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At what age does it become weird to be a virgin?

Under 18 5 3.91%
 
18-21 14 10.94%
 
22-26 47 36.72%
 
27-31 24 18.75%
 
32-36 7 5.47%
 
Over 36 31 24.22%
 
Total:128
chocoloco on 28 March 2011
lolita said:

These. I admire people who chose to wait instead of having meaningless sex.

I really want to facepalm at the guys who think they need to do it before 20 otherwise it's weird. Really? Dudes, that doesn't make you attractive... AT ALL. I'm a women and I know what I like and really dislike. If a guy slept around or had sex just cause he thinks it's cool, to me it is quite repulsive, doesn't show much intelligence (both mental and emotional), lack of maturity and it doesn't seem very respectful. Not sure I would want to be around that guy, ever.

Come on lolita are you even older than 20 or are you just being a hypocrite? Your a married woman and I doubt your a virgin. I am just saying it is weird, but not wrong. Something that can easliy be changed at anytime. I am a psy major and their is no real definition of emotional or mental intelligence in fact it is quite relative.



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Games4Fun on 28 March 2011
chocoloco said:
lolita said:

These. I admire people who chose to wait instead of having meaningless sex.

I really want to facepalm at the guys who think they need to do it before 20 otherwise it's weird. Really? Dudes, that doesn't make you attractive... AT ALL. I'm a women and I know what I like and really dislike. If a guy slept around or had sex just cause he thinks it's cool, to me it is quite repulsive, doesn't show much intelligence (both mental and emotional), lack of maturity and it doesn't seem very respectful. Not sure I would want to be around that guy, ever.

Come on lolita are you even older than 20 or are you just being a hypocrite? Your a married woman and I doubt your a virgin. I am just saying it is weird, but not wrong. Something that can easliy be changed at anytime. I am a psy major and their is no real definition of emotional or mental intelligence in fact it is quite relative.

Read it again and you will see what she is actually saying. Hint, it has less to do with the actual age.



chocoloco on 28 March 2011
Games4Fun said:
chocoloco said:
lolita said:

These. I admire people who chose to wait instead of having meaningless sex.

I really want to facepalm at the guys who think they need to do it before 20 otherwise it's weird. Really? Dudes, that doesn't make you attractive... AT ALL. I'm a women and I know what I like and really dislike. If a guy slept around or had sex just cause he thinks it's cool, to me it is quite repulsive, doesn't show much intelligence (both mental and emotional), lack of maturity and it doesn't seem very respectful. Not sure I would want to be around that guy, ever.

Come on lolita are you even older than 20 or are you just being a hypocrite? Your a married woman and I doubt your a virgin. I am just saying it is weird, but not wrong. Something that can easliy be changed at anytime. I am a psy major and their is no real definition of emotional or mental intelligence in fact it is quite relative.

Read it again and you will see what she is actually saying. Hint, it has less to do with the actual age.

Whatever, your only a second hand source, but yes she is only stating her personnal opinion like was asked.



haxxiy on 28 March 2011

I'd say 20... so about half of the posters in this site are weird in my opinion.



 

 

 

 

 

flashpoint_1230 on 28 March 2011
Rath said:
flashpoint_1230 said:
Xen said:

^The sooner you realise that love isn't a necessity for sex and virginity isn't for your wife, the better.

Of course it's not a requirement (otherwise premarital sex wouldn't exist), but then it just degenerates into hedonism, doesn't it?

And what's the problem with a bit of hedonism? Sex gives pleasure, pleasure is good.

And what is virginity for, then?

Why does it have to be 'for' something? It's just something that is.

If it's not meant to be saved for your spouse, then who's to say that extramarital or multiple partners is unethical and unsanctioned? If it were ethical, then STDs wouldn't exist, would they? How else do you get them?

STDs exist for the same reason that influenza exists. Because it's a convenient way for diseases to propagate. Also if you use a condom you aren't going to get a STD anyway.

I kind of get the feeling that you're coming from a perspective of 'God made STDs to punish fornication/adultery' which I'm going to have to disagree with on the grounds that I don't believe in God.

I mean, if what you're saying is true, then by your viewpoint, we should look up to people who have multiple sex partners. If that's true, then why do STDs exist?

Look up to? Not really, just not look down on.

And what's the problem with a bit of hedonism? Sex gives pleasure, pleasure is good.

