| VGPolyglot said: So, this is a topic that has profoundly troubled me for a while. I do have sexual desires, which I currently relieve through masturbation. However, it's hard to do that through thoughts alone, so I tend to use pornographic material too while doing that. Now, this is where the problem lies. The pornographic industry is not the happiest place at all, far from it in fact. Porn stars have a pretty high suicide rate and lower life-expectancy. This highlights the general unhappiness that porn stars have, and it makes it very hard to consciously watch porn without thinking of the working conditions and relationships, how dehumanizing it must be to have a job like that and the normalization of sex that makes it hard to fully enjoy it. So, what I tend to do frequently is use fictional media instead, mainly hentai (in the forms of anime and doujinshi), as since they're fictional characters it is impossible for them to be truly hurt/exploited. However, I can understand that for others it's hard to do it, and even for me I tend to shuffle things up in order to be able to stay aroused and avoid desensitization. So, there has to be a happy medium. I myself try very hard to not have pornography affect my views and treatment of women, and I hope that I have maintained that. But I was also curious on your guys' thoughts and perspectives on the matter. |
You really are the master of controversial threads VGPolyglot 
But granted that I may be the master of controversial opinions...
But I'll be brief in answering your question: Desiring someone is intrinsically speaking not disrespectful, it's actually very natural. What is purely artificial is the response of our societies to sex. It's ok to satisfy the need for food by eating, it's ok to satisfy the need of sleep by sleeping, it's ok to satisfy the need of liquids in our body by drinking water and such etc... But somehow it's NOT ok to wish to satisfy the need for sex and if you do so you are disrespectful or a pervert or worse?
The answer is pretty simple to me: Desire all you want women and as long as they are consenting you are NOT disrespectful and they are NOT whores for having desires too. Watch porn too if a relationship is too much trouble (and yeah a relationship can be) The women in porn are busting their asses to get you to jizz. I could almost say if you don't then you are disrespectful of their effort to try and make you orgasm.
I said it before and I'll say it again: Sex is purely natural, as natural as any other need we have. Society is VERY slowly but surely evolving and acknowledging that fact. I could swear that if the internet had existed 50 years ago and this forum had been around back in those days and you had even tried to start a thread that speaks of SEX, you would have been perma-banned immediately with some message from the mod that would go something like: Keep your sick mind to yourself pervert, how dare you speak of the unspeakable word that starts with S and ends with X, in this forum? We won't have this filth here!
Now we have evolved and you can speak of it in detail and all and most people are ok with it. And mark my words, in 50 years you'll see stuff you wouldn't think possible now. In 100 years people in forums will just display naked pictures and everybody will think it's normal cause it is. They'll say stuff like: "Wow, 100 years ago they would ban you if you displayed the picture of a dick in a forum? What a bunch of backwards people they were back then, as if there was anything wrong or unnatural with genitals. They could show their hands, their shoulders, their faces, their feet but not their genitals? How arbitrary of those people back then".
