By using this site, you agree to our Privacy Policy and our Terms of Use. Close

Forums - NSFW - Some guys remain single by choice because it is easier!

 

Men choose to remain single and give up on women?

They do not want to becom... 9 7.69%
 
They do not want to change! 12 10.26%
 
They do not need a woman'... 3 2.56%
 
They do not want to conform to society! 5 4.27%
 
They have busy life and d... 9 7.69%
 
They are a man-child and never grew up! 17 14.53%
 
They are regarded as a lo... 15 12.82%
 
Modern feminism double st... 19 16.24%
 
Other! 27 23.08%
 
They choose sex workers instead! 1 0.85%
 
Total:117
Dark_Lord_2008 on 30 January 2019

I have created stories and lied to sound more interesting and better than what I am.
A compulsive liar, another time waster, never grow up, live in my own world.

I have a hard time telling the truth and lies are more interesting than the truth.
Being a compulsive liar only leads to unhappiness.
The truth eventually comes out and then you are exposed as just being a liar.

Last edited by Dark_Lord_2008 - on 31 January 2019

Around the Network
lansingone on 31 January 2019

It's really all based on a cultural selection process. Most cultures seem to have adopted a system where the man takes initiative and the woman accepts or passes based on a multitude of factors.

Since this is the standard, any forum that facilitates match making will have women being bombarded with advances, and the men will have seemingly nothing by comparison. As a man you will always need to keep attempting to make connections until it works. But, women get the opposite where they have to keep rejecting bad offers until they find one that they like. Plus, there are diminishing returns for larger forums. If you're at a bar and you have enough self-confidence, you will have more connections with fewer attempts than if you're on a dating site. This is partly because the higher volume of people give women more reasons to pass up offers.

For some men the stress of having to fail so many times, and that meeting their future partner feels like some socially constructed chore instead of a fated meeting, makes them just decide to forget the whole thing. 



Cobretti2 on 31 January 2019
Majora said:

I've read this entire thread, and I'm sorry but it's getting funnier and funnier! 

 

Y'all have the patience of saints, this is insane, yet compelling reading!

Good work! 

Lol i gotten to a point where I am waiting for E3 threads now. They better not disappoint lol.



 

 

Cobretti2 on 31 January 2019
the-pi-guy said:

 

Dark_Lord_2008 said:
NONE OF COBRETTI'S ADVICE WILL WORK FOR MY SITUATION:
I found at 21 I was too old to apply for jobs like retail and fast food outlets because younger workers get paid lower rates.
I tried for those retail jobs and fast food jobs at 16 or 17 and never got them and that put me off looking for work.
It was an insult to be rejected from jobs that I regarded as beneath me.
I have never had a car license and I do want to fail it again!
I wasted my time completing a commerce degree that only made me unemployable.
Doing more courses will change nothing and keep me stuck as being unemployable.
I do not have any work experience besides work for welfare.
Starting a business requires having capital/money and too much responsibility.
I have always looked for the easiest path in life.

BTW: I do not want to ever have kids and I would never date anyone with kids. I would not date anyone younger than me either.

You keep making up with excuses for everything.  

 

Here's the reality of things:

Every person in life is going to fail, a lot.  Plenty of people apply to dozens and hundreds of places without getting so much as a call back.  

You're not going to get much empathy for saying you're too old to try, or you're too educated to get employed.

 

If you want to make an improvement in your life, it starts by accepting that something has to change.  You have to stop making excuses.

If you just want to make complaints about your life, you're going to find that few people are going to listen.  

Not sure if you have read the whole thread or not but in one of the posts he said he only sends cover letter.  suggested that is not good enough as I know most employers want to see your resume too. That simple change will give him a better strike rate to.

 



 

 

TheGamer_1995 on 31 January 2019
the-pi-guy said:
TheGamer_1995 said:

Come on, why are you in denial.

Because as someone who spends most of my day with women at work/university, I know how things really are.  

Personal experience is anecdotal. You can’t make sweeping statements based on what you’ve personally seen. Especially since your personal experiences are up to interpretation.



Around the Network
Cobretti2 on 31 January 2019
COKTOE said:
Cobretti2 said:

Yer she is. I couldn't find the other article sadly, but in that one she was complaining she can't live with her partner because if she does she will get the single parent bonus cut lol. Somewhere there it also said some of the kids live with her partner and some with her mother so they also get the single parent benefits, disability pension etc.  Basically from all the kids plus other bonuses etc it said they racking in about $120,000 AUD extra.On top of this because they are not working, they get cheap housing given to then, I think rent is like 20% market value, free medical, free other things.

Minimum wage is about $35,000 AUD a year. If you have kids you will get some benefits cause you are a low income earner but none as close as good as the people who don't work.

Now at my end of the scale, if my wife and I wanted to have a child, because we are working, we would have to send the child to daycare. Daycare costs $150 a day where I am. You have to pay for all days (even if not there) as plenty of other kids that can take your child's spot. If i were to send a kid to day care for a full year that would be about $35,000 on all the days we work. At this point it makes more sense for my wife not to work and stay at home. But raising a child at home impacts her career later as she becomes useless and unskilled as the world keeps moving with new technology and systems. So you are in a catch 22 situation, work and pay childcare fees or don't work then risk of nto being employable later.

How backwards is that? The government should be providing childcare services to professionals (or at least tax cuts whilst the child is in childcare). Because a working mother (paying taxes) who raises a future tax payers is better than one that raises 9 future dole recipients.

They actually mentioned that in a picture caption in the article you linked to. 

I'm all for caring for those who can't care for themselves, but I can't see what this woman's affliction is. I'm trying to temper my comment here, but she looks like somebody who simply isn't working by choice, and grossly taking advantage of a system ripe for exploitation. I don't even know how to address the 9 kids ( and planning to have more! ) angle without going into meltdown.

Every time I see these articles I wonder (rightly or wrongly) was Hitler right in genocide, however he targeted the wrong people.

ok jokes aside, surely there needs to be some law where if you on government support you can have a max of X kids, or cap payments at X. Any extra kids well that's your issue.



 

 

Dark_Lord_2008 on 31 January 2019

Advice on here is useless because personal anecdotal experience can not apply to anyone who follow the good luck/fortune of one person's claims that can not be verified if they are telling the truth or lying through their teeth. One size fits all, cookie cutter advice of one person's own experience will not be applicable to another individual. The element of luck being in the right place at the right time plays a huge role. You either fortunate to have good luck in life or endure a lifetime of bad luck. I am cursed and have endured a endless streak of bad luck through out my life. Everything falls into the laps of the fortunate lucky people and their lucky ducks line up in a row. Midas Touch everything they touch seems to turn to gold. Everything I touch turns to dust, it is the curse of bad luck.



Dark_Lord_2008 on 31 January 2019

https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/blog/lifetime-connections/201805/rejection-when-it-hurts-men-more-it-should



Cobretti2 on 31 January 2019
Dark_Lord_2008 said:

Advice on here is useless because personal anecdotal experience can not apply to anyone who follow the good luck/fortune of one person's claims that can not be verified if they are telling the truth or lying through their teeth. One size fits all, cookie cutter advice of one person's own experience will not be applicable to another individual. The element of luck being in the right place at the right time plays a huge role. You either fortunate to have good luck in life or endure a lifetime of bad luck. I am cursed and have endured a endless streak of bad luck through out my life. Everything falls into the laps of the fortunate lucky people and their lucky ducks line up in a row. Midas Touch everything they touch seems to turn to gold. Everything I touch turns to dust, it is the curse of bad luck.

Why not?

If you truly believe that, you should stop listening to anecdotal evidence of bad experiences too from all the other sites you keep quoting.

GO MAKE YOUR OWN LUCK LOL. THAT IS ALL IT TAKES. YOU TAKE CHARGE AND DO WHAT NEEDS TO BE DONE. THERE IS NO SECRET. JUST DO IT! YOU WILL FAIL BUT FROM FAILURE YOU WILL EVENTUALLY SUCCEED AS YOU ADJUST HOW YOU APPROACH THINGS



 

 

Dark_Lord_2008 on 31 January 2019

I needed back up: family and friends that I do not have for support. i needed them to talk on my behalf and jump in when I need back up in fights when things get out of control. I can not be the silent guy in the corner or gets lost in the crowd that gets overwhelmed by all the things going on around.

Like I said before you do not understand introverts and have no right to comment on things you do not know.
Your cookie cutter advice only applies to normal extroverted(outgoing) people that have no issues in social situations.
Introverted(quiet) people struggle in social situations and they can not cope with social situations without back up.