Uhhhhh. Okay. A) There are a lot of things in the world that give pleasure, so don't even go there. If you want to go there, I'd love to see you try to defend drugs or smoking. (They're pleasurable activities for those who engage in them) and B) Going through life with the desire to please yourself is...odd. I highly doubt that people who sleep around genuinely care about the other person as much as they care about themselves. I doubt that they want to give pleasure to the other person; they only want it for themselves. Even if you cut my "keep your virginity for your spouse" bias out of it, the motive behind a lot of guys' idea of sex is not admirable.

STDs exist for the same reason that influenza exists. Because it's a convenient way for diseases to propagate. Also if you use a condom you aren't going to get a STD anyway.

I kind of get the feeling that you're coming from a perspective of 'God made STDs to punish fornication/adultery' which I'm going to have to disagree with on the grounds that I don't believe in God.

Okay, but if you're saying that sex is a normal way to explore your individuality, then there shouldn't be any negative side effects, emotional or physical, right? And I thought that a condom was supposed to stop you from having a baby or something. Like birth control.



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flashpoint_1230 on 28 March 2011
Xen said:
flashpoint_1230 said:
Xen said:
flashpoint_1230 said:
Xen said:

^The sooner you realise that love isn't a necessity for sex and virginity isn't for your wife, the better.

Of course it's not a requirement (otherwise premarital sex wouldn't exist), but then it just degenerates into hedonism, doesn't it? And what is virginity for, then?

If it's not meant to be saved for your spouse, then who's to say that extramarital or multiple partners is unethical and unsanctioned? If it were ethical, then STDs wouldn't exist, would they? How else do you get them?

Hedonism? I view having sex as an exploration of my own sexuality rather than just another way to enjoy myself, I don't lack these... it is something that helps you to get to know your partner as well... a personality reflects in it.

As for the other comment, once you commit, you commit. That's what makes it unethical and traitorous if you sleep around.

Sooo.... okay. Exploration of sexuality. Fine. But why would a person need to explore with another person so early in life? Doesn't sex require you to give yourself up emotionally to another person? Unless, as I said, you're doing it for pleasure's sake, in which case it degenerates into hedonism.

Anyway, even if sex allows you to grow more intimate with a partner, don't you want to get to know your partner before any activity occurs, rather than depending on a sexual encounter to define a person?

So... are you basically saying that sex with other people is fine until you commit? After that, you're stuck? Because that's just... I mean, imagine getting married and then telling someone on your honeymoon, "Oh, hey, I've already had sex with 4 people, by the way." Not real fair.

Huh? It's perfectly fair. So what if you partner had sex with 4 people prior to you? The fact that you two got married shows that you two are ready to leave that behind and commit only to eachother. Marriage is based on trust in eachother as well as taking the bad in with the good. Is that something that should really stop you from marrying the person you love? Hell no.

In sex you can see things that do not normally show, that's why I even made that remark. Of course it's better if everything was available for you without it.

And yeah, again, sex with others is fine until you decide to settle down and are fixed on that you found your partner for life. If you have problems with the fact that your partner isn't a virgin or if he/she has the same problem with you, you two do not trust eachother enough, and do not have enough understanding on an emotional level.

Yes, but marriage isn't about completely ignoring the bad. Take the bad with the good, fine. But there's no possible way that you could ignore it. There's always that fear of "what if they're comparing me to past partners?" If either one of you has an experience where you can look back and know what sex is like, then wouldn't your mind automatically skip to that? You wouldn't be able to focus solely on the experience between you and your spouse. It's not fair to either of you.

 

lolita said:

 

These. I admire people who chose to wait instead of having meaningless sex.

I really want to facepalm at the guys who think they need to do it before 20 otherwise it's weird. Really? Dudes, that doesn't make you attractive... AT ALL. I'm a women and I know what I like and really dislike. If a guy slept around or had sex just cause he thinks it's cool, to me it is quite repulsive, doesn't show much intelligence (both mental and emotional), lack of maturity and it doesn't seem very respectful. Not sure I would want to be around that guy, ever.

 

Oh, thank goodness! Here I was thinking that I was weird!



flashpoint_1230 on 28 March 2011
Ugh. Darn double post.





Xen on 28 March 2011
flashpoint_1230 said:
Xen said:
flashpoint_1230 said:
Xen said:
flashpoint_1230 said:
Xen said:

^The sooner you realise that love isn't a necessity for sex and virginity isn't for your wife, the better.

Of course it's not a requirement (otherwise premarital sex wouldn't exist), but then it just degenerates into hedonism, doesn't it? And what is virginity for, then?

If it's not meant to be saved for your spouse, then who's to say that extramarital or multiple partners is unethical and unsanctioned? If it were ethical, then STDs wouldn't exist, would they? How else do you get them?

