50 rules for dads of daughters

[LemonSlice]

happydolphin said:

UncleScrooge said:

I wanted to post in your other thread but didn't so I'll do it here: Sexual abuse is always about power. It's about one person having the choice while the other one has to obey. In the case of children they have no idea what sexuality even is. It literally destroys their world because they do not understand what that grown up person is even doing. Even worse: What hurts most abused children the most is that those grown ups talked them into thinking they "liked" it. Grown up victims of child abuse often say things like "i thought I was in love with that person"- it's the most cruel thing you can do to a person: abusing them for your pleasures when they are still too young to even understand it. Child abuse most commonly happens inside a family structure - children get abused by their parents, uncles, close friends of their parents, etc. And it never, never is consensual. 

Have you ever heard of dissociative amnesia? Dissociation in general? The horror a child has to live through is even more terrible than that of a grown up victim. Children need adults to survive. It's a matter of life and death for them. So they have to dissociate the horrors. Some of them even forget their abuse completely because it's just too much for them to incorporate it into their identity. It's literally their whole world falling apart.

As a general rule: If someone (especially the victim) says a certain case of child abuse was "consensual" it is an extremely severe case. 

So to answer your question: Is it strange people think doing the most horrible thing to a child without them being able to defend themselves is terrible? No, I don't think so. Because the other stuff you listed at least *can* be consensual between two (or more) grown up people. 

I understand the gravity it is for a child, but it doesn't remove the fact that it is still true for an adult: "i thought I was in love with that person"

In other words to sleep around, to pretend to be in love to pop a few cherries, or to think that sex is a sport is, in light of OP, similarly bad. Not as bad but similarly.

Pedophilia thread 2.0

I'm out...