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Well, from what I read it seems to me like a case of Bipolar disorder. Of course only a professional can tell what it really is, but I've met cases that weren't very different from your story man. Wishing you can find your way!



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ihatefatkatz said:
Definitely seek professional help. I've been to a few psychiatrist in Sydney, though i'm not fully back to my youthful bubbly self, but i've seen significant improvements in my well being from my dreadful state 3 years ago.

Perhaps my experience with seeking professional help can give you encouragement. Therapy works wonders if you give it a fair dinkum go. Anti-depressants on the other hand are also helpful, but for the first few weeks are hell, it amplifies the shitty feelings before the therapeutic effects kicks in.

Im also in Sydney, got recommendations?



fatslob-:O said:
JWeinCom said:


Well the OP came looking for help.  Why wouldn't we recommend that he see someone whose career is dealing with these kinds of issues?

Yes, it's true that the OP came to seek us out but there's no guarantee that he will be able to successfully receive the emotional and psychological support that he wants ... 

Therapy and drugs aren't always the solution. He could just be in a "slump" and that he needs time to self reflect ...


No, therapy is not a certain cure. Nothing is, but it's a start. It gives him someone to guide him through the process of recovery, someone that actually know what they are doing unlike the people on this forum.



fatslob-:O said:
JWeinCom said:


Well the OP came looking for help.  Why wouldn't we recommend that he see someone whose career is dealing with these kinds of issues?

Yes, it's true that the OP came to seek us out but there's no guarantee that he will be able to successfully receive the emotional and psychological support that he wants ... 

Therapy and drugs aren't always the solution. He could just be in a "slump" and that he needs time to self reflect ...


Of course there are no guarantees that it will work, but there would be no harm in consulting with someone trained to deal with this issue.  And if he sees a good psychiatrist (admittedly hard to find), then they will work with him to decide what is the best course of action.  Personally, I tried to get out of my "slump" for about 20 years before getting on medication, and I wish I had done so far sooner.  



Seek out a psychiatrist ASAP!



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think-man said:
SnakeDrake said:
List out your problems, your status at work and find every options you can take to further pursuit your interest in life.


Problems 

Low self esteem

Lack of empathy 

Lack of direction, dont really know what i want in life 

Feel as tho iv underachieved

Suicidal thoughts

No motivation 

No goals anymore, all have been crushed or forgotten 

 

Im a programmer working for a huge company in Sydney 


That right there is kind of scary. Mixed with all the other things, it can lead to you hurting people left and right (like you presumably have to your wife and friends by ousting them). Despite my inclination to judge, I will say it takes courage to admit your faults and know that there's something missing in your life which is why you are seeking out help. However, with this kind of honesty (and your dream job salary), I'd guess talking to a professional is the best option. Like others have said. The problems you have seem to go deeper than the typical "I'm sad because life isn't going my way" syndrome people mistake for depression. Get help, dude.



Bring some positive changes to your life. Drugs and sex will only make you feel more depressed.



    

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fatslob-:O said:
JWeinCom said:


Well the OP came looking for help.  Why wouldn't we recommend that he see someone whose career is dealing with these kinds of issues?

Yes, it's true that the OP came to seek us out but there's no guarantee that he will be able to successfully receive the emotional and psychological support that he wants ... 

Therapy and drugs aren't always the solution. He could just be in a "slump" and that he needs time to self reflect ...

 

This doesn't make much sense. There is no guarantee that random people on a message board will successfully give emotional and psychological support, either. The reason everyone is saying to seek professional help is that when someone starts talking about suicidal thoughts and a general loss of interest in life, about feeling empty inside and losing connections with people who were important to him, most people don't see that as a slump.

Therapy and drugs aren't always the solution, but they are sometimes. Inaction, however, is never the solution. Instead of derailing the conversation, why don't you give your support in your own way if you don't agree with what others have stated?



danasider said:
think-man said:


Problems 

Low self esteem

Lack of empathy 

Lack of direction, dont really know what i want in life 

Feel as tho iv underachieved

Suicidal thoughts

No motivation 

No goals anymore, all have been crushed or forgotten 

 

Im a programmer working for a huge company in Sydney 


That right there is kind of scary. Mixed with all the other things, it can lead to you hurting people left and right (like you presumably have to your wife and friends by ousting them). Despite my inclination to judge, I will say it takes courage to admit your faults and know that there's something missing in your life which is why you are seeking out help. However, with this kind of honesty (and your dream job salary), I'd guess talking to a professional is the best option. Like others have said. The problems you have seem to go deeper than the typical "I'm sad because life isn't going my way" syndrome people mistake for depression. Get help, dude.

Actually he said he is a programmer I don't think lack of empathy is really an issue. Most people in technical fields have a lack of emphathy because of the way they process information. They use facts to justify their reasoning without an emotional thought on the consequence it may have on people who don't understand them.  

Him outsing his wife and friends is just an escape mechanism he used to cope with the situation at hand, kind of a reset like a computer to see if things will fix themselves without analysiing the error logs. It is a temp fix but the underlaying issue is always there which eventually surfaces and then the cycle begins again.



 

 

danasider said:

 

This doesn't make much sense. There is no guarantee that random people on a message board will successfully give emotional and psychological support, either. The reason everyone is saying to seek professional help is that when someone starts talking about suicidal thoughts and a general loss of interest in life, about feeling empty inside and losing connections with people who were important to him, most people don't see that as a slump.

Therapy and drugs aren't always the solution, but they are sometimes. Inaction, however, is never the solution. Instead of derailing the conversation, why don't you give your support in your own way if you don't agree with what others have stated?

I'm not here to exactly give him emotional support or psychological support if that's what your implying. You don't know the full situation either and not even the OP knows the cause of it too ... 

I'm not saying DON'T go seek out for professional help. I just want to know the COMPLETE picture BEFORE we give any recommendations ...