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I lived on my own since I was 17 and the last thing I want to do is live with my Parents. So yes I think in general after a certain age, yes. However if the person is lucky enough to have his parents put him through college, then no.



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First we live in their house and then they live in ours. They give it to us.
Just kidding we try to get our own house and we do get it by our 30s but still not that embarrassing I think. We have sort of a familial setup so that plays a part.
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WagnerPaiva said:
onionberry said:

I don't see anything wrong if people live with their parents and they help with the bills, but if they don't wanna work or help then that's embarrassing. I'm Italian from NJ, we stay together. Although I rent an apt in NY, rent is not cheap, so if one day I wanna comeback I will comeback (i don't wanna comeback). People should stop thinking about what others think, if you think it's embarrassing then that's a problem for you and you need to get out for your own good, if you're ok with it then good. Your culture or the society is not going to pay your bills, then don't know if your parents need your help etc etc. they just want something to judge.

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I'm German and from my own experience: yeah, it's kinda frowned upon.

I can't really pin-point the age, when you're supposed to move out though - it probably varies from region to region.

I first moved out when I went to university - I was 20/21 - there was no "societal" pressure to move out back then. So I guess 20 is still ok.

However, when I wrote my diploma thesis - I was 24/25 - I moved back in with my parents because the institute was close to where my parents lived and it would have been dumb to get an appartement for only 6 months. That's when I got some weird looks and comments. Not from my parents - they loved having me back, because I was the youngest of 3 so I was the last to leave the nest, which seems to be a big deal for parents...

So the age when it becomes "weird" to live with your parents seems to be somwhere between 20 and 25 ... at least where I come from.



 

Growing up watching american TV shows I kind of assumed your parents kicked you out as soon as you went to college.

I'm 24, mexican and still living at home with my parents. I'd say most people I know (friends and coworkers) are in the same situation, in their late twenties-early thirties and since most of us don't seem very interested in getting married and I guess that's part of the reason moving out isn't as common as it used to be.



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Well in Canada, it depends where you're from. I'm from a city called Calgary, and until recently I did live with my parents (was going to university). Housing was expensive, and frankly I was worried I'd be in my mid-30s before I had a chance. Lots of younger people have the problem here (same with Toronto and Vancouver). However, with the downturn in the economy, I definently took the chance in getting a condo. Was certainly shocked at how cheap prices were (for the city), and I do have a stable job, so I went in. I always wanted to move out as soon as I could, but I knew my financial constraints. Luckily everything lined up well for me, and now I'm living happy by myself! 



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onionberry said:

I don't see anything wrong if people live with their parents and they help with the bills, but if they don't wanna work or help then that's embarrassing. I'm Italian from NJ, we stay together. Although I rent an apt in NY, rent is not cheap, so if one day I wanna comeback I will comeback (i don't wanna comeback). People should stop thinking about what others think, if you think it's embarrassing then that's a problem for you and you need to get out for your own good, if you're ok with it then good. Your culture or the society is not going to pay your bills, then don't know if your parents need your help etc etc. they just want something to judge.

Bravo! Screw embarassment, its a totaly useless emotion. 

OT: Moved out when I was 25, things are tough around here, I'm doing my best to avoid coming back to my parents house.



No. People live with their parents through college and beyond that unless they get married or are in a very serious relationship. It's normal here.

I will say that if you are 30+ and live with your parents then yeah is a bit embarrasing but even then people will prob just think that you are helping your parents financially.



It shouldn't be embarrassing when suddenly the son or daughter begins to pay most of the debts and necessities of the family, instead of the other way around.



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You know now that I;m seeing both sides of the coin, I;m starting to see this all over again as the whole "you should definitely be driving at your age" kind of debate that I see from friends and family.

I don't drive because of how small the island I reside on is, but I also don't have the kind of job that requires one either, in fact a lot of people on my island use public transport as well as their own via bikes, walking, scooters etc. There are still enough that drive their own car but it's not that much of a thing that you *have* to drive. I;ve always seen that argument based from those that do drive rather than those that don't, some base it on being more of an "adult" like you are maturing for simply adopting a different mode of transport and to me that seems both skewed and narrow minded for a pro type of argument.

I've no interest in driving due to the costs that come with it along with the taxes on top and myself not wanting to use one as often as I;d think I would. I've gotten by using my own two feet, my bicycle and the average bus to any place I want to go to around the island. I've also had those options when I visited Orlando plenty of times and it still hasn't bothered me.

That said I don't mind those living with their folks either and like some have already said, it's a change in culture and times as well as economy, some may see it as being weak or childish but at the end of the day you are going to need someone to take care of you, may as well be your own flesh and blood than someone who doesn't give a rats ass about you at a gloomy retirement home that you don't actually own yourself as well as a place you'll die in no doubt (some don't always go to one but quite a lot do end up in said homes).



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