Overall: Skies of Arcadia - it offers a beautiful world with lots of interesting places to travel and people to meet. Lots of treasure to hunt, and discoveries to be made. Atmospherically, it is like a heavily expanded Kingdom of Zeal from Chrono Trigger.
ATB - Final Fantasy 8, offers an incredible variety of Steam and Cyber punk locals - MANY great towns and places, maybe as many or more than FF4, 6, 7, and 10 combined. A character advancement system with lots of variety - and many different paths and options to take. Also, linking level and skill advancement to GFs fixed the age old problem of worrying about which characters to develop xp-wise.
Turn based - Dragon Quest 5, this was difficult because I love Earthbound so much too. DQ7 starts you off as a 6 year old kid. You follow his life through until adult years, choosing a wife, and then having kids of your own who you can take out as party members to Fight with.
Strategy - Fire Emblem DS, three stories with many different options. It has a great story overall, and the makings of a great strategy game.
Action - Terranigma, I like this one best because it doesn't sell out the RPG component to make the game's appeal based on action elements like many US developed RPGs nowadays. You essentially rebuild the world from ruin, go through the evolution of animals, and then civilization; build up hamlets to thriving cities by completing various quests. This game is a clear winner in the action RPG genre, in my opinion.
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