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HylianSwordsman said:
Also consider the option of not getting married. Marriage isn't right for everyone, and not everyone is right for marriage. There's no shame in that. A lot of guys get themselves into trouble because they feel pressure to get married, but they're not really marriage material, and that really ought to just be fine. A lot of messy divorces would be avoided that way.

a christian discouraging people from getting married?

what kind of christian are you exactly? an intersectional christian?



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Or maybe you could just love each other without the marrying part you know ? These formalities aren't necessary anymore.



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Where I live marriage is only for tax reasons and it's not even that great in some cases. Getting rid of marriage seems like a good idea to me. Would love to see the corrupt multi billion dollar wedding industry collapse.



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As a general rule (with exceptions), men tend toward polygamy, women toward hypergamy. Allow no fault divorce, especially one that favours women when it comes to court rulings, and you get biology to do its thing...not to say some men don't benefit from it as well.



Prenup, guys, prenup. If she won't sign, she won't dine :D Women in my country tend to be highly independent, plus there's an extensive safety net by way of social benefits. Because of these things, the women here are generally very fair when it comes to settlements, child support and such anyways. I know women who have not claimed anything from their exes, even though they would be entitled to do so legally and even morally speaking. Post-marital problems here are typically more about personal beefs and time with the kids than the economic side of things. I guess it always boils down to personal relations, no matter how you look at it.



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John2290 said:
Pussy comes at a cost, wheter you lay for it directly or not. This is known. What surprises me is that people are surprised by this.

Aced it. Why just one flower in a garden?



HylianSwordsman said:
Also consider the option of not getting married. Marriage isn't right for everyone, and not everyone is right for marriage. There's no shame in that. A lot of guys get themselves into trouble because they feel pressure to get married, but they're not really marriage material, and that really ought to just be fine. A lot of messy divorces would be avoided that way.

Women too. People think it is their cultural duty to get married.

It’s not even that marriage isn’t right for all those that aren’t, it’s that people are marrying for the wrong reasons and are therefore probably not marrying the right person. I think it is important (for men in particular) to experience dating many women without intentions for long term relationships. If dating for 3 months and the last month or more has not been happy, it is sure marriage won’t be a good idea.

Also, a lot of guys have emotional baggage (myself included) where they have a long term crush on certain women: a lot of short relationships and casual dating DOES get rid of this - and I would say having no emotional baggage is good, and making sure not to date women who have emotional baggage for very long (maybe 6 weeks tops, ideally as short a time as possible). When no emotional baggage is involved, a strong foundation for building a relationship exists. But (as a man) when there is emotional baggage involved with you, even if you have met a great woman, you might not be emotionally ready to fully commit to her because your heart is not fully in it (if that makes sense) and your mind is going over alternative scenarios as possibilities (rather than just harmless fantasies).

It is better to make sure you know yourself and what kind of person you are, and be able to recognize others, before getting married. I’d say women develop emotional maturity much younger than men, but it is not a perfect rule. Some men are emotionally mature at young ages (that is, able to eliminate the emotional baggage and put full love and commitment to one goal without it being any kind of a struggle), and some women at older ages. I think emotional maturity is something that life experience, and dating lots of women, can give for men - women don’t seem to be the same: I have known many women who are very mature, emotionally, who have had very little dating experience; similar can be said of some men, but it is FAR more rare.



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HylianSwordsman said:
I will mention that your 45% statistic is bogus, however. There is no reliable data on the reasons for suicide. There's statistics for the age, race, and other demographics, statistics for mental illness comorbidities, and statistics for the methods used, but not for the reasons.

Another really insightful post. I found that number to seemed a little bunk too. I have never heard of suicide being for that reason, ever (murder, potentially yes, but not suicide). It would shock me if drug addictions mental illness and grief were not the main factors. As well, suicide rates tend to be lower in countries with high divorce rates, so to say one of the major reasons for suicide is divorce seems to go against the statistics.



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Interesting topic. Tag for later.



o_O.Q said:
first comment :
"went on a date last week with a single mom that had a brand new house working part time. i asked her how she affords it and she bragged that her ex has to pay house payment rest of his life as alimony on top of child support. men beware"

what the fuck?

That is straight up slavery, there is no other way to spin it. Being forced to work while someone else steals your labor and takes home your wages at the point of a gun is slavery.