Hedonism? I view having sex as an exploration of my own sexuality rather than just another way to enjoy myself, I don't lack these... it is something that helps you to get to know your partner as well... a personality reflects in it.

As for the other comment, once you commit, you commit. That's what makes it unethical and traitorous if you sleep around.

Sooo.... okay. Exploration of sexuality. Fine. But why would a person need to explore with another person so early in life? Doesn't sex require you to give yourself up emotionally to another person? Unless, as I said, you're doing it for pleasure's sake, in which case it degenerates into hedonism.

Anyway, even if sex allows you to grow more intimate with a partner, don't you want to get to know your partner before any activity occurs, rather than depending on a sexual encounter to define a person?

So... are you basically saying that sex with other people is fine until you commit? After that, you're stuck? Because that's just... I mean, imagine getting married and then telling someone on your honeymoon, "Oh, hey, I've already had sex with 4 people, by the way." Not real fair.

Huh? It's perfectly fair. So what if you partner had sex with 4 people prior to you? The fact that you two got married shows that you two are ready to leave that behind and commit only to eachother. Marriage is based on trust in eachother as well as taking the bad in with the good. Is that something that should really stop you from marrying the person you love? Hell no.

In sex you can see things that do not normally show, that's why I even made that remark. Of course it's better if everything was available for you without it.

And yeah, again, sex with others is fine until you decide to settle down and are fixed on that you found your partner for life. If you have problems with the fact that your partner isn't a virgin or if he/she has the same problem with you, you two do not trust eachother enough, and do not have enough understanding on an emotional level.

Yes, but marriage isn't about completely ignoring the bad. Take the bad with the good, fine. But there's no possible way that you could ignore it. There's always that fear of "what if they're comparing me to past partners?" If either one of you has an experience where you can look back and know what sex is like, then wouldn't your mind automatically skip to that? You wouldn't be able to focus solely on the experience between you and your spouse. It's not fair to either of you.

 

lolita said:

 

These. I admire people who chose to wait instead of having meaningless sex.

I really want to facepalm at the guys who think they need to do it before 20 otherwise it's weird. Really? Dudes, that doesn't make you attractive... AT ALL. I'm a women and I know what I like and really dislike. If a guy slept around or had sex just cause he thinks it's cool, to me it is quite repulsive, doesn't show much intelligence (both mental and emotional), lack of maturity and it doesn't seem very respectful. Not sure I would want to be around that guy, ever.

 

Oh, thank goodness! Here I was thinking that I was weird!

You're just being insecure and neurotic, there.

"I love you because I know no different!"



flashpoint_1230 on 28 March 2011
Xen said:
flashpoint_1230 said:
Xen said:
flashpoint_1230 said:
Xen said:
flashpoint_1230 said:
Xen said:

^The sooner you realise that love isn't a necessity for sex and virginity isn't for your wife, the better.

Of course it's not a requirement (otherwise premarital sex wouldn't exist), but then it just degenerates into hedonism, doesn't it? And what is virginity for, then?

If it's not meant to be saved for your spouse, then who's to say that extramarital or multiple partners is unethical and unsanctioned? If it were ethical, then STDs wouldn't exist, would they? How else do you get them?

Hedonism? I view having sex as an exploration of my own sexuality rather than just another way to enjoy myself, I don't lack these... it is something that helps you to get to know your partner as well... a personality reflects in it.

As for the other comment, once you commit, you commit. That's what makes it unethical and traitorous if you sleep around.

Sooo.... okay. Exploration of sexuality. Fine. But why would a person need to explore with another person so early in life? Doesn't sex require you to give yourself up emotionally to another person? Unless, as I said, you're doing it for pleasure's sake, in which case it degenerates into hedonism.

Anyway, even if sex allows you to grow more intimate with a partner, don't you want to get to know your partner before any activity occurs, rather than depending on a sexual encounter to define a person?

So... are you basically saying that sex with other people is fine until you commit? After that, you're stuck? Because that's just... I mean, imagine getting married and then telling someone on your honeymoon, "Oh, hey, I've already had sex with 4 people, by the way." Not real fair.

Huh? It's perfectly fair. So what if you partner had sex with 4 people prior to you? The fact that you two got married shows that you two are ready to leave that behind and commit only to eachother. Marriage is based on trust in eachother as well as taking the bad in with the good. Is that something that should really stop you from marrying the person you love? Hell no.

In sex you can see things that do not normally show, that's why I even made that remark. Of course it's better if everything was available for you without it.

And yeah, again, sex with others is fine until you decide to settle down and are fixed on that you found your partner for life. If you have problems with the fact that your partner isn't a virgin or if he/she has the same problem with you, you two do not trust eachother enough, and do not have enough understanding on an emotional level.

Yes, but marriage isn't about completely ignoring the bad. Take the bad with the good, fine. But there's no possible way that you could ignore it. There's always that fear of "what if they're comparing me to past partners?" If either one of you has an experience where you can look back and know what sex is like, then wouldn't your mind automatically skip to that? You wouldn't be able to focus solely on the experience between you and your spouse. It's not fair to either of you.

 

lolita said:

 

These. I admire people who chose to wait instead of having meaningless sex.

I really want to facepalm at the guys who think they need to do it before 20 otherwise it's weird. Really? Dudes, that doesn't make you attractive... AT ALL. I'm a women and I know what I like and really dislike. If a guy slept around or had sex just cause he thinks it's cool, to me it is quite repulsive, doesn't show much intelligence (both mental and emotional), lack of maturity and it doesn't seem very respectful. Not sure I would want to be around that guy, ever.

 

Oh, thank goodness! Here I was thinking that I was weird!

You're just being insecure and neurotic, there.

"I love you because I know no different!"

Okay, fine. I guess so. I guess we just have differing viewpoints on the matter.



Xen on 28 March 2011
flashpoint_1230 said:
Xen said:
flashpoint_1230 said:
Xen said:
flashpoint_1230 said:
Xen said:
flashpoint_1230 said:
Xen said:

^The sooner you realise that love isn't a necessity for sex and virginity isn't for your wife, the better.

Of course it's not a requirement (otherwise premarital sex wouldn't exist), but then it just degenerates into hedonism, doesn't it? And what is virginity for, then?

If it's not meant to be saved for your spouse, then who's to say that extramarital or multiple partners is unethical and unsanctioned? If it were ethical, then STDs wouldn't exist, would they? How else do you get them?

Hedonism? I view having sex as an exploration of my own sexuality rather than just another way to enjoy myself, I don't lack these... it is something that helps you to get to know your partner as well... a personality reflects in it.

As for the other comment, once you commit, you commit. That's what makes it unethical and traitorous if you sleep around.

Sooo.... okay. Exploration of sexuality. Fine. But why would a person need to explore with another person so early in life? Doesn't sex require you to give yourself up emotionally to another person? Unless, as I said, you're doing it for pleasure's sake, in which case it degenerates into hedonism.

Anyway, even if sex allows you to grow more intimate with a partner, don't you want to get to know your partner before any activity occurs, rather than depending on a sexual encounter to define a person?

So... are you basically saying that sex with other people is fine until you commit? After that, you're stuck? Because that's just... I mean, imagine getting married and then telling someone on your honeymoon, "Oh, hey, I've already had sex with 4 people, by the way." Not real fair.

Huh? It's perfectly fair. So what if you partner had sex with 4 people prior to you? The fact that you two got married shows that you two are ready to leave that behind and commit only to eachother. Marriage is based on trust in eachother as well as taking the bad in with the good. Is that something that should really stop you from marrying the person you love? Hell no.

In sex you can see things that do not normally show, that's why I even made that remark. Of course it's better if everything was available for you without it.

And yeah, again, sex with others is fine until you decide to settle down and are fixed on that you found your partner for life. If you have problems with the fact that your partner isn't a virgin or if he/she has the same problem with you, you two do not trust eachother enough, and do not have enough understanding on an emotional level.

Yes, but marriage isn't about completely ignoring the bad. Take the bad with the good, fine. But there's no possible way that you could ignore it. There's always that fear of "what if they're comparing me to past partners?" If either one of you has an experience where you can look back and know what sex is like, then wouldn't your mind automatically skip to that? You wouldn't be able to focus solely on the experience between you and your spouse. It's not fair to either of you.

 

lolita said:

 

These. I admire people who chose to wait instead of having meaningless sex.

I really want to facepalm at the guys who think they need to do it before 20 otherwise it's weird. Really? Dudes, that doesn't make you attractive... AT ALL. I'm a women and I know what I like and really dislike. If a guy slept around or had sex just cause he thinks it's cool, to me it is quite repulsive, doesn't show much intelligence (both mental and emotional), lack of maturity and it doesn't seem very respectful. Not sure I would want to be around that guy, ever.

 

Oh, thank goodness! Here I was thinking that I was weird!

You're just being insecure and neurotic, there.

"I love you because I know no different!"

Okay, fine. I guess so. I guess we just have differing viewpoints on the matter.

Clearly ;)