Most important thing is make it clear to him that you support him and accept him for who he is. It would be pretty terrible for him to feel completely alone and even just one person being there for you is a big plus.

Other than that - I'm assuming that there are groups of people like this (in a religion that is not accepting of their sexuality) out there. If you can find one it could be good for him to meet some people in the same situation.

 

Edit: As for dating/sex I guess I don't have any real advice as I don't understand his situation well enough, being irreligious and straight.

i suppose what he needs is to talk to people in his situation, he needs advice from people with the same problems and how they resolved the situation and how it worked out for them. he will nee your support, but there is really not much you can tell him without truly knowing what he is going through.

maybe he should try to look for groups or forums or chat on the internet to gather some information, maybe make some connections.

He needs more porn to set him straight.

OT: Just keep him talking and talking and you'll figure out his problems. How old is he though? Age plays a lot into how easy is it for him to come out of the closet. Take him to gay bar or something, he'll make some new friends there and you get some, too.

I actually have a very similar problem. My entire family is Christian except me, and if I told them about my still pretty recent realization they'd possibly kick me out. (I honestly have no idea what they'd do. What I do know is that they're really intolerant towards not "following the right path"). Hopefully I'll be able to move out before they somehow finds out.


Anyway, OT: The only advice I can give is to start dating on the internet. The family probably won't change their conservative view on his sexuality as long as they live.



God damn religion.

Go to a gay night in some club and be his wingmen.. just don't pick up more guys then him.. it's all about confidence

spurgeonryan said: NiKKoM said: Go to a gay night in some club and be his wingmen.. just don't pick up more guys then him.. it's all about confidence Hmm....Thanks for the advice?   I think the Internet thing would probably be the best way to go like some had said in here. Sounds kind of strange though.

I'm serious, there are 2 things here:
A. he's gets the courage to actively go out
B. He really knows you're cool with him being gay..

it will build his confidence incredibly..

IIIIITHE1IIIII said: I actually have a very similar problem. My entire family is Christian except me, and if I told them about my still pretty recent realization they'd possibly kick me out. (I honestly have no idea what they'd do. What I do know is that they're really intolerant towards not "following the right path"). Hopefully I'll be able to move out before they somehow finds out. God damn religion.

U mean u havent told your family that u dont believe in God? What denomination are they? Livets Ord? Pingst? Jehovas?

Spurgeonryan, what is your friend's current status of religious beliefs? Is he a devout Catholic, or rather do you know if he wants to be a devout Catholic ( be part of sermons, the church-going catholic community and so on)? Because I think your advice and behaviour should depend on that.

Slimebeast said: IIIIITHE1IIIII said: I actually have a very similar problem. My entire family is Christian except me, and if I told them about my still pretty recent realization they'd possibly kick me out. (I honestly have no idea what they'd do. What I do know is that they're really intolerant towards not "following the right path"). Hopefully I'll be able to move out before they somehow finds out. God damn religion. U mean u havent told your family that u dont believe in God? What denomination are they? Livets Ord? Pingst? Jehovas?

Yeah, I have not. They're all protestants and don't belong to any group you mentioned.

I would say just make him feel accepted. He needs to truly accept who he is and be himself before coming out. When it comes to Christianity and homosexuality, things can get confusing due to all the different interpretations, but I think he'll find many christians if not most will be fine with it; If his parents aren't initially, they will probably come to accept it eventually. If they never do accept him, it's their loss and I guess he has to choose to either be himself without the support of his parents or be who his parents want him to be. It may be a tough choice, but I think there really is only one realistic option.

If he goes to church, tell him to find gay-friendly churches and talk to the priests or other gay christians he finds and see what they have to say. Or you could do this and report back to him :)

As for dating, again meet people at gay-friendly churches or go online.