I think of seeking attention as someone who would showboat to pull people's attention. They'll interact with others in more of a shallow way and not try to get to know anyone except if they're trying to get laid but that's not really bonding in the way you mean it.

A person looking to bond with others will likely do it through conversing or attention seek then go with conversing.

Well, bonding inevitably requires attention towards each other, so wanting to bond is always going to be attention seeking. So, it's not seeking attention that's the problem. It's the way you go about it that can cause issues, not necessarily the desire for attention itself.

Attention seeking is talking about oneself more then the other in a conversation >50% focus is showing off while ignoring what they say.

Desire to bond shows a 50/50 interest in them while also not being a stalker and bringing your own stuff to the table.

Stalker of course is just learning about them more then they want to share while revealing nothing interesting to them.

That's a pretty good definition. Attention seekers don't want to bond with you but just use you.

An attention seeker does not worry about who they are getting their attention from, though people who are determined to be "higher quality", give them a better satisfaction.

A person with a desire to bond is more selective, and is more focused on the other person.

Attention seekers generally have the same level of interaction with everyone, and a bonding type of person has different approaches toward different people.
ie; AS will act the same more or less toward anyone. B will often be unapproachable towards some, while more open with others. At least, that's how it is in my experience.

An attention seeker is almost never unapproachable.

My bonding with padib didn't feel sound since he said he was goign to post a thread about his trip, which made me feel like it wasn't that great. Therefore I attempted to goad him into reciprocating by making the thread and telling him about it. 

Jk, I know padib had a great time, as did I. Still not sure he's town though.

I never understood why "attention seeking" has such a negative connotation. What is wrong with seeking attention? The human is a social animal and most need social interaction. Attention seeking is no different from toilet seeking when you need a good shit.

Do neither.

There is no trying, you will be friends with the people that you suppose to be friends, you will bond with the people you suppose to.

If you have to try, then you are trying too hard.

Just live and let the chips fall where they may.

Judging by your friends list you've done a lot of bonding!