if you don't take care of yourself first. Mental castrating yourself yourself is a fucked up way to respect women and fact is, you may not see it and women don't show it but they want to be game, regardless if you play or not. Chasing women isn't going to hurt anyone for fuck sake...I mean ...ah im so confused here, I'm pretty sure you're just afraid and making excuses. Perhaps this thread is a cry for help because you certainly seem npt to have a male friend to push you on or if you do they are doing a piss poor job.

However, your life, your health and your mental state. I'll say no more besides you're batshit in not chasing women.

Are you sure that's the case? Like I think we'd need the voices of some actual women here to see if that's true.



Some women like the chase, some don't.  



John2290 said:
VGPolyglot said:

Are you sure that's the case? Like I think we'd need the voices of some actual women here to see if that's true.

Women will never say it but they WILL show it and I don't mean in the public sense, lol, for all to see declaring it vocally. You don't need to be hooking up to see it either, Just take a bit more notice when around women and watch how their behaviour changes when around good looking men, it's plainly obvious even if they won't admit it until they've shown it to you. 

I fear you may be a bit sheltered from women in reality however and are relying on media. Those women make up such a miniscule ammount of the population, albeit a very loud portion that it's completely disconnected from reality. You'd have more parity with reality watching 'reality tv' like jordey shore than you would listening to the media.

I think it's you who are simplifying women to be honest, they are human just like us and thus have all sorts of desires, ambitions, etc.



John2290 said:
VGPolyglot said:

I think it's you who are simplifying women to be honest, they are human just like us and thus have all sorts of desires, ambitions, etc.

I didn't say they didn't. Way to put words in my mouth. I'm  not simplifying anyone I just pointing out the reality that is plainly obvious. You speak like we are all robots and we live in a world where everyone must interface on some paired level, the fuck like? too much internet perhaps. Try tinder or some shit and meet real people. 

I'm sorry John, but I don't really put much trust in your views. In any case I'm fairly happy with my life as-is, yeah it could be better but I have other things that I'd much rather do before trying to get a girlfriend.