There are soooo many and it's hard to tell which to choose. What are some good suggestions and the PS4 or Nintendo switch?

I came off Tales of Arise and got a serious JRPG hunger. The only game that comes close is FF14 online and I don't wanna waste hundreds of hours with that game as it becomes an addiction. I'm also not a fan of very old school turn bases combat and hate random encounters but if a game is good enough like Peraona 5 or Octopath, this doesn't apply as a rule. 

Games I already tried and have yet to hook me:

Eiyden Chronicle Rising,

Diofeild Chronicles,

Romance of the 3 Kingdoms,

Dragon quest 11,

Judgement,

Xenoblade. 

I love /enjoyed:

Yakuza Like A dragon

13 sentinels aegis rim

Ys 8

Ff14 online

FF15

Astral chain 

Persona 5

Bloodborne/ souls

I am Setsuna

Octopath Traveller

Yakuza 0

Nioh

Elden Ring

Ace attorney

Haven't tried it myself (no time at all for it), but you may like Star Ocean: The Divine Force, since shares Action RPG elements with Tales.

Oh, that one foes look good. Thank you. I tried the Star Ocean remake thing (Second story or something) but was put off by the combat, this one looks like a more entertaining game in that aspect. 

Do you know any that is similar two Fire Emblem three houses?

There's Tales of Vesperia: Definitive Edition, a significantly better Tales game than Arise if you ask me. The age of the original does show a little bit but not as much as say Tales of Symphonia (an even better Tales game if you ask me). I'm assuming you're looking for at least semi-new stuff based on the games you mentioned, though even older Tales games have pretty great real time combat.

I was thinking about Berseria. Is Vesperia real time combat? And how long does it take to get in the groove and hook you?

Arise is pretty mid. I enjoyed it for what it was but it's pretty average. Scarlet Nexus is a much better game. Vesperia is the best Tales game. Legit an excellent game. Tales series is generally from bad to eh okay but Vesperia was legit fantastic. Star Ocean Divine Force is the best SO game since 2. However, it has issues. It's a pretty good game.

More than half the games you mention are already better than Arise imo. Try Berseria/Vesperia, might be right up your alley.

If you didn't play it for PS3 then I recommend Ni No Kuni: Wrath of the White Witch Remastered for PS4 or NS.

Yep every game in the series is real time combat all the way back from the SNES. Berseria has a good story but fairly shallow combat, Vesperia is excellent on both. Can't say exactly how long it takes to hook you, think it was pretty early on for me.

13 sentinels was superb. Triangle Strategy was excellent.
For a standard jrpg I thought Arise was one of the best in a long time.