VGPolyglot said:
Hmm? I didn't even do it that day? I did it on Sunday, and you were here the whole day |
Ohh. I thought it was on Saturday. But I did want to play.
VGPolyglot said:
Hmm? I didn't even do it that day? I did it on Sunday, and you were here the whole day |
Ohh. I thought it was on Saturday. But I did want to play.
HomokHarcos said:
Ohh. I thought it was on Saturday. But I did want to play. |
Oh well. Maybe for another game then!!
VGPolyglot said:
Oh well. Maybe for another game then!! |
Sure. I would love to play through FF8 with you.
You seem like a nice enough person so the easiest way to make new friends is picking up a physical/team sport. Moving and socialising are both good for your mental state and mood. So I would advise doing that in case this does not help you could think aboug getting a dog or another pet.
Please excuse my (probally) poor grammar
You're safe posting this kind of stuff here. You're one of the nicest people on the site. If there were a "Nicest User" contest, I'd have you and Nymeria fighting it out for the top. Both of you have a kind, well mannered temperment, and it really comes through in your posts. So as far as the concern about alienating yourself, or scaring people away goes, you're worrying about something that isn't there. You're in the clear.
I wish I had some advice, but I've been on the advice carousel for so long, everything feels like a platitude. Be well. :)
- "If you have the heart of a true winner, you can always get more pissed off than some other asshole."
You're always so bold with these threads. It's quite reliving to see someone else... feel how you feel.
There are so many times when I don't post on this forum because of the fear of rejection. I've got a few friends here, but I believe I've made the majority of folks here kind of annoyed by my posts. Most of the time though I just feel ignored, to the point that I often have posts that are incomplete thoughts because I'm sure most people won't read them. I've reached a point of numbness here and in real life that has just accepted that I'm "different" and won't make many friends and am just kind of existing. I do enjoy my free time like NATO mentioned though.
Anyway, as many have said, people are here for you. Don't worry so much.
"You should be banned. Youre clearly flaming the president and even his brother who you know nothing about. Dont be such a partisan hack"
I know it's hard, but I guess the only conceivable advice I can give you is that you should try not to get over-worried by almost everything. We all have our inner demons to deal with, that's alright, it's a matter of working through them with time and patience. As for the friends thingy, I told you to hook up with some of your co-workers (not sure if you answered me in regards to this). If the gaming zone wasn't up to your liking, you can always try checking up D&D geeky nerds in your place (these people generally set up open-ended plays and, afaik, some are very welcoming); it's another option you could bear in mind.
I know I fly mostly under the radar on VG Chartz and we haven't talked directly often, but you seem like a very nice guy, with interesting viewpoints and a lot to say and I really enjoy seeing you around on here.
My advice to you would be, think aboout what YOU want. I know people nagging at you from all kind of corners about how you are supposed to act can be draining and confusing. Even having to expend the energy to do as much as say 'no' to these people, whoever they may be, can be too much already, but it's worth it.
You don't need to rise to anyones expectations but your own. The important thing is for you to be content with the way your life is going. So what, if your parents don't like you hanging out with people on the internet?
If it helps you build connections and make your day a little better then that's up to you to decide.
And if you decide you'd rather have friends that live closer to you and that you can interact in real life with (more often) and not spend as much time on the forums, that's for you to decide too. You don't need to adhere to what anyone here thinks about you either.
The important thing is that it is something that will give you pleasure.
I definitely relate to the struggle of being shy in social situations, but I was raised counter to my natural inclinations, so even though it's hell for me, I'll probably be the first person to talk to you in a room full of strangers. I basically just pretend to be really sociable and so far it's worked out ok.
The important thing is, you don't have to be alone unless you want to be. And if you want to be, then that's ok. You decide on your terms if and how you want to make and maintain friends and how far your participation in social situations goes.
As for struggeling with depression, I don't have much to offer. I know it helps me to maintain a somewhat regular, if relaxed schedule, that incoorperates healthy food that I cook myself, regular workout (finding something I genuinely like was a challenge but Yoga stuck), enough sleep and enough down time where I get to play games or just hang out on the forums. The way I view it I have these blocks in my day that I need to compete in order to stay healthy in body and mind. It's a struckture to hold on to, but it isn't ridgid enough to be restricting. I'm still figuring out what works best, but it's working.
I think it's safe to say VGChartz doesn't mind these kinds of posts. Personally, I welcome all personal life threads if they allow others to gain advice they need.
Anyway, just realize friends won't make your depression away. It'll help you not be lonely, but there are some steps needed to be taken before you fully recover (or at least don't feel bummed).
Being healthy, not being stressed, and taking any sort of classes would drsstically improve your condition. There's no shame to taking a class to learn how to get friends if it truly does make a difference to you.