Depends on the relationship. If I was deeply in love, probably, but only with much work to be had.

probably no, but i might take her back to get some revenge

I just prevent any chance of being cheated on, and maintain open relationships. Therefore, if my girl wanted to mess around, she'd just have to tell me about it, and itd be cool, and vice versa. Works out very well, and makes our relationship stronger. The funny part is, because we know we CAN do it makes it less taboo and risque, and we really dont look for anyone else. The intense part of cheating is that risk of getting busted, because its something you shouldnt be doing. If there's no risk, there's no excitement in it.

As long as there's no diseases in the process (disease check!) I have no problem's what so ever. Being in love is so much more than a trust and sex issue to me, and unless the act was done out of malice, there's no point in not forgiving them, it wasn't intentionally harmful (just curiosity on her end), and you know what, the fact that she came clean to me (if she did) only embraces the fact that she knows where her man really is.

I guess at the end of the day, sex is sex, and it will only ever be meaningful with the person you love. And as long as my baby comes home to lay on my chest before passing out, I can sleep soundly :P

No chance.

I hear that man. A lot of people don't realize there's a big difference between carnal desire and spiritual. What you share with your significant other is a spiritual bond, of course combined with carnal desire. When they sleep with someone else, its mostly a carnal desire, but if they come back to you and want to be with you, the spiritual bond goes unchanged. If the spiritual bond is changed or broken, that usually means that a breakup is happening. Carnal desires are part of our animialistic nature, where spiritual is far beyond that, and a much more lasting thing. Once a couple can understand the differences between carnal and spiritual desire, it makes the relationship a lot stronger (plus a lot more interesting and/or kinkier lol)

@Bard

Yeah, it really is strange how stuff like that works :P I always find it super easy to be able to sleep with ex's, I mean for one, they pretty much know you won't be going out again, and you can have something with no emotional ties, yet still remain friends of sorts as well. But the girl your in love with will never have that feel. You can't just sleep with her and not think about her after. Love is so deep and so complicated, the physical boundary really does seem quite small by comparison.

I really do think there can be a separation of mind and body, and it's when you have both that "love" really shows it's course. The sex at that point just means more than it ever could with anyone else :P

^^^^ absolutely. My girl and I both agree that when its with just a hook-up, the sex is different.. enjoyable but not the same.. when we're together, its no longer sex, but true to life love-making. I know exactly what you mean!

No because I wouldn't trust that person anymore. Sex is emotional and should be with the person you love and not with stranger #38748. If there's no feelings then what's the point?

Why would you go do it with someone else when you can have it with the person the most dearest to you in the world? Nope cheating is bad, regardless on how I try to see it.

@Lolita Cheating is in fact bad, but one really has to define what "cheating" is. My rules on cheating are pretty flexible and involve a whole lot more on the mental plane than the physical one. But again I can only speak for myself.

The reason people do it is completely out of mental control sometimes. People have animalistic needs as we function similarly to every other creature on the planet as far as reproduction is necessary. Often times it's the mental things that get between a person that can create a dry spell of sorts in the physical relationship, and the mind has to have those needs met.

This may sound nuts, but a while ago when I was single, sleeping with other women only made me want the girl I was in love with more. It's things like that which are completely un-explainable :/