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Don't see how it's 'embarassing'. I've had family members who give up the chance to have a family just to help their parents who suffer from strokes and horrible cases of paralysis and other unfortunate things.

Not just that, but in Middle Eastern culture people who are upper middle class or rich typically let their parents live with them as well. And for those who aren't rich enough to do so, they typically help their parents out for rent, bills, etc etc. So even if you don't live with them, it's basically expected of you to still help with them. It's considered disgusting to leave your parents, and it's also considered atrocious if you drop your parents in a senior home and never visit them due to laziness.

" The Commander of the Faithful (peace be upon him) has said: 'Goodness towards (one’s) parents is the greatest obligatory act."
Mizanul Hikmah, Volume 10, Page 709"

“Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land that the Lord your God is giving you.

Proverbs 20:20



 

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hershel_layton said:
Don't see how it's 'embarassing'. I've had family members who give up the chance to have a family just to help their parents who suffer from strokes and horrible cases of paralysis and other unfortunate things.

Not just that, but in Middle Eastern culture people who are upper middle class or rich typically let their parents live with them as well. And for those who aren't rich enough to do so, they typically help their parents out for rent, bills, etc etc. So even if you don't live with them, it's basically expected of you to still help with them. It's considered disgusting to leave your parents, and it's also considered atrocious if you drop your parents in a senior home and never visit them due to laziness.

" The Commander of the Faithful (peace be upon him) has said: 'Goodness towards (one’s) parents is the greatest obligatory act."
Mizanul Hikmah, Volume 10, Page 709"

“Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land that the Lord your God is giving you.

Proverbs 20:20

Pretty much this. Especially if you are a son, it is your duty to look after your elders. It works out pretty well financially and for babysitting. 

 

It's seen as a cycle where the parents look after the kids, the kids after their parents and the parents after the grandkids. 



SvennoJ said:
Goatseye said:
Leaving parents at the age of 18 is a huge mistake. Financially and socially.
At that age, kids are not even adults. At that stage in life, the best coaches are parents and not some stranger or another confused teenager.

It's the normal thing to do when you go to university. At first I still came back for the weekends but that became less and less as the years went on. When I dropped out I never thought about going back home. Got a shitty job to keep living there until I found something better.
I'm glad I had a good long period to learn to take care of myself. The worst thing imo is to live at home until you get married or move in with someone else.

By living with parents, doesn't mean a young adult just learn how to mooch off them and nothing else. I had to work at my mom's business between 15-19 years old. 

I had to keep an eye on my brother to stay off trouble and make sure the monthly bills were paid when she was abroad in business. 

I doubt I could get the maturity and self awareness I got from experienced people around me, somewhere else as easily.



Times are tough. It's difficult to find a job and even more difficult to afford housing with student debt looming over you.

So I don't begrudge anyone who needs to spend some time at home to make things work. In fact, I totally support any one who's doing what they can to make ends meet.



Depends on the situation as there's many reasons to stay/move back in with your parents (ie. health issues, loss of job etc.).

But under normal circumstances I'd say you should have your own place by the age of around 28.



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If you're trying to get a girlfriend it can be embarrassing in the US. According to many women in the US it's considered embarrassing...but then again many of them have boyfriends that they live with but then they pass it off as if they're living on their own and making their own way lol.



Lube Me Up

After one is finished with college, yes, it is considered embarrassing, although much more normal these days than -say - ten years ago. I left for college when I was 18 and never had any intentions of moving back. That summer I subleased so that I did not have to go back home. And since then I have lived with a roommate in a suburb of the city I go to school in. I don't have the enticing benefits of middle class parents taking care of me anyway.

I live in Pittsburgh, PA came from Northeastern, PA and the parent I grew up with lives in Atlantic City, NJ now. 



Luke888 said:
Psychotic said:

That's a fair point. But is that common in the EU? Also it depends on your working definition of unemployment.

I don't know data from other countries but I'm positive the situation is similar in Spain/Portugal while probably even worse in Greece. People who live in France, UK and Germany are definitely in a better position, also as far as Italy is concerned in that 40% there's very few part-timers since people who are under 30 are considered unreliable so most companies tend to hire older people...

The economy in the UK maybe better but housing is far from better, the market is overly inflated when it comes to pricing whether you're buying or renting, where I live in Camden people can be charged £900 a month for a bedsit. Now factor in the costs of living, travel to work, utility bills, council tax etc... In the UK we essentially have the same problem only from a different angle.



hmm in my family we all moved out before our 20 I was 18 years old my brother 19. I think average is 25 in Belgium and in my region it will be pretty low 5%?

 

BTW:  (2015)






Goatseye said:
SvennoJ said:

It's the normal thing to do when you go to university. At first I still came back for the weekends but that became less and less as the years went on. When I dropped out I never thought about going back home. Got a shitty job to keep living there until I found something better.
I'm glad I had a good long period to learn to take care of myself. The worst thing imo is to live at home until you get married or move in with someone else.

By living with parents, doesn't mean a young adult just learn how to mooch off them and nothing else. I had to work at my mom's business between 15-19 years old. 

I had to keep an eye on my brother to stay off trouble and make sure the monthly bills were paid when she was abroad in business. 

I doubt I could get the maturity and self awareness I got from experienced people around me, somewhere else as easily.

Ah, that's different. I only know of a few examples of 'kids' staying at home, not contributing anything, while enjoying the latest cell phone, their own car and party every weekend. I didn't own a car until I was 30, different priorities.

Helping out with the family business is a very different situation. However a friend of mine was never interested in helping out much in his parent's shop. Got addicted to gambling and stayed at home. Eventually his parents got him married (arranged marriage, flew in bride from Vietnam, thought he would be better off with a girl of the same race) and bought them a house. Some times parents go too far. I lost contact but I don't think he ever matured.