The Ghost of RubangB said:
DMeisterJ said:
psrock said:
DMeisterJ said:
The Ghost of RubangB said:
DMeisterJ said:
It's not like you have to sit down and sign a paper and choose which sex you like. It's an unconscious decision that's made based off of what you have been exposed to in life, and whether you like male genetalia or female genetaila.
Answer me this: Do you think that if a kid grew up in a really sheltered life, and never ever heard of a man being with a woman, and only ever saw his two fathers (or mothers) and never saw a man and a woman together, or been exposed to the notion that that was the "norm", that he'd like men or women? I choose to believe that he would also be most comfortable in the presence of another man, and therefore choose men as his sexual preference.
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It's definitely not about genitalia. I know women who are straight, but would rather masturbate to photos of nude women instead of nude men, because they think penises look gross and breasts look great. However, they only have sex with men and only date men and only fall in love with men, and only want to marry a man and have kids with him. Does that make them straight or gay or bi or what?
The exposure has nothing to do with it. Are you arguing that it's a virus spreading throughout society, and to stop it we need to hide it from kids until they're already straight and it's okay for them to see it?
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I'd think th at your female friends are weird, and definitely not in the norm (nothing's wrong with that though). I happen to think that sexuality should be presented to kids as early as possible, so that they can make a judgement whether they like the same sex or not, rather than parents not bringing the subject up, since most parents don't want gay kids.
I don't think I'm arguing that it's a virus or anything like that, just arguing that you are able to make a decision to like, or not like a certain sex, but that the decision is heavily influenced by people you are around, and the information (or lack thereof) that you are given on the subject. I personally never even knew that guys could have sex with other guys for pleasure until I was 13. At that point, I had already discovered the wonders of the female anatomy, and grew enamored with it, and no one could tell me otherwise that I wasn't supposed to like girls.
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by your explanation if you had been exposed to gay sex first, you would have been gay?
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If I had been exposed to gay sex and only gay sex first, and it was the "norm" and all I've been around? Then yes, I'd probably be gay. If it was presented as well as being straight was presented, then it'd have been a decision that I would have had to make.
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If that were true, then we'd have way more gay kids in gay communities like West Hollywood. However, the kids still come out straight over 90% of the time, even when they're born in a city with a huge gay population and an all-gay city council.
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Exactly.
I'll give an example of my personal experience, in Greece (or at least in my city) if someone is attracted to the same sex life's really hard for him/her. The first time i saw a gay person in my city was late last year, when a friend confessed it to me.
I've never had any contact with gay people just because everyone here is closeted, still i'm attracted to both sexes even though i've never been exposed to gay sex.
What you're describing DMeister doesn't make sense, because i'm certain i'm not the only person on earth with this experience.
