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General - Dealing with loss - View Post

As other have said, and this is worth repeating: This really is not your fault. Not only that, you even did cpr - that is everything you could do. (For whatever it is worth: I worked at the Red Cross for 9 months and did cpr to dying people. Non survived. Different doctors in different situations consoled me, saying that most of these situations turn out disappointing. You can do everything right and fast and things still turn out bad.)

My advice to horrible images being stuck in your head: let it play out. Cry about it. Allow yourself to be devastated. But also, when to time feels right and you are in the mood, try to let other memories of your father play out. Good ones. You can talk over them and have pretend conversations with him. That is at least what helped me in tough situations.