manuel said:
It does, though. You can't comprehend what it's like to have children if you don't have them. (And I mean wanted children, not unwanted unplanned accidents.) Same with love. You won't know what it exactly is until you feel it. Or a near-death experience. You can read a lot about them, but unless you have one yourself you don't really know what it is. As to "what's the point", I don't know either. It's in our nature, I guess. But what I do know is that I love my son more than anything and it makes my day when he just randomly pops into my room to hug me and says "I love you, dad." It's wholesome and just feels great. Of course you can live without that. No discussion there. |
This.
And of course, as any other species, we have a biological imperative to propagate, so there are these underlying motivations that we are not even fully conscious of. We want to pass on our genes and be part of the great continuum.
But if you feel strongly that having kids isn't something that you want to do, it's probably better that you don't have them and that's okay.
It's interesting, I've had this theory that people who don't understand the appeal of kids have themselves had a bad childhood for some reason or another and Lonely Dolphin seems to lend some weight to this.
Some people say that they don't want to be bogged down with kids, because they want to be free to experience the world. But what is a greater experience than creating a new life, a new person?
