Damn, the feels.

If you feel like leaving VGC is the best for you, do it. I was in the exact same situation not that long ago where I felt forced to come here to update threads even though I was going through a lot of shit. I left, and I think that was the best option.

Making new friends as an adult is hard, I've been trying to do that myself. Kudos for going to the club and giving it a shot though. If there's any online game we both have, I'll do a let's play with you. Also if there's anything you want to talk about don't hesitate to reach out to me. You've been a good friend to me. :)

solution: become a mod

I'm 43 now, don't have any real friends anymore, at least not ones I interact with.

I'm pretty shy as well. The friends I made were from school/university and from work. I didn't have a girlfriend until I was 26 years old. I met her while playing Everquest, we visited a few times, then I moved to the other side of the world to be with her and never made new friends again, while losing contact with the few I had.

Of course with a wife and now kids, plenty company for me. It sometimes feels 'wrong' though. Like when I wanted to get a passport, need 2 references from friends, erm... Neighbors were kind enough luckily, not that I have much rapport with them.

I mostly enjoy solo activities, biking in summer, jogging with my dog in winter, on empty trails. I'm not into sports or social gatherings. Mostly play offline, enjoying the freedom to do what, whenever I want. And well, vgchartz is sufficient to share my enthusiasm about gaming.

Anyway, you can be happy without real life friends. I'm quite happy with the way my life is going. Don't worry about your parents, mine kept bugging me about finding a girl or boyfriend, didn't work out so well for them, moving 6k km away from them lol. First make peace with yourself. Not sure how I did, perhaps it simply comes with age. Life does get better with age.

At 19 I was quite depressed with suicidal thoughts. I did have friends back then, but mostly saw it as a burden to have to meet them and do stuff with them. I didn't feel comfortable talking about my emotions with any of them, so it was mostly putting up a facade, have 'fun' for the evening, and feel more lonely directly afterwards.

Social gatherings are not for me. Star Trek Bridge Crew was already a big step for me, interacting with people online by voice. I'm not much of a talker at all, always the silent guy in the room. I kinda avoid talking to the other parents at parks and play with my kids instead. I'll talk with them if they engage in conversation which usually dies pretty fast as I have no idea what to say. Oh well, can't be good at everything :)

I married another shy person, we're quite the couple. The important thing is try not to worry too much. It's very hard, but imo it's the only way to enjoy life. Accept who you are, don't let other people feel like you have to change yourself.

I´m just the less indicated to give you some advices. Even if i dont have anything to say (however that ''caffenaide guy'' that dude know what he says) but just go forward. I was subject of a depressionlike **** (cause im not all sure what the hell was that) and with the go forward worked, in a matter of time with new experiences and all that stuff you will probably see all that happened back then with a more brightnesses sight. Just go on, identify what you like and JUST DO IT. Time that you enjoy is time that you dont lose. So...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QTeHRHzNptI&index=3&list=PLL0CQjrcN8D3COXH-j1X29VJj6oYe-vuq

thats all i can do(and please take a look at the song is such a good thing that you just...do it)

This is exactly how I feel.  I thought I was the only one!

You're welcome for that.

I second Rol's notion.

A few years ago I realized how lucky I am to have a twin brother that I'm very close to and share similar interests, I don't think that's much different from having a close friend.

There we go.

Not everyone needs a bunch of friends. Some people enjoy it, but others are perfectly fine with a few people at most. I think more people would be happier in life if they realized that.

I'm not sure this is at all similar, but this reminds me of me a few years ago. I used to worry a lot about not having many social contacts (e.g. friends). After thinking about the situation for long enough though, I noticed it's because I don't feel like I have enough in common with many people to be able to maintain a relationship with them. Additionally, I'm really bad at maintaining relationships anyway, even with people I have a lot in common with. I haven't kept in touch with almost any of the friends I've made during my life, just because it doesn't come naturally to me. I can't do small talk (I've tried); I need a subject to talk about, and it needs to come naturally.

Eventually, I learned to accept it. I enjoy interacting with people, at least to a certain extent, but maintaining relationships just is hard and taxing for me so I simply don't do it. There's two major exceptions to this: my girlfriend, and a friend. As far as I'm concerned, this is OK and there's nothing wrong with me. It sucks a bit, but I don't think there's any way out that I can take by myself (or with help from the people I know), so I don't worry about it. It's just so much easier to not stress about it than it is to stress about it without knowing what to do about it.

Goddamnit man, that was super depressing ;-;

I tried to find a good hug gif but couldn't! They were all romantic, or monsters inc stuff