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SciFiBoy on 27 January 2009
ChronotriggerJM said:
@Lolita Cheating is in fact bad, but one really has to define what "cheating" is. My rules on cheating are pretty flexible and involve a whole lot more on the mental plane than the physical one. But again I can only speak for myself.

The reason people do it is completely out of mental control sometimes. People have animalistic needs as we function similarly to every other creature on the planet as far as reproduction is necessary. Often times it's the mental things that get between a person that can create a dry spell of sorts in the physical relationship, and the mind has to have those needs met.

This may sound nuts, but a while ago when I was single, sleeping with other women only made me want the girl I was in love with more. It's things like that which are completely un-explainable :/

surely if you love someone then you dont need anyone else to satisfy you sexually



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SeriousWB on 27 January 2009
ChronotriggerJM said:
@Lolita Cheating is in fact bad, but one really has to define what "cheating" is. My rules on cheating are pretty flexible and involve a whole lot more on the mental plane than the physical one. But again I can only speak for myself.

The reason people do it is completely out of mental control sometimes. People have animalistic needs as we function similarly to every other creature on the planet as far as reproduction is necessary. Often times it's the mental things that get between a person that can create a dry spell of sorts in the physical relationship, and the mind has to have those needs met.

This may sound nuts, but a while ago when I was single, sleeping with other women only made me want the girl I was in love with more. It's things like that which are completely un-explainable :/

 

Ugh no. If you have that frame of mind, have an open relationship or start swinging. We're talking about 'cheating', behind your back, breach of trust kind of thing.

If that happened to me, even if I wanted to I'd not be able to trust the woman again.

 



alekth on 27 January 2009

Yeah I would (and have done). And vice versa and been forgiven.
People make mistakes.



bardicverse on 27 January 2009
ChronotriggerJM said:
  People have animalistic needs as we function similarly to every other creature on the planet as far as reproduction is necessary.

 

Whats funny is that there's been research on the way the female organs are, and it explained something in the lines of that the female parts are set so that they are actually built to have several mates, and the dominant sperm impregnates. Also explained why by default, men can do the deed in as little as a few minutes, because back in the day they had to be fast as the dominant sperm is generally selected within 20 minutes after intercourse... Used to be a contest between several mates. And they thought group sex was invented in the 70s LOL



Wetcoaster on 27 January 2009

No way in hell.



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ChronotriggerJM on 27 January 2009

LOLOL so true Bard :P It's how were built :/

@Above comment, In many cases, if the person does meet your needs, then your "need" to sleep around is obviously hampered :P I'm simply talking more of a curiosity type thing. Men who don't look at other women while dating a girl bother me... It's just not natural. I'm just ok with my female counterpart giving into her curiosity. As I mentioned I value the mental aspects more than the physical ones in terms of intimacy. She's not allowed to take those outside of our relationship >_>

@Serious If it's the deceitful and ill-will type stuff, then sure it's messed up. But even if she doesn't tell me, I don't really care :P As long as my life with this woman isn't affected by it, I'm fine with what she does with her time. I told my girl that I won't ask about anything she does on the side because I simply don't care. If problems arise (STD's), then we have a massive concern, because it's just poor judgment on her end :P



From 0 to KICKASS in .stupid seconds.

Hawk on 27 January 2009

I'd be mad that I was not included. 8)



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ChronotriggerJM on 27 January 2009

@Hawk, now That's an answer >: )



From 0 to KICKASS in .stupid seconds.

O-D-C on 27 January 2009

no



madskillz on 27 January 2009

It depends. If she's a jump off, we were friends anyway. If she cheated on me with another dude, the matter of trust comes up. If she cheated on me with a woman, I'd ask why and if her friend is available.

Seriously, cheating reveals a missing resource in a relationship that the person who commits the act is in need of.

I know my ex was with this dude - left him to kick it wit me - and then cheated on him with me. I was like 'Forget that' and bailed. We went back and forth for a minute - and I even told her to kick it wit this dude to get him to buy me some clothing/shoes.

Dang, I was no joke back in the day. And my ex still wants to kick it. NOT.