Help!!! Need Advice on How to Repel Girls!

[dunno001]

sapphi_snake said:

dunno001 said:

My bad, but it's also fixable. How's about something like:

Scenario 1- If he has a job for the year-

"Unfortunately, I just don't have the time for a relationship with you. Right now, I'm working to have some money for relaxing after finishing school, the rest will go toward my upcoming college costs. If I were to start taking some of the meager time I have now to see you, it would only grow less and less, especially once I go to school, and will need that much more time to study and do well there. Coupling this with my job next year, I'd not be able to give you the time you'd deserve, so it just won't work as things stand." (Technically truthful; as things are now, it wouldn't work and he doesn't have time- that time is with his BF. Whether or not he'll keep the job is really irrelevant, but it keeps the future look there.)

Scenario 2- No job, no nothing-

"Nope, not looking for a relationship, sorry. I'm planning on going off to college next year, where I'm going to be bogged down with other time constraints. And after that, it'll be entering the work force. This year I have now is possibly my last year to actually be able to be free and unbound. While you are a nice person, I really don't want to have any commitment for this year. And even if I had, it would be even more that could distract me from my ultimate goal of going to med school. Even if you think you could wait, it's really not a fair thing to do, as our needs are seperate." (Again, technically true; he's not looking for a relationship, he has one. And I don't know too many people who would call their relationship, especially in an early stage, "bound.")

If there's a scenario 3 that I need  to work out, lemme know, and I'll see what I can do for that. I don't mind doing this, even if I consider it my curse. (I seem to have a knack for helping people in or getting a relationship... except myself.)

Thanks for actually taking this seriously. He plans on travelling this year, before he starts Uni next year (doesn't know how he'll get the money for it though. Anyways both your versions are good. I'll pass them along to him tomorrow (hope he doesn't mind, he doesn't know I posted this on here, but I'm just trying to help).

Hope other people post valid solutions. I think he's meeting her tomorrow, so there's still enough time to create an elaborate plan with back-up plans, and emergency escape measures (lol, I love doing stuff like this).

Not a problem at all; I figure that if I can't help myself, I'll help as many others as I can. And for the shits and giggles, I'll take that scenario 3 and post for it. (Of course, I don't mean in a non-serious way; relationships are one of those things I do take very seriously.)

"A relationship with you just isn't going to work. Right now, my money's fairly tight, and I plan on going on a few trips to gather information before I head away to college next year. There's just no way that I'd be able to afford bringing a second person along and then have any money at all for college. And this would hurt me, because if I were really with you, I would want to bring you along. Even when I start school again, I just wouldn't have the time to devote to you that you would deserve. You still have your young years ahead of you also, asking you to wait at least 7 years is just impractical. Give up on me, it can't happen, sorry."