Help!!! Need Advice on How to Repel Girls!

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NiKKoM on 01 September 2010

You know.. I was thinking... what if this is a test?

That the friends actually know he is kinda gay...

and they use Pam to find out...

how's that for paranoia... :)

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sapphi_snake on 01 September 2010

NiKKoM said:

You know.. I was thinking... what if this is a test?

That the friends actually know he is kinda gay...

and they use Pam to find out...

how's that for paranoia... :)

OMG! Now you really got me thinking. Now I he needs a plan that covers that possibility too. Lol, this is getting very complicated.

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voty2000 on 01 September 2010

The problem isn't paranoia it's cowardice. Instead of telling the girl the truth and giving her closure in the situation you want to string her along and let her think there is a chance in the future for her to get with your friend.

I met a girl in 7th grade and we were good friends until we graduated. She told me before we went to college that if I asked, she would marry me. I knew I would never marry her and I told her straight up. I honestly cried because I lost a dear friendship and I missed her and she was hurt. 6 years later she marries another guy and now we are hanging out again. These situations suck but you have to deal with it and not give her the run around. A bunch of people in this thread have said to be honest and you ignore those posts. Man up and take responsibility.

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dunno001 on 01 September 2010

sapphi_snake said:

dunno001 said:

My bad, but it's also fixable. How's about something like:

Scenario 1- If he has a job for the year-

"Unfortunately, I just don't have the time for a relationship with you. Right now, I'm working to have some money for relaxing after finishing school, the rest will go toward my upcoming college costs. If I were to start taking some of the meager time I have now to see you, it would only grow less and less, especially once I go to school, and will need that much more time to study and do well there. Coupling this with my job next year, I'd not be able to give you the time you'd deserve, so it just won't work as things stand." (Technically truthful; as things are now, it wouldn't work and he doesn't have time- that time is with his BF. Whether or not he'll keep the job is really irrelevant, but it keeps the future look there.)

Scenario 2- No job, no nothing-

"Nope, not looking for a relationship, sorry. I'm planning on going off to college next year, where I'm going to be bogged down with other time constraints. And after that, it'll be entering the work force. This year I have now is possibly my last year to actually be able to be free and unbound. While you are a nice person, I really don't want to have any commitment for this year. And even if I had, it would be even more that could distract me from my ultimate goal of going to med school. Even if you think you could wait, it's really not a fair thing to do, as our needs are seperate." (Again, technically true; he's not looking for a relationship, he has one. And I don't know too many people who would call their relationship, especially in an early stage, "bound.")

If there's a scenario 3 that I need to work out, lemme know, and I'll see what I can do for that. I don't mind doing this, even if I consider it my curse. (I seem to have a knack for helping people in or getting a relationship... except myself.)

Thanks for actually taking this seriously. He plans on travelling this year, before he starts Uni next year (doesn't know how he'll get the money for it though. Anyways both your versions are good. I'll pass them along to him tomorrow (hope he doesn't mind, he doesn't know I posted this on here, but I'm just trying to help).

Hope other people post valid solutions. I think he's meeting her tomorrow, so there's still enough time to create an elaborate plan with back-up plans, and emergency escape measures (lol, I love doing stuff like this).

Not a problem at all; I figure that if I can't help myself, I'll help as many others as I can. And for the shits and giggles, I'll take that scenario 3 and post for it. (Of course, I don't mean in a non-serious way; relationships are one of those things I do take very seriously.)

"A relationship with you just isn't going to work. Right now, my money's fairly tight, and I plan on going on a few trips to gather information before I head away to college next year. There's just no way that I'd be able to afford bringing a second person along and then have any money at all for college. And this would hurt me, because if I were really with you, I would want to bring you along. Even when I start school again, I just wouldn't have the time to devote to you that you would deserve. You still have your young years ahead of you also, asking you to wait at least 7 years is just impractical. Give up on me, it can't happen, sorry."

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xavi707 on 01 September 2010

Here's how to repel her. XP

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dunno001 on 01 September 2010

Oh yeah, one other question, sorry- where is he meeting her tomorrow? That would depend on what the escape routes should be...

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wfz on 01 September 2010

Nothing has to be "wrong with her" for him to not be interested in dating her. He can just say he's not infatuated and interested in her in more than anything than a friend.

I have plenty of friends who are girls. All are very pretty, very nice, and very smart. But I'm not attracted to any of them and I would never date them. They are my friends. It's simple really, and your friend should have no trouble turning her down. If the mental spark between the two people and the physical conncetion aren't there, then no interest will be created. It's as simple as that.