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Ka-pi96 said:
StarOcean said:

Only bits and pieces I've picked up over being with my gf XD my gf barely knows it but she has a few words from her mom

Oh, I see I see. Making friends can be difficult. I struggled for a while. My personality has evolved into me sounding sarcastic with a bit of an over the top cynical side which for whatever reason people like. Of course theres a lot more to it than that, but I'd say thats most peoples first impression of me XD but it makes people wanna be my friend. So I must be doing something right!

Know humgaling?

If I do, I wouldnt know XD her accent is very thick, my gfs mother, so if she has said it -wouldve slipped right by me 



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StarOcean said:
Farsala said:

You understand any Cantonese?

My semester went off without a hitch for the most part. Well for classes anyways. Been trying to make friends lately, since my old friends graduated. Not exactly successful, as I give off good first impressions but the relationships somewhat fizzle out by the end with all the stress from classes bogging us down. Got 1 more year to attempt it again.

Only bits and pieces I've picked up over being with my gf XD my gf barely knows it but she has a few words from her mom

Oh, I see I see. Making friends can be difficult. I struggled for a while. My personality has evolved into me sounding sarcastic with a bit of an over the top cynical side which for whatever reason people like. Of course theres a lot more to it than that, but I'd say thats most peoples first impression of me XD but it makes people wanna be my friend. So I must be doing something right!

Yeah I feel like humor can really help, even if it is just being sarcastic. I was a little too serious at the start, I felt like multiple people reached out to me and I didn't take intiative. I tried to compensate near the end, but it was clearly over. I learn little by little at least. I care more about developing social skills then my classes atm because I have light schedule and I do well anyways.

Constant problem though is seeming too serious. I feel too many people are intimidated for multiple reasons.



Farsala said:
StarOcean said:

Only bits and pieces I've picked up over being with my gf XD my gf barely knows it but she has a few words from her mom

Oh, I see I see. Making friends can be difficult. I struggled for a while. My personality has evolved into me sounding sarcastic with a bit of an over the top cynical side which for whatever reason people like. Of course theres a lot more to it than that, but I'd say thats most peoples first impression of me XD but it makes people wanna be my friend. So I must be doing something right!

Yeah I feel like humor can really help, even if it is just being sarcastic. I was a little too serious at the start, I felt like multiple people reached out to me and I didn't take intiative. I tried to compensate near the end, but it was clearly over. I learn little by little at least. I care more about developing social skills then my classes atm because I have light schedule and I do well anyways.

Constant problem though is seeming too serious. I feel too many people are intimidated for multiple reasons.

Why'd they be intimidated?



I don't envy your job(s), I'll tell you that much.



StarOcean said:
Farsala said:

Yeah I feel like humor can really help, even if it is just being sarcastic. I was a little too serious at the start, I felt like multiple people reached out to me and I didn't take intiative. I tried to compensate near the end, but it was clearly over. I learn little by little at least. I care more about developing social skills then my classes atm because I have light schedule and I do well anyways.

Constant problem though is seeming too serious. I feel too many people are intimidated for multiple reasons.

Why'd they be intimidated?

I don't really know, I can only make guesses.

I personally am confident and think I am attractive. However someone might think the same, but then I lack any reasonable response. So then they end up being intimidated or think I am arrogant/narcissistic. Likewise with classes, I attempt to memorize everything. People near me notice  that I rarely take notes. When we talk about HW, exams, papers, etc. I sometimes let slip how long I legitimately spend on the assignment, only to get a bewildered response like "Wow, I spent twice as much time as you on that..." And possibly other small things like too serious clothing, lack of smartphone (so I read a book), always come to class and on time. Also I lack Social Media, so maybe people wanted to friend me only to find nothing haha.

Might be overthinking though.



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Ka-pi96 said:
Farsala said:

I don't really know, I can only make guesses.

I personally am confident and think I am attractive. However someone might think the same, but then I lack any reasonable response. So then they end up being intimidated or think I am arrogant/narcissistic. Likewise with classes, I attempt to memorize everything. People near me notice  that I rarely take notes. When we talk about HW, exams, papers, etc. I sometimes let slip how long I legitimately spend on the assignment, only to get a bewildered response like "Wow, I spent twice as much time as you on that..." And possibly other small things like too serious clothing, lack of smartphone (so I read a book), always come to class and on time. Also I lack Social Media, so maybe people wanted to friend me only to find nothing haha.

Might be overthinking though.

Is that... not normal? From my experience people taking notes seem to be the ones in the minority

Same with the coming to class on time thing!

I feel like most people bring notebooks, something I don't even bother with. Sometimes I have to borrow paper from my neighbor haha. Guess I should mention I had perfect attendance (only person out of 80 people), something my prof really liked :P. I didn't really have a reason to skip though.



Farsala said:
StarOcean said:

Why'd they be intimidated?

I don't really know, I can only make guesses.

I personally am confident and think I am attractive. However someone might think the same, but then I lack any reasonable response. So then they end up being intimidated or think I am arrogant/narcissistic. Likewise with classes, I attempt to memorize everything. People near me notice  that I rarely take notes. When we talk about HW, exams, papers, etc. I sometimes let slip how long I legitimately spend on the assignment, only to get a bewildered response like "Wow, I spent twice as much time as you on that..." And possibly other small things like too serious clothing, lack of smartphone (so I read a book), always come to class and on time. Also I lack Social Media, so maybe people wanted to friend me only to find nothing haha.

Might be overthinking though.

I think youre overthinking it XD but hey! youll probably make friends soon!



StarOcean said:
Farsala said:

I don't really know, I can only make guesses.

I personally am confident and think I am attractive. However someone might think the same, but then I lack any reasonable response. So then they end up being intimidated or think I am arrogant/narcissistic. Likewise with classes, I attempt to memorize everything. People near me notice  that I rarely take notes. When we talk about HW, exams, papers, etc. I sometimes let slip how long I legitimately spend on the assignment, only to get a bewildered response like "Wow, I spent twice as much time as you on that..." And possibly other small things like too serious clothing, lack of smartphone (so I read a book), always come to class and on time. Also I lack Social Media, so maybe people wanted to friend me only to find nothing haha.

Might be overthinking though.

I think youre overthinking it XD but hey! youll probably make friends soon!

Overthinking stuff is legit. Sometimes I envy drinkers, can just let the booze talk :P.



Farsala said:
StarOcean said:

I think youre overthinking it XD but hey! youll probably make friends soon!

Overthinking stuff is legit. Sometimes I envy drinkers, can just let the booze talk :P.

I dont get how people drink alcohol to be honest. It tastes like poison to me x.x I do like red wine though



StarOcean said:
Farsala said:

Overthinking stuff is legit. Sometimes I envy drinkers, can just let the booze talk :P.

I dont get how people drink alcohol to be honest. It tastes like poison to me x.x I do like red wine though

1 bottle of red wine a week would be fine and pretty healthy, problem is people like to get drunk on the hard stuff.

I don't really blame them though, as I would probably easily get addicted if I tried.