Cobretti2 said: I agree that social economic status plays a part. But this is going a step further. There are people who refuse to work and haven't worked a day in their lives, bread irresponsibly because they know our government will support them indefinitely. Then they brainwash their kids to be the same instead of become tax paying working citizens. I personally don't care how many children people have but take responsibility for them don't expect others to pay for them. |
Yeah I know those as well. A good friend of my mother, back in The Netherlands, choose to live off social security with her kids. My mother hated that, but still remained friends.
Still begs the question, is she doing her kids better by staying home (single mother) and caring for them, raising them. Or is she a 'pariah' letting others pay for her life.
On the other side, my parents both worked and were hardly ever there for us. After school I either went to a friends place, had the cleaning lady look after us or were just home alone. I turned out all right I think (not so sure about my sister lol) but as a family we're not very close at all. I had no issue moving to Canada and hardly have any contact with my sister and father. (Mother deceased, but was same situation) My sister moved out at age 16, about same time I moved out at age 18.
My wife has a very close relationship with her parents (hence I moved to Canada, rather than her to The Netherlands) where there was always someone home. Her mother worked as well but supplemental work from home. It was a revelation to me how different her parents are towards having children than mine.
I don't think it's brainwashing, more like you do as you have experienced growing up.
Anyway our kids are barred from having sex until they're 36 lol ;) We're not ready! I had my first child at age 35, put my career first. (Not consciously, just was addicted to work, software developer) Now I'm 50 and get to deal with teenagers hmm. Grand children by the age of 70 if my kids follow my 'path'. I was already called their grandfather when I took my toddlers to the park...
Was it selfish of me to now maybe be too old to help out my kids when they have kids later?
Put their kids through facing the death of their grandparents at a young age?
Or selfless to seek financial stability, stable relationship and a good place to live first to bring up my kids.
Stay in school, work hard, you'll be too tired to date / breed lol.
(And wtf am I paying taxes for, to bomb children in Gaza...)