Back Story:

This girl and I have been friends since we met each other on Cross Country Freshman year. We laughed, talked on the phone a lot, and were pretty relatable. Sophomore year, we began dating and had a solid relationship. I didn't really feel that way about her after awhile and broke it off the following summer. We never talked Junior year until she transferred to my Newspaper class after she had some Yearbook issues. Things went really smoothly from there until Senior year began, when I became a Christian and she came out as a Lesbian. Although we say we are friends, she seems to treat me like dirt a lot because of my beliefs and constantly puts me down with lots of snide comments, despite my continual support verbally and actionwise. She enjoys to come to me when she has family issues and likes it when I comfort her, but outside of that I don't get any respect. 

I know this is one side of the story and I certainly have my faults with saying things that I shouldn't have said, but I believe that this relationship is hurting both of us. What should I do?

Some things to consider:

• We both are on the Newspaper team as editors, so we HAVE to see each other everyday
• She is very dark and has a slight obsession with death (not goth/emo or suicidal, but it's unusual)
• I certainly have my outburst and have been insensitive, but I know that it couldn't possibly be my fault NEARLY as much as she makes it out to be

Buy her FFXIII-2.

Dropkick her in the mouth would be my normal suggestion, but you already turned her into a lesbian, so I'm not really sure how you could top that.

Is she one of the reasons you stopped running cross country your Junior year?

Good question, but actually no.

try talking to her first. she does seem to need you. talk to her as she does you when she needs to talk to someone.

tell her the problem and if she's a real friend then she'll understan,. but if not you'll have to do whats best for you.

Tell her "We need to talk." Explain how you feel. That you don't mind giving her advice or lending an ear to her troubles, but antagonizing your beliefs is pushing you away. Tell her gently that if she continues to do so, not only will you be disinclined to help her with her troubles but that you'll go through the proper channels (school administration, teachers, etc.) about the issue. Let her know that you want to be able to coexist with her but that there will come a point where you won't and it could cost her position of Editor.

Now that you've grounded her to reality, ask if these comments she's making has more to do with your history with her than your faith. If it turns out that she's still got some hurt from your breakup, working through that through honest heart to heart discussion should improve things. If not, try to figure out if you're doing or saying anything that would be genuinely offensive to her (being a lesbian she might get a lot of flak from some 'Christians' and may feel that you're like them somehow).

If it is just your belief that she disagrees with, let her know that she's entitled to disagree. But that you're technically coworkers and that there is a certain amount of civility required of your positions. Call truce; no antagonistic statements to each other regarding belief. Whether it is political ideology or spiritualism. Find things that you're comfortable bickering about like Star Wars canon or who would win, cavemen or astronauts,

Most importantly, if she apologizes, forgive her. That's what we're called upon to do.

I thought your god had the answer to all questions.

Tell her in all seriousness that you don't take those comments well, that they're not funny and that if she keeps making them you can't keep being friends with her.

Then if she keeps treating you badly just do what you said and distance yourself. No need to be rude or anything, just be cold and strictly professional in your relation with her, and if she says anything you can tell her that you tried but you don't connect much anymore and that's it. She'll eventually give up and stop trying to be your friend. Unless she's one of those people that can't have anyone reject them and freaks out and hates you, in which case good luck.

hm, the best to do is to show that you don't like her behaviour towards you, step by step, by giving her a bit of her own taste

do not change towards her all at once, i think if you go step by step she'll understand how feel and change if she really cares about you

had a similar case once.... : D