You're working: how many days do you get off per year?

[nordlead]

mirgro said:

nordlead said:

this is rather presumptuous. I used to meet new people every week when I used to do volunteer work. You only meet people if you choose to do so. That has nothing to do with if you are in a big city or not, or if you are clubbing or not. I could live in a big city, and I would still ignore 99.9% of the people I walk by in a month.

Now I don't as much, because I prefer to spend time with my family and new child, yet I still manage to meet new people.

There. That's the crux of the problem in the US. Socializing is an "opt in" feature, not something that happes whether you like it or not. In just about all other nations, socializing is autmatic and you have to opt out of it and work really hard to avoid it. In the US you have to actively be social, otherwise you get in your car, go to work, do your job and socialize with colleagues, get in your car, go back home, work on your garden/computer/personal project/family matters/hobbies, and then sleep.

I also understand that you would ignore 99.99% of the people that ignore you on your way to work, or when you go out to eat, or wherever you have to leave your home, however that 0.01% is still a very big amount considering you run into a lot more than 100 people in your daily goings on, and, this is the very big one, because you ignore them doesn't mean they ignore you, and you end up forced to talk, yell, get angry, whatever at them.

I am sure that if you ask anyone from any country they will hate the people who piss them off, yet it has been shown that by having to deal with annoying random people, or just anoying friends, you learn how to deal with problems wen things aren't going your way. Humans are social, and even the things you hate about socializing seem to be greatly beneficial to people, there are dozens of studies that show just how social of an animal a human really is.

wow. you are a peice of work. I'm convinced your only view of socializing is if you walk by 1000 random strangers in a single day and then maybe yell at a couple for almost running you over, order a cup of coffee from another, and then hold 1 meaningful conversation with a random guy at the news stand. Oh, and that friend that you know at work and are good budies with, he doesn't count. Oh, I forgot to add that you need to get drunk at a club and chat with another stranger that you'll never meet again.

However, if you subscribe to the small town everyone knows everyone with a small number of really good and close meaningful relationships you are "anti-social". Who knew I was anti-social just because I don't live in NYC.