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Is a hug at the door, on a first date, an automatic friend zone?

Yes 3 10.71%
 
No 10 35.71%
 
Possible 4 14.29%
 
Too soon to tell 11 39.29%
 
Total:28

Ok, so I have been talking to people about this and they all said it is too soon to tell or No, but i want to get some outside sources...So, I asked this girl to go out with me because we have been talking online for almost two weeks and she agreed to it...So we seemed to have a good time with no awkward pauses during the whole time and when I took her to her door, I was going to try to give a little "peck" on the cheek but before I did anything she said, "Do you want a hug?"...So I said yes because what else am I going to say??? So I give her a hug and I have been kicking my ass because I should have went for the cheek...So anyway, do you see this as a friend zone move...Extra information, she was implying she wants to go out again when we were talking...If I get her to see a movie I would try make a move, but I would like some feedback....I know, I am a loser :p



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Depends if your a mormon or a christian or a lesbian

 

btw, her asking you if you want a hug is bad news. Usually people don't ask something like that (unless something above is relevent). I dk, maybe you can swing some pity sex too.



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You blew it... she asked you to hug her hoping for a little kiss... she tested you.. but nooooo... you didn't do it... face it.. it's over.. and it hadn't even started yet...

jk.. too soon to tell..



 

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Who on earth asks someone if they want a hug?

*edit: Oh, you're 16. Forget I said anything. When it comes to women, remember that they're just as nervous (if not more) than you are. She's probably lamenting all the things she did "wrong" during the date right now, just the same as you.

You got the date. Give it time and call (text, whatever) her again. See how it goes. Don't read too much into anything, it will only make you mind-fuck yourself when it probably meant nothing at all to the other person.




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rocketpig said:

Who on earth asks someone if they want a hug?

*edit: Oh, you're 16. Forget I said anything. When it comes to women, remember that they're just as nervous (if not more) than you are. She's probably lamenting all the things she did "wrong" during the date right now, just the same as you.

You got the date. Give it time and call (text, whatever) her again. See how it goes. Don't read too much into anything, it will only make you mind-fuck yourself when it probably meant nothing at all to the other person.


  17 I will have you know :p...I just noticed that my age never changed with my birthday XD....That really makes no difference though....



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monkeyman40210 said:
rocketpig said:

Who on earth asks someone if they want a hug?

*edit: Oh, you're 16. Forget I said anything. When it comes to women, remember that they're just as nervous (if not more) than you are. She's probably lamenting all the things she did "wrong" during the date right now, just the same as you.

You got the date. Give it time and call (text, whatever) her again. See how it goes. Don't read too much into anything, it will only make you mind-fuck yourself when it probably meant nothing at all to the other person.


  17 I will have you know :p...I just noticed that my age never changed with my birthday XD....That really makes no difference though....

Still, heed the words of rocketpig. He's right.

I had a date last friday, also internet-related. The girl was incredibly nervous. We were sitting in a cafetaria when I asked if I could hold her hands, etc. She wasn't trembling when I held them but she was incredibly tense, which is not uncommon for girls. I dropped her off at the station on the end, and we hugged as well. She also told me she wanted a second date and while re-evaluating a day or two later she also told me that "I scored good points" for not doing anything too intimate. You don't score points while in a friend zone ;). 

So generally speaking, your good. My guess is that indeed she is nervous, and secondly she doesnt want to come of as easy.



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Esmoreit said:
monkeyman40210 said:
rocketpig said:

Who on earth asks someone if they want a hug?

*edit: Oh, you're 16. Forget I said anything. When it comes to women, remember that they're just as nervous (if not more) than you are. She's probably lamenting all the things she did "wrong" during the date right now, just the same as you.

You got the date. Give it time and call (text, whatever) her again. See how it goes. Don't read too much into anything, it will only make you mind-fuck yourself when it probably meant nothing at all to the other person.


  17 I will have you know :p...I just noticed that my age never changed with my birthday XD....That really makes no difference though....

Still, heed the words of rocketpig. He's right.

I had a date last friday, also internet-related. The girl was incredibly nervous. We were sitting in a cafetaria when I asked if I could hold her hands, etc. She wasn't trembling when I held them but she was incredibly tense, which is not uncommon for girls. I dropped her off at the station on the end, and we hugged as well. She also told me she wanted a second date and while re-evaluating a day or two later she also told me that "I scored good points" for not doing anything too intimate. You don't score points while in a friend zone ;).

So generally speaking, your good. My guess is that indeed she is nervous, and secondly she doesnt want to come of as easy.


  In light of this information, it makes me feel better...She did not seem nervous though...I think that I probably came off as more nervous that she did...But maybe I scored some point just as you did :p

 

But, you are in the Netherlands, is there a difference between girls there and the US, and There is most likely and age difference...What ever your girl's age was compared to 16 might be different as well...Just throwing out a random thought



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You shouldn't be worried at all. It was a weird question for her to ask, but maybe she didn't know if you liked being touched. Even though she may eventually kiss ya, hugging could bother some people.

Just take it easy, you'll be fine.



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monkeyman40210 said:


  In light of this information, it makes me feel better...She did not seem nervous though...I think that I probably came off as more nervous that she did...But maybe I scored some point just as you did :p

 

But, you are in the Netherlands, is there a difference between girls there and the US, and There is most likely and age difference...What ever your girl's age was compared to 16 might be different as well...Just throwing out a random thought

I'm almost ashamed to admit it but the girl I dates was barely 18. Still, wasn't the first time for her to date older guys.
As for cultural differences, that I don't know. My guess is that girls between here and there are pretty much the same in ideas and desires.



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