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Men choose to remain single and give up on women?

They do not want to becom... 9 7.69%
 
They do not want to change! 12 10.26%
 
They do not need a woman'... 3 2.56%
 
They do not want to conform to society! 5 4.27%
 
They have busy life and d... 9 7.69%
 
They are a man-child and never grew up! 17 14.53%
 
They are regarded as a lo... 15 12.82%
 
Modern feminism double st... 19 16.24%
 
Other! 27 23.08%
 
They choose sex workers instead! 1 0.85%
 
Total:117
DarthMetalliCube said: 

Bruh, I know it sucks, and I can't pretend to understand what you're going through, but - I do feel I exhibit some of your traits (pretty sure I have many traits of social anxiety and some of autism), and I really feel from my perspective that you just gotta play the hand you're dealt. That's all you can do. You can't control the mental/physical state you were given, but you can control what you do with it. If you do that to the best of your ability, and maintain a positive outlook and try to be a kind person to others and treat yourself well, good things will happen. Maybe not as well as you'd like but it will.

I watched a Boogie video once that helped give me hope. In it he said something like "maybe you were thrown into a game in extra hard mode, well.. beat the game anyway".

I've had zero luck with women and I haven't had much of a robust job history myself, but I try to remain positive and don't give up. I just keep fighting. I try to look at it as, it hardens my resolve and strengthens my character. At the very least, I try to maintain a calm peace about myself. That's all you can do.



SpokenTruth said: 

Stop this.  ALL of this.  You make massive presumptions about women and then blame your problems with them based on those presumptions.

How the hell can you say no women would ever talk to you when you have sworn off ever talking to them?  You haven't been proven right about women because you exist in your own self-fulfilling prophecy.

"I do not need to ask women out just to be rejected endlessly and no reason given."?  Can I have some of that mind reading power?  Get over yourself for 5 minutes, look into some of the excellent resources that I and others have given you and get some help.  You keep saying you've accepted your situation but you haven't accepted a damn thing.  You are still in anger, bargaining and depression phases of grief.  Acceptance requires that you are content with your situation and you damn sure aren't.  Worse is that your situation is largely a fictionalized reality you've made up.  YOU have chosen to live in a world where there is an absolute and universal rejection of you by women.  You have manifested your own fiction borne from your insecurities and realized through a projection u[on women of your own rejection of yourself.

Get help.

ok hopefully this multi tag works lol.


@Darth

You are not wrong. I was born in a time and in a country that didn't even have conditions for the symptoms he has described or that I have ready about autism. you miss behave or acted funny you got your ass wooped by a cane lol.  You were quiet or antisocial your parents called you a wild beast that need to grow up. You didn't want to do something? then you didn't get to eat.  If i was born in Australia I fear that doctors here would have been to quick to label you autistic and suddenly you get thrown into this other bucket.

Darth a lot of dating and entering into a serious relationship is pure luck, chance and being there at the right time. Only way to get there is to keep trying, so good on you for staying positive. I wish you all the luck.

If you want a root, one night stands is a different beast. Pretty much all emotions taken out and all lust. Fun when you young but it does become empty from what the so called players who have matured have told me lol. Some just never grow up and continue that life style, which is their choice.

 

@SpokenTruth

Exactly but he doesn't seem to want to get the help. He described himself as uglies mfker etc. but in all honesty at 70kgs of weight, he can easily improve his look simply by just dressing a little better and smiling here and there. Sometimes I wonder if he is trolling us or not because in his latest reply he says he dropped out of school, but then he said he has a degree on commerce. You can' get to uni without graduating year 12. So i don't know how much is real and how much is fiction built around his bubble to shield  him from the world/reality.

Every time people provide some useful info, he just rejects it completely.  I am half tempted to visit these places in WA that help autisict people to see what help they offer.

 

@BOTH

I don't know if you read any of my replies or not but everytime he said something negative about his live, I gave him examples of my own life were I was worst off and how others are worst off. It is how they dealt with those situations and bounced back that made the difference.

At the end of the day no matter how shit your life is, someone's will always be shittier. At the same time no matter how good your life is, someone's will always be better. You just gotta make the best of what you got.



 

 

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SpokenTruth said:
Dark_Lord_2008 said:

I stare at women and I never say a word to them.
Wearing dark sunglasses makes it less obvious.
I do not need to ask women out just to be rejected endlessly and no reason given.

Dark_Lord_2008 said:

I knew at 16 I had the intuition and insight that all women will never accept me.

So far I have been proven right not to waste time asking women out.
They will always say no and they will never give me a chance.
I know women would always say no and never give me a chance and no point trying and failing.
I do not say hi or smile when random women say hi or smile.
It must be a cruel joke and I just walk on by and ignore them.

Stop this.  ALL of this.  You make massive presumptions about women and then blame your problems with them based on those presumptions.

How the hell can you say no women would ever talk to you when you have sworn off ever talking to them?  You haven't been proven right about women because you exist in your own self-fulfilling prophecy.

"I do not need to ask women out just to be rejected endlessly and no reason given."?  Can I have some of that mind reading power?  Get over yourself for 5 minutes, look into some of the excellent resources that I and others have given you and get some help.  You keep saying you've accepted your situation but you haven't accepted a damn thing.  You are still in anger, bargaining and depression phases of grief.  Acceptance requires that you are content with your situation and you damn sure aren't.  Worse is that your situation is largely a fictionalized reality you've made up.  YOU have chosen to live in a world where there is an absolute and universal rejection of you by women.  You have manifested your own fiction borne from your insecurities and realized through a projection u[on women of your own rejection of yourself.

Get help.

He does not know but he means well and when a person is scared for social interaction in such a high amount that just talking to a women feels like hell then i find it understandable he just wants to avoid it but yes he thinks about it the wrong way.

He did not choose to be what he is and the stress/panic about small/big uncontrolled things will never go away,people in this thread that think autists can rearange their brain to start thinking "normal" have no understanding of it at all and everyone thinking like if they can overcome stress then autists should too but they dont know how stress works differently for them.

He has a negative view on humanity as a whole and considering situation no one should feel offended about that and his case, a small amount of people with samelike experiences to chat with would be a good beginning but do not even start thinking about the rest and none should push him for that.



Well, tonight's the night. In T Minus 6 hours I'll be heading out to my last singles night of my 20s.

Got a nice crisp but not too serious shirt and some neat jeans ready to go, gonna have some drinks to take the edge off the social anxiety, use deodorant/cologne/etc, shower and shave beforehand, all the standard stuff. Fingers crossed.

Last edited by curl-6 - on 10 January 2019

I am a literal manchild but I can go into a bar, you can point at any women, and I can talk them into bed within 24 hours without even using pick up art.



curl-6 said:

Well, tonight's the night. In T Minus 6 hours I'll be heading out to my last singles night of my 20s.

Got a nice crisp but not too serious shirt and some neat jeans ready to go, gonna have some drinks to take the edge off the social anxiety, use deodorant/cologne/etc, shower and shave beforehand, all the standard stuff. Fingers crossed.

Wish you the best of luck! Don't mention that you hang out on video game forums in your free time, it's not a good topic for small talk.

WessleWoggle said:
I am a literal manchild but I can go into a bar, you can point at any women, and I can talk them into bed within 24 hours without even using pick up art.

wow you're a wizard.



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Most bars are a huge sausage fest, lots of guys, not many women. Night clubs are more for people under 25, when you are older you look weird and awkward mixing with younger people. I do not drink much and I do not take drugs and I am not much of a fighter. I have learned that violence is not the answer to solve issues, it only makes things worse and can lead to trouble.

I am focused on fitness and I am obsessed about my weight and trying to remain under 80kg, I currently weigh 75kg, would like to get back down to 70kg so I can focus on cycling and running. I do not have the build to lift weights and I have made some mistakes at the gym and strained my neck, shoulder and back on rowing machine and doing too many shoulder presses. It is weird the fixed weight machines are variations of shoulder press that train the same muscles that lead to muscle imbalances.





@OP two questions before I go on. Are you ugly and have you had sex? Serious question.

Now funny you talk about men choosing to be single. I'm going into year 7 with my gf and I always tell her when she asks what would I do if she broke up with me and I say I'd stay single and enjoy life without the stress of a gf. I ask if you'd had sex because before I ever did I was a little awkward too with women. Didn't help I went to an all boys school and spent all my time on all boys sports teams. Very little social interaction. Plus my parents never acted romantic.

Anyway she asked what about sex and I told her the feeling of an orgasm is the same whether it's from a women or my hand.

Another thing I noticed. Whenever I was single and going to clubs trying to get a girl I'd fail or find it harder. But anytime I went out during relationships with previous girlfriends or my current one and I'm with the lads I find women are way more interested and I'm always laughing telling them, where were you when I was single. So what I take from that is girls are more interested in men who aren't chilled and are trying too hard to get them.



Dark_Lord_2008 said:
Most bars are a huge sausage fest, lots of guys, not many women. Night clubs are more for people under 25, when you are older you look weird and awkward mixing with younger people. I do not drink much and I do not take drugs and I am not much of a fighter. I have learned that violence is not the answer to solve issues, it only makes things worse and can lead to trouble.

I am focused on fitness and I am obsessed about my weight and trying to remain under 80kg, I currently weigh 75kg, would like to get back down to 70kg so I can focus on cycling and running. I do not have the build to lift weights and I have made some mistakes at the gym and strained my neck, shoulder and back on rowing machine and doing too many shoulder presses. It is weird the fixed weight machines are variations of shoulder press that train the same muscles that lead to muscle imbalances.



Depends where you go clubbing. I was at a stag party in krakow last year and Holy shit the place was full of fine polish, Ukrainian and woman of other nationality. I walked in with the group of lads and before I got to the dance floor 2 girls had grabbed me and were pushing me towards this other chick. It was like being back in the teenage discos back home. 



curl-6 said:

Well, tonight's the night. In T Minus 6 hours I'll be heading out to my last singles night of my 20s.

Got a nice crisp but not too serious shirt and some neat jeans ready to go, gonna have some drinks to take the edge off the social anxiety, use deodorant/cologne/etc, shower and shave beforehand, all the standard stuff. Fingers crossed.

Apprently beards are in thing atm.

I got one, but my wife hates it lol.



 

 

WessleWoggle said:
I am a literal manchild but I can go into a bar, you can point at any women, and I can talk them into bed within 24 hours without even using pick up art.

Didn't you come out on the forum as a troll like yesterday? back to your old ways?