highwaystar101 said:
I've kind of come to a decision, I'm going to stay out of the creation/evolution threads from now on.
I decided to do a little test for the past two weeks and not get involved in the debates, and I don't think it's any coincidence that I've been feeling much happier lately.
I hate the debates, but I always feel compelled to get involved because I have a healthy respect for science and I often see misinformation about science in those threads.
It doesn't make me feel good to get involved. I always feel as though I'm generally being an asshat towards people with a different view, and I don't like thinking that way about myself (even if the person I'm debating with doesn't agree). I also find it quite stressful when I find myself debating with people who I know are very unlikely to change their mind.
I think it's something I could do without.
Anyway, I thought I would just make a thread to first offer an explanation and second because I thought that it would be good to just air this view on the forums.
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Im sad that you wont post anymore. While I disagree with a lot of your points on the religions threads, I always liked and agreed with your posts on the evolution/creationism threads.
Of all the people in the site, theres only a few who are fair, reasonable and actually open to debate and you are one of them.
Now, if you wont mind, Id like to say that (I think) you have a characteristic that I have too and have been fighting with for awhile - the need to have the other acknowledge you are right.
I spent years fighting with one of my brothers about a variety of issues and felt the same way as you. After a lot of soul-searching I found it that I was the biggest problem.
I was convinced that if I gave the right argument, he would agree. But people arent always reasonable.
So I tried to stop fighting. But then I realized that I was doing it out of hurt ego more than anything. Like, I wont even bother with him.
But I now I see, that the problem is me thinking too much about his reaction. I should just state my views and thats it. How he is going to respond doesnt matter.
Not to mention that people do change their minds, but 99% of the time isnt instantenous. it takes a lot of people, events, time to let it sink in.
What I think you should think about is that all those facts you mention on every thread may help that person down the line. You wont see it, but your words might help make him see it in the future.
Also, other people read those threads (like me
) and they will enjoy it.
So, I guess, after this very long post, that my point is that everytime you post in one of these threads, you do contribute to making a lot people (not just the person you are talking to) know a bit more about science. Since you say you love science, that should be a good reward.
PS - Something you could do is keep a file on your PC with the arguments already written. New thread pops up, just ctrl c ctrl v it. 
PS2 - Im almost sure this my longest post on VGChartz ever. 