i can't agree with number 2 sapphi

life is more complicated than that and my stepdad raised me fine

Maybe I was a bit harsh with that point. I've seen cases like this  and the women are usually usign the men to raise their kids and the kids are ungrateful brats. Glad you appreciated your stepdad. I personally would not raise someone else's kid. There are other women out there, who don't come with such baggage (and honestly I think only a sucker would fall for such a woman).

I stand by my other points though!

Sounds like she isn't wanting to compromise at all.  A 30 min drive isn't shit yet it would probably stop the constant drop bys from her family.  If they aren't your kids then I would probably think about moving.  You should just move to the city 30 mins away and if she doesn't want to be with you anymore then so be it.  It isn't like you are asking her to move to another state or very far away.  If she can't handle being 30 mins away from her family then so be it, but sounds like you need the move as soon as possible.

When you marry someone, you are also marrying into their family.  Your relationship with her family is also a consideration when deciding if you want to be in a relationship with her or not.  I'm afraid to say I don't think a permanent relationship with your girlfriend would ever be a happy one.  Even if you moved 30 minutes away from her family.  Moving may make things a bit easier, but it won't resolve anything.

If I was in your position, I'd break the relationship off.  It's a hard decision, but you don't want to be stuck in an unhappy situation for the rest of your life.  If you were ever to marry your girlfriend, it sounds like she would never put you first, above everyone else, like she should.  Her family will still come first.  I'm afraid it doesn't sound like your girlfriend or her family will ever be willing to change their relationship for you. 

Well, in any relationship you kinda have to go with the full package that is that person's family. However, that doesn't' mean the partner can ignore you and how you feel about that part of your relationship.

My wife's family is VERY involved in my life as well and mine is more distant. I accept this, however, she also chooses me over her family, so if/when I am irritated or mad at some aspect of that involvement she accepts it and will put family in place.

There must always be compromise and if she wants a long term relationship to thrive, she must take your needs as a higher priority to that of her family. Just as you must do the same to her need to be close to her family.

So as a outsider, I would think a move slightly further away where you can have a bit more privacy is a good compromise to meet both of your needs.

Also, my wife's dad/brothers live two blocks away and her mother is 10min drive. So I do know where you are coming from. However, I have also let it known my privacy boundaries directly to them.

Assuming everything you say is true and not hyperbole, I'd say you need to cut your losses and move on with your life.  She is apparently unwilling to give as well as take, and she's close with a family whom you despise.  It is, simply, not going to work out unless you're willing and able to swallow your pride and let her have her way on this, and it sounds like you're not willing to do that.

Man you've got my sympathy. I was in a similar situation a few years ago and getting away from it was the best thing i did. Even if you both move farther away from her family its no guarantee they are going to stop bothering you, if any thing they will probably be calling a lot more to check up on her. My advice, cut your losses.

Next time they interrupt you during sex, receive them completely naked, with your dick smeared with brown make-up and complain with them that anal sex requires more quiet.   

Edit: Jokes apart, my serious advice is to be more steadfast. Once I had a bossy GF, that wanted to change everything about me, I answered her that I didn't mean to become another person, either she liked me as I was, or she could leave me. She left me and after her I had girlfriends sexier and with far better characters. And I'm totally in peace with her, while after years, when we happen to meet, she still alternates peaceful and friendly to angry mood towards me.   

This relationship isn't going to work in the long-term, get out of it. It will be better for you and kinder for her to get out.

Thanks for all the advice guys! I really appreciate